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Life Bite Series. The Chameleon Effect is when you try to be everything to everybody to please them or fit in. The problem however with being everything to everyone is that you end up being nothing to yourself and ultimately a disappointment to everyone else as well as they never see the real until it is too late, then they feel let down. People must love you for who you are and not what you think they wold like to see or make up some fictitious character that is not you then you do one thing and that is deceive yourself.

Life Bite Series. The Mind Gremlins are those little creatures that live in the dark places in your mind and when you feel stressed, anxious, worries etc they come out to play. There is nothing they like more than dancing the night away to your negativity, booging to your insecurity, discoing to your fears and just having a good time whilst you stare at the bedroom ceiling all night, turning over and over and worrying about everything that comes into view. What do you do to stop it all and get a good night's sleep.

Life Bite Series. It may seem strange but many people live their life as a product of what others think or say or have advised them quite strongly to take. There is but one solution and that is to live your life the best way you can taking into account your mentality, your likes and dislikes, all the little things that make you tick and anything else, after all that is you. As well meaning as others may be (or not) you still have to follow your own pathway as no one else can ever do it for you.

Do you live your of life of your own accord or do you live it because others have directed you or put pressure on to you to live it in a certain way? Many people actually live a life with a constancy of saying "If I do this so and so will get upset" so they don't do what they want to do. That's not acceptable living in the footprint or fear of possibly upsetting someone else.

Life Bites Series. It is important that we prioritise certain aspects of our lives otherwise we never get anything done or it happens in the wrong way. Similarly we need an agenda too, even if it is just something simple at the back of our mind. It's when we have negative or subversive or hidden agendas or others in their own way do that so to "use" us to further their cause. Those that stroll through life rarely get anything grand done and often wonder how others manage.

Life Bite Series. Love is the single most important element / state / emotion that the human race has. Take love away and we are no better than drones or robots. Where pure love exists there is no evil whatsoever, why would there be. Where conditional love exists like in Islam then there is forever upheaval and unrest and mortification. We need love to exist and we need people to love and we need to be loved too, whether it is a significant other or just a very good friend it matters not, we need that bond.

Life Bite Series. No matter how knowledgeable we are or interested in life, in the grand order of things we know very little. It is this understanding that we can have that can allow for 1000's of things to materialize for our advantage. Often we strive - and rightly - for what we know, but we should always be open for what we don't know as that can be so much better and be the exact things we seek in life. Taking second best because of ignorance is not smart.

Life Bites Series. Self Esteem is vitally important for without it we can lose out on a lot in life including our jobs and allowing ourselves to be happy. Self esteem is what we think about ourselves and our standing in life. It's not being arrogant it is understanding who we are which is totally different and it also puts into place our standing and relationship with others and life itself. We are all different and there isn't such a thing as "one size fits all" but we have to understand where we are placed.

Life Bite Series. We all at times go through some sort of struggle. It doesn't matter what it is, to us it is very real and we feel very much the implication of what that struggle means to us. Our struggle may be greater or lesser than those around us but that serves no place in how we feel nor how we deal with it. The good news is that we are far more resilient than we think we are and we overcome it all and come out the other end ready to join life on better terms than before, even if in somewhat different ways.

Life Bite Series. Loneliness can be very debilitating. You can feel lonely right in the middle of a bunch of friends and family that love you. You don't have to isolated to be lonely. However the most common cause of loneliness is a degree of selfishness, a selfishness that thinks of oneself more than sharing with others. It can even become habitual and self consuming so that one lives in a bubble of "all about me" and then starts to feel that "I can't be bothered" or "it will be late" or "An excuse here" and so on.

Life Bites Series. Selfishness is not a very nice trait to have. The result of selfishness can lead to loneliness, illness, being cranky, having no friends, missing out in life, isolation and disrespecting yourself. Strangely enough it is selfish people that think they are generous and the generous think they haven't given enough. Selfish people always stand back in life unless something is free then they are at the head of queue, they become mean and calculating in everything they do.

Life Bites Series. Relationships of all sorts whether they are personal friends, acquaintances, work colleagues, neighbours or those significant others need working on. You cannot take any relationship for granted then expect it to stay the same forever, it just doesn't exist. A relationship is give and take, it doesn't have to be 50/50 it can even be 90/10 provided it equals 100 then it is a success.

One has to try and enjoy each day and offer no excuses as to why that can't be accomplished. Granted some days are heavy with certain burdens in life that we have to endure, but making them a feature of our lives is purely for the pathetic and stupid. We shouldn't "Postpone Happiness" either, saying that in the future things will get better or look forward to a future date - even if it is valid in itself. Every day is part of our life and we should, as such, make the best of it and be positive. If we start to make excuses as to why we aren't happy then we are on the slippery slope downhill.

Life Bite Series. Being generous is not about wealth, although it could be at times. It is about "giving" of yourself to friends, family and others. It speaks volumes about you and the type of person you are. Giving of your time, experience, knowledge, love, compassion, understanding, listening (an art today as everyone wants to speak), etc. In short helping others.

Life Bite Series. Religions are a construct of God, whichever God you worship. God is the ultime in love. Where love exists there is no evil, it just can't be there in any form. If you worship a God that has evil and killing then ask yourself what is the Devil supposed to do? Religions have been amended, altered, changed, added to over the years and are now commercial aspects of God rather than what God offers.

Life Bites Series. We all get good fortune and at times not so good fortune thrust upon us, how we react and what we make of it is down to us. The vast majority of Lottery winners lose their money from silly spending within 5 years so with good things comes a responsibility and knowledge and not just acting like children in a sweetshop eating all in sight then getting sick very quickly.

Life Bite Series. Our Attitude is a culmination of how we think and feel as well as our perceptions in life. We are viewed by our attitude as we view others by theirs. Our attitude can make us or break us. Good attitudes always come out on top bad attitudes do quite the opposite. The good news is that you control your attitude so you can make it good at any time you wish. This concise 6 min bite deals with just that.

Life Bite Series. Bereavement is going to hit us all at some point in our lives. It is the one inevtiable thing that's guaranteed. How we think of death is partly due to our religion and the stilted morbid way that we have been taught about it. Yet if you believe in God then death is not that bad. If "love" was in the equation then it still existes even after death (escept in Islam where love is purely conditional).

Life Bite Series. A Concise look how if not careful we can become embroyled with our circumstances and let them control us as opposed to allowing ourselves to control ourselves regardless of the circumstances. It's often an easy option to blame circumstances or hide behind them as an easy opt out of doing something in life. But it all holds "no water". We should be in control of what we do as circumstances can change in a flash.

We all get let down from time to time. Sometimes it is inevitable because of circumstances; other times it is because it is a deliberate action. Either way it is not very nice, although it is even worse when someone lets you down for purely selfish reasons. How we react other than being disappointed is literally down to us. Our thoughts and feelings come from the selfsame place; happiness and sadness come from the same brain. We need to respect ourselves and seek only the positive areas of life. Dwelling on being let down will only hurt you more than necessary.