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Life Bite Series. The Chameleon Effect is when you try to be everything to everybody to please them or fit in. The problem however with being everything to everyone is that you end up being nothing to yourself and ultimately a disappointment to everyone else as well as they never see the real until it is too late, then they feel let down. People must love you for who you are and not what you think they wold like to see or make up some fictitious character that is not you then you do one thing and that is deceive yourself.

Life Bite Series. It may seem strange but many people live their life as a product of what others think or say or have advised them quite strongly to take. There is but one solution and that is to live your life the best way you can taking into account your mentality, your likes and dislikes, all the little things that make you tick and anything else, after all that is you. As well meaning as others may be (or not) you still have to follow your own pathway as no one else can ever do it for you.

Do you live your of life of your own accord or do you live it because others have directed you or put pressure on to you to live it in a certain way? Many people actually live a life with a constancy of saying "If I do this so and so will get upset" so they don't do what they want to do. That's not acceptable living in the footprint or fear of possibly upsetting someone else.

Life Bites Series. It is important that we prioritise certain aspects of our lives otherwise we never get anything done or it happens in the wrong way. Similarly we need an agenda too, even if it is just something simple at the back of our mind. It's when we have negative or subversive or hidden agendas or others in their own way do that so to "use" us to further their cause. Those that stroll through life rarely get anything grand done and often wonder how others manage.

Life Bite Series. Love is the single most important element / state / emotion that the human race has. Take love away and we are no better than drones or robots. Where pure love exists there is no evil whatsoever, why would there be. Where conditional love exists like in Islam then there is forever upheaval and unrest and mortification. We need love to exist and we need people to love and we need to be loved too, whether it is a significant other or just a very good friend it matters not, we need that bond.

Life Bite Series. No matter how knowledgeable we are or interested in life, in the grand order of things we know very little. It is this understanding that we can have that can allow for 1000's of things to materialize for our advantage. Often we strive - and rightly - for what we know, but we should always be open for what we don't know as that can be so much better and be the exact things we seek in life. Taking second best because of ignorance is not smart.

Life Bites Series. We need dreams and aspirations in life no matter what they are to give us the impetus towards better things. We need to aspire at times even if it appears sheer fantasy because that allows our minds to work unheeded and unfettered by logic and material constraints. It can be a bit of a "downer" coming back to the reality of life from our luxurious dreams and aspirations but they are our dreams and our aspirations and they are what they are and are very pride to us also.

Life Bites Series. Self Esteem is vitally important for without it we can lose out on a lot in life including our jobs and allowing ourselves to be happy. Self esteem is what we think about ourselves and our standing in life. It's not being arrogant it is understanding who we are which is totally different and it also puts into place our standing and relationship with others and life itself. We are all different and there isn't such a thing as "one size fits all" but we have to understand where we are placed.

Life Bite Series. We all at times go through some sort of struggle. It doesn't matter what it is, to us it is very real and we feel very much the implication of what that struggle means to us. Our struggle may be greater or lesser than those around us but that serves no place in how we feel nor how we deal with it. The good news is that we are far more resilient than we think we are and we overcome it all and come out the other end ready to join life on better terms than before, even if in somewhat different ways.

Life Bite Series. Loneliness can be very debilitating. You can feel lonely right in the middle of a bunch of friends and family that love you. You don't have to isolated to be lonely. However the most common cause of loneliness is a degree of selfishness, a selfishness that thinks of oneself more than sharing with others. It can even become habitual and self consuming so that one lives in a bubble of "all about me" and then starts to feel that "I can't be bothered" or "it will be late" or "An excuse here" and so on.

Life Bites Series. Selfishness is not a very nice trait to have. The result of selfishness can lead to loneliness, illness, being cranky, having no friends, missing out in life, isolation and disrespecting yourself. Strangely enough it is selfish people that think they are generous and the generous think they haven't given enough. Selfish people always stand back in life unless something is free then they are at the head of queue, they become mean and calculating in everything they do.

Life Bites Series. Relationships of all sorts whether they are personal friends, acquaintances, work colleagues, neighbours or those significant others need working on. You cannot take any relationship for granted then expect it to stay the same forever, it just doesn't exist. A relationship is give and take, it doesn't have to be 50/50 it can even be 90/10 provided it equals 100 then it is a success.

Life Bites Series. Happiness should be with us 24/7, even if it isn't at full steam it should be with us otherwise it means we are looking at the darker side of life which will not do. Postponing Happiness is when we chose some other point in life such as a holiday or when the children go back to school or whatever it is so that after that event all will be fine.

One has to try and enjoy each day and offer no excuses as to why that can't be accomplished. Granted some days are heavy with certain burdens in life that we have to endure, but making them a feature of our lives is purely for the pathetic and stupid. We shouldn't "Postpone Happiness" either, saying that in the future things will get better or look forward to a future date - even if it is valid in itself. Every day is part of our life and we should, as such, make the best of it and be positive. If we start to make excuses as to why we aren't happy then we are on the slippery slope downhill.

Life Bite Series. Blame culture is relatively new, although blame itself is as old as the hills. If we are to make anything from our lives and gain respect we should be able to accept what is and not make excuses as to why it isn't the way it should be or the way we would like it. Life will rarely be the way we want it to be, which doesn't mean that it can't be better. But blaming others who have no control over you or even know you exist is stupid.

Life Bite Series. Being generous is not about wealth, although it could be at times. It is about "giving" of yourself to friends, family and others. It speaks volumes about you and the type of person you are. Giving of your time, experience, knowledge, love, compassion, understanding, listening (an art today as everyone wants to speak), etc. In short helping others.

Life Bites Series. We all get good fortune and at times not so good fortune thrust upon us, how we react and what we make of it is down to us. The vast majority of Lottery winners lose their money from silly spending within 5 years so with good things comes a responsibility and knowledge and not just acting like children in a sweetshop eating all in sight then getting sick very quickly.

Life Bite Series. Our Attitude is a culmination of how we think and feel as well as our perceptions in life. We are viewed by our attitude as we view others by theirs. Our attitude can make us or break us. Good attitudes always come out on top bad attitudes do quite the opposite. The good news is that you control your attitude so you can make it good at any time you wish. This concise 6 min bite deals with just that.

Life Bite Series. Happiness is something that we all have within us, it is nowhere else in life. Despite endless books and CD's and such like happiness is well within our control, farming it out or outsourcing it is a stupid thing to do. Thinking that "out there" someone has the key to happiness is like admitting you are already brain dead. Life may not be swimmingly fabulous every day but that doesn't negate the fact that you have to be unhappy either, unless of course you choose to do so.

Life Bite Series. Bereavement is going to hit us all at some point in our lives. It is the one inevtiable thing that's guaranteed. How we think of death is partly due to our religion and the stilted morbid way that we have been taught about it. Yet if you believe in God then death is not that bad. If "love" was in the equation then it still existes even after death (escept in Islam where love is purely conditional).