We say we want authenticity — but when people actually show up as themselves, it often makes others uncomfortable.

In this episode of Your Critical Crush, I talk about why authenticity is so often misread as intensity, how performative behavior shows up in dating and friendships, and what it really costs us when we prioritize being seen over being felt.

From being told “you’re a lot” on dates, to navigating social spaces where everyone’s performing and no one’s connecting, this is a conversation about emotional availability, compatibility, and why imperfection is often where real intimacy begins.

This episode isn’t about fixing yourself — it’s about understanding what your authenticity reveals, and who it naturally filters out.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why authenticity makes people uncomfortable
• The difference between intensity and emotional availability
• Being told “you’re a lot” and what that really means
• How performative socializing kills connection
• Why slow burns without vulnerability lose depth
• Choosing compatibility over shrinking yourself

Segments:

• Let’s Get Critical
• Talk You Through It
• Crush • Crave • Crash
• The Critical QuestionI

In this episode of Your Critical Crush, Jay unpacks ghosting, emotional availability, and what we expect from each other in a hyper-accessible world. We talk about when distance can be valid, when silence becomes harmful, and how identity fatigue, capacity, and communication shape modern relationships — with friends, family, and lovers. This conversation is about clarity over guilt, boundaries over avoidance, and learning how to pull back without disappearing.

New Year, Not “New You” — What Resolutions Really Say About You

Every January, we’re told to reinvent ourselves — new habits, new goals, new versions of who we’re supposed to become. But what if the pressure to “be new” is actually distracting us from who we already are?

In this first episode of Your Critical Crush, I get into what New Year’s resolutions really reveal about our identity, our self-trust, and the way we approach change. From the difference between intention and performance to how growth actually happens over time, this episode is a grounded conversation about becoming more honest with ourselves — without the gimmicks.

This isn’t about becoming someone else.
It’s about becoming more you.

🧠 WHAT WE GET INTO

• Why “New Year, New You” doesn’t work for most people
• What resolutions quietly say about how we see ourselves
• Identity-based habits vs. pressure-based goals
• The difference between growth, discipline, and self-punishment
• Letting change be sustainable instead of dramatic

🧩 SEGMENTS IN THIS EPISODE

• Let’s Get Critical — reframing New Year expectations
• Talk You Through It — personal reflections on identity, habits, and growth
• Crush • Crave • Crash — what I’m loving, wanting, and side-eyeing right now
• The Critical Question — a question to sit with long after the episode ends

💬 STAY CONNECTED

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This is Your Critical Crush — where we keep it cute, candid, and connected.
I’m Jay Theo.
Let’s get critical.