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  • wnrs wednesdays: justifying naps, passions, and FaceTiming friends

    wnrs wednesdays: justifying naps, passions, and FaceTiming friends
    Jan 7 2026

    It’s 2026 and it’s the very first episode of we’re not really strangers wednesday! whoooo~! I had so much fun recording this episode and I hope y’all have fun listening to it as well <33

    song of the week: take my mind - WizTheMC and bees & honey

    • Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/album/5Jrwoi3hNDkcSVJisOQFAP?si=Ge482qO-Rry0JYgYSHpyhw
    • Apple Music: https://music.apple.com/us/album/take-my-mind/1822793963?i=1822794234
    • Youtube: https://youtu.be/UAepuqX-StE?si=XuGLcKIuB3XnKyVH
    • Soundcloud: https://on.soundcloud.com/P8VxaixKjtGzoBpDLD

    0:00 - weekly check-in + song of the week

    4:52 - Card #1 (justifying naps)

    8:18 - Card #2 (passions)

    11:32 - Card #3 (FaceTiming friends)

    16:00 - Outro

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    18 min
  • note on: reflections, resolutions, and getting shit done

    note on: reflections, resolutions, and getting shit done
    Jan 4 2026
    Welcome to 2026 and the first episode of the new year! This episode is all about reflections, resolutions, and getting shit done. Whether you're sitting with your journal reflecting on 2025 or mapping out your intentions for 2026, this episode walks you through the entire process: from thoughtful journal prompts that help you process the year (the joys, the challenges, and the lovely things), to the psychology and neuroscience behind achieving your goals (we're talking about the reticular activating system, your brain's built-in goal GPS!), to practical strategies that I've personally used over the years to stick to my goals and make things happen.For my eldest daughters specifically, we’ll touch on saying no and boundary-setting, because the truth is that all the goal-setting in the world means nothing if you haven't established and maintained boundaries to protect your time, energy, and well-being. We're talking about how saying no to requests that aren't yours to carry is actually saying YES to your own goals and how the space you create through boundaries is where your dreams actually get to grow. If you haven't listened to that boundaries episode yet, definitely go back to it after this one; both episodes work well together!Finally, I end on some verbal and visual practices: affirmations, gratitude journaling, brain dumps, and vision boarding techniques (fun fact: 80% of what I've put on my vision boards has come true!) that you can start implementing in the new year and beyond!“note on: saying no and boundaries 101”:Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/0NSGllicz3y4qii4sQgFhX?si=3l72iPqTTlW3_nE2syQ26gApple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/notes-from-an-eldest-daughter/id1827173315?i=1000730687732Recommended Readings:Locke & Latham: Goal-Setting Theory: Locke, E. A., & Latham, G. P. (2013). Goal setting theory, 1990. In E. A. Locke & G. P. Latham (Eds.), New developments in goal setting and task performance (pp. 3–15). Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group. ⁠https://doi.org/10.4324/9780203082744⁠Oscarsson et al. (2020): Approach vs. Avoidance Goals Study: Oscarsson, M., Carlbring, P., Andersson, G., & Rozental, A. (2020). A large-scale experiment on New Year's resolutions: Approach-oriented goals are more successful than avoidance-oriented goals. PloS one, 15(12), e0234097. https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0234097Lally et al. (2010): 66-Day Habit Formation Study: Lally, P., van Jaarsveld, C. H. M., Potts, H. W. W., & Wardle, J. (2010). How are habits formed: Modelling habit formation in the real world. European Journal of Social Psychology, 40(6), 998–1009. ⁠https://doi.org/10.1002/ejsp.674⁠Stevens & Hening (2007): Neuroanatomy of RAS: Suzanne Stevens, Wayne A. Hening, Chapter 2 - Sleep and Wakefulness, Editor(s): Christopher G. Goetz, Textbook of Clinical Neurology (Third Edition), W.B. Saunders, 2007, Pages 21-33, ISBN 9781416036180, ⁠https://doi.org/10.1016/B978-141603618-0.10002-5⁠.NCBI StatPearls: Reticular Activating System: Arguinchona JH, Tadi P. Neuroanatomy, Reticular Activating System. [Updated 2023 Jul 24]. In: StatPearls [Internet]. Treasure Island (FL): StatPearls Publishing; 2025 Jan-. Available from: ⁠https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK549835/⁠0:00 - note on intro2:00 - reflections [personal and general]7:25 - Reflections for 2025 journal prompts12:20 - Resolutions for 2026 journal prompts17:14 - science of goal setting (psychology + neuroscience)28:10 - the eldest daughter relationship with goals, accomplishments, and requests32:15 - practical tips and tricks for goal setting41:30 - outroConnect With Me: Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@eldestdaughternotesInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/eldestdaughternotes/Substack: https://substack.com/@eldestdaughternotes?utm_campaign=profile&utm_medium=profile-pageEmail (Business Purposes ONLY): eldestdaughternotes@gmail.com
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    42 min
  • wnrs wednesdays: the new years eve edition

    wnrs wednesdays: the new years eve edition
    Dec 31 2025

    The last ‘we’re not really strangers Wednesday’s’ episode of 2025! Thank you so much for tuning in for the past few months and being part of this community; couldn’t have done this without y’all <333 As always, thank you to all those who’ve been supporting the podcast; it truly means the world 🫶🏾

    0:00 - weekly check-in + song of the week

    1:48 - Card #1 (reconnection)

    6:12 - Card #2 (love)

    09:28 - Card #3 (compliments)

    11:35 - Outro

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    12 min
  • wnrs wednesdays - favorite media of 2025

    wnrs wednesdays - favorite media of 2025
    Dec 24 2025

    Decided to do a thing; a 2025 year in review episode~! Talked about my favorite media from this past year as well as what I’m looking forward to in 2026. Summer fun episode (despite being sick). As always, thank you to all those who’ve been supporting the podcast; it truly means a lot to me 🫶🏾

    0:00 - weekly check-in + song of the week

    2:50 - favorite albums + future albums

    27:29 - favorite movies and shows

    36:48 - favorite books

    42:07 - favorite content creators

    47:33 - outro

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    48 min
  • wnrs wednesdays: crying in public, exes, and deleting social media

    wnrs wednesdays: crying in public, exes, and deleting social media
    Dec 17 2025

    from crying at a target to snapping for the streak, we explore some more wnrs cards in this week's episode of ‘we’re not really strangers Wednesday’s’! Truly had so much fun recording this episode and I hope y'all enjoy listening to it as much as I enjoyed recording it. As always, thank you to all those who’ve been supporting the podcast; it truly means the world 🫶🏾


    0:00 - weekly check-in + song of the week

    1:59 - Card #1 (crying in public)

    7:38 - Card #2 (exes)

    13:02 - Card #3 (deleting social media)

    16:43 - Outro

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    18 min
  • wnrs wednesdays: cheating, singledom, and dinner with exes

    wnrs wednesdays: cheating, singledom, and dinner with exes
    Dec 10 2025

    Another episode of ‘we’re not really strangers Wednesday’s’! Truly enjoyed recording this episode; thank y’all for your support with the podcast! Couldn’t do Spotify Wrapped for Creators without y’all <3 As always, thank you to all those who’ve been supporting the podcast; it truly means the world 🫶🏾

    “Dear Future Wifey” podcast:

    • Olay and Friends episode: https://youtu.be/PF_3WFqg0pM?si=ZZpkZnMhJcs1z0eP
    • KennieJD: https://youtu.be/Esy6eUsviJI?si=4SCFlr_mE_MZOKmx

    0:00 - weekly check-in + song of the week + spotify wrapped!

    7:10 - Card #1 (cheating)

    14:24 - Card #2 (singledom)

    20:22 - Card #3 (dinner with exes)

    23:48 - Outro

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    24 min
  • wnrs wednesdays: nudes, first dates, and being ghosted

    wnrs wednesdays: nudes, first dates, and being ghosted
    Dec 3 2025

    Another episode of ‘we’re not really strangers wednesday’s’! Truly enjoyed recording this episode; starting off the very cold month of December well with this episode! The weather is getting colder and the sun is setting sooner than desired, but wnrsw continues on! As always, thank you to all those who’ve been supporting the podcast; it truly means the world to me 🫶🏾

    • Song of the week: Shallow - Magnolia Park:
    • https://on.soundcloud.com/Ny4oJQNCtVHwQ3ninL
    • https://music.apple.com/us/album/shallow-single/1750265079
    • https://open.spotify.com/album/6Cor4gZH5ANpH8OSuyH3a3?si=Le2-TFCzRSGtkmAks-Hr9Q
    • https://youtu.be/XpHwOf3IkGU?si=ueFmd6wGRwQjclla

    0:00 - song of the week + briefly weekly

    3:10 - Card #1 (nudes)

    5:43 - Card #2 (first dates)

    7:48 - Card #3 (being ghosted)

    12:25 - Outro

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    13 min
  • note on: developing and practicing self-advocacy

    note on: developing and practicing self-advocacy
    Nov 27 2025

    Recommended Readings: Gilligan, C. (1982). In a different voice: Psychological theory and women's development. Harvard University Press. 2. Clance, P. R., & Imes, S. A. (1978). The imposter phenomenon in high achieving women: Dynamics and therapeutic intervention. Psychotherapy: Theory, Research & Practice, 15(3), 241-247. 3. Sue, D. W., Capodilupo, C. M., Torino, G. C., Bucceri, J. M., Holder, A., Nadal, K. L., & Esquilin, M. (2007). Racial microaggressions in everyday life. American Psychologist, 62(4), 271-286. Chapters:

    1:32 - Personal journey with self-advocacy

    5:30 - Psychology of self-advocacy

    8:19 - The Eldest Daughter + Immigrant/Collectivist Culture Layer

    11:13 - Journal prompts for self-advocacy

    12:10 - Tips and tricks for developing your self-advocacy muscle

    16:00 - challenge of the week + affirmations

    22:13 - Outro
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    23 min