Episode 14 of the Encouraging cup podcast.

" I'll take a wonderful life "

Life does not have to be perfect to still be wonderful.

What is 'perfect'? That's beyond us. What about a wonderful life? That could be a stretch too. But Wayne offers a bunch of thoughts, reflections and suggestions that can help us recognise things in our lifes that are actually quite good.

He invites a realistic yet postive and encouraging perspective.

Dark days need light. Even a tiny bit of light can encourage us. One positive thought. Even a prayer. That helps me.

Episode Summary Show Notes:

• Wayne begins by reflecting on a familiar and empowering quote: "The opinions of others do not determine your worth."
• Many people, especially those who are sensitive or empathetic, struggle not just with what others think—but with what they imagine others might be thinking.
• He explores the roots of this insecurity: social pressure, fear of rejection, past experiences, and even distorted media narratives.
• Wayne distinguishes between helpful feedback and harmful judgment. While we can learn from others, he reminds us that no one truly knows us completely—so no one else's opinion can ever fully define us.
• He shares personal examples of owning his limitations (like accounting or mechanical tasks) without shame, and affirms that weakness in one area does not erase worth.
• Drawing on Christian faith, Wayne emphasizes that ultimate value comes from being created and loved by God. Regardless of our past, performance, or others’ opinions, we are inherently valuable in His eyes.
• He speaks compassionately to listeners who may have grown up in discouraging or emotionally neglectful environments, encouraging them to hear a new, truer message: You are worth more than how others have treated you.
• The episode closes with an invitation to reframe inner criticism, to receive feedback without losing a sense of self, and to speak to ourselves with kindness and truth.
• A key takeaway: Your value is a gift, not a reward. And it's rooted not in public approval, but in being known and loved by God.

Episode 11 of seaon one.

In this Encouraging Cup podcast Wayne takes up a simple message, from one of the stickers that randomly appear on the Coffee van cups he serves. It's this: "Give yourself permission to slow down and enjoy something nice today." There's a reference to the classic Australian movie 'The Castle' and an invitation to notice something we can enjoy, that we all have, that is very simple indeed.

The episode ends abruptly, so take it as an opportunity to try out the suggestions in this encouraging episode.

Cheers.

S1 Ep10 Embrace Progress Over Perfection

This episode invites us to reflect on the challenge of perfectionism and its impact on productivity and creativity. The benefits of taking action, acknowledging the value in what we can already do, and supporting oneself through imperfections. Wayne advocates for a balanced approach that values quality but recognizes the value of incremental progress.

00:00 Introduction: Embracing Progress Over Perfection

00:03 Struggles with Perfectionism

01:51 The Importance of Action

03:06 Balancing High Standards and Self-Compassion

05:28 Overcoming Perfectionism

08:10 Practical Advice for Progress

11:26 Conclusion: Progress, Not Perfection

Series 1 episode 9 of the Encouraging Cup podcast.

The Stories We Tell Ourselves

What kind of stories are you telling yourself? In this episode, we explore the power of self-talk—how the stories we repeat in our minds can either lift us up or hold us back. I share my own struggles with negative storytelling and the challenge of feeling "good enough" to encourage others.

Together, we'll ask: ✔ Are our inner stories true? ✔ Are they kind? ✔ Are they necessary?

We’ll also talk about how to balance realism with hope, why perfectionism can silence us, and how shifting our narratives can open doors we never thought possible.

Tune in for a gentle nudge toward self-encouragement—because the stories we tell ourselves matter!

☕ Listen now and be encouraged.

Encouraging Cup Podcast episode 8

January, 2025 Show Notes: "Choices: Aligning Decisions with Values"

Episode Summary In this episode, we explore the power of choices as we begin a new year. It’s a time to reflect on our goals, values, and the steps required to create a life aligned with who we truly are. We discuss how fear often influences decisions, the importance of making congruent and committed choices, and the courage it takes to face discomfort as a sign of growth.

Key Points:

• The Power of Choices: Every decision shapes who we are more than our abilities. Small daily actions compound to help achieve long-term goals.
• Values-Driven Decisions: Choices are a reflection of what we value, but fear can sometimes misalign our actions with our core beliefs.
• Fear vs. Growth: Fear often drives “safe” decisions, but these may not serve us. Embrace fear as a potential indicator of meaningful opportunities or growth.
• Learning Through Action: Trying and failing provides valuable feedback, not failure. Choosing action over inaction is vital for progress.
• Aligned Commitments: A congruent, committed decision aligns with our values and long-term goals. These intentional choices help us become the person we aspire to be.
• Daily Steps Matter: Focus on incremental progress by identifying small, manageable actions that lead to larger outcomes.
• Empowerment in Ownership: Ultimately, the responsibility for our lives lies with us. Aligning decisions with who we are ensures a fulfilling and purposeful life.

Quotes from the Episode:

• "Our choices show what we truly are far more than our abilities."
• "Most people don’t choose what they want; they choose what they think is safe."
• "Your life changes the moment you make a new congruent and committed decision."

Reflection Questions for Listeners:

1. Are your recent choices aligned with your values and long-term goals?
2. How often does fear influence your decisions?
3. What small step can you take today toward your larger goal?

Action Step: Reflect on one area of your life where fear might be holding you back. Identify a small, courageous action you can take to move forward.

The podcast ends with this simple question: "What is it that you really want?"

Fall Down Seven Times, Stand Up Eight

In this episode of the Encouraging Cup podcast, we delve into the powerful saying: 'Fall down seven times and stand up eight.'

Reflecting on resilience and a daily choice to get back up, after setbacks. Success doesn't meant never failing. Maybe the road to success needs a lot of trial and error... learning, growing, persevering. Small steps, micro wins are worth celebrating.

Consider the process of learning to walk. It can take a while, but we keep trying. We can get curious about self-sabotage. We can be crushed by an inner critic, but maybe there's a way of letting that critic share helpful info with us, without feeling put down.

00:00 Introduction to the Encouraging Cup Podcast

00:22 Defining Success: Getting Up One More Time

00:51 Assessing When to Give Up

01:29 The Importance of Perseverance

02:02 Personal Reflections on Falling Down

04:05 Learning to Walk: A Metaphor for Life

10:01 The Role of the Inner Critic and Cheerleader

13:29 Encouragement to Keep Going

15:22 Conclusion: let the snowboarding kid inspire you!

Here's a video of a mic'd up little snowboarder, enjoy!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MV3FoyrFu5k