Protecting your peace is more than self-care right now - it is strategy. From grief and public pressure to respectability politics, food insecurity, and the constant urge to react, Oneika and Pamela unpack what it really means to stay grounded when everything around you feels designed to pull you off center. They use Dolly Parton’s life as a powerful case study in quiet strength, generosity, and refusal to be managed by other people’s expectations. Her legacy opens a bigger conversation about simple wisdom, moving with grace, giving without fanfare, and refusing to let other people’s judgments define your choices. You'll hear them break down:

• why Dolly Parton’s public life is a masterclass in protecting your peace
• how respectability politics show up in conversations about bonnets, hair, clothing, and “presentability”
• the difference between being triggered and simply not liking something
• why mindfulness is not the same as fixing, controlling, or policing other people
• how to build peace through boundaries, nervous-system care, and real self-awareness

They also get practical about the everyday places where peace gets tested - family gatherings, movement spaces, holiday pressure, food choices, and even how you shop. Pamela and Oneika talk through why nuance matters, why local options and seasonal eating can reduce stress, and how protecting your peace sometimes means going no contact, masking, or choosing not to engage. This conversation is especially for anyone feeling overstimulated, politically exhausted, or tired of being told how to show up. If you’ve been trying to hold on through a noisy season, this episode offers both permission and perspective: protect what matters, release what doesn’t, and stop handing your power to everybody else. Perfect for listeners who want honest, thoughtful conversation about boundaries, embodiment, community, and staying sane in a chaotic world.

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When the weight of injustice, grief, and systemic exhaustion feels like too much, how do we keep moving—and still make room for real care and healing?

In a conversation that goes straight to the heart of Black endured trauma and collective resilience, Oneika and Pam face the brutal realities of racial violence, white supremacy, capitalism, and the toxic cycles that leave us drained and numb. They dig into how the veil of injustice is being pulled back, exposing hard truths about community, love, and the urgent need for radical self-care. This episode doesn't just talk around the issue; it's a call to action for anyone worn down by the relentless assault on Black bodies and consciousness.

You'll come away with a deeper sense of why community care matters, how unconditional love can steady us, and why dismantling oppressive systems has to start from within. These candid, vulnerable reflections push us to reconsider what justice really asks of us and invite us to imagine a future grounded in love, healing, and collective strength. You'll also hear stories of spontaneous kindness, strangers helping each other through the heat, and those quiet reminders that we aren't alone.

Oneika and Pam break down how capitalism, patriarchy, and colonization have shaped our identities and our ways of being in community, urging us to imagine new models built on love and sustainability. They underscore the need for nonprofit reform, healing practices, and the hard work of unlearning white supremacy's hold on our minds and hearts.

Perfect for activists, healing practitioners, wellness advocates, or anyone carrying the strain of systemic injustice, this episode invites you to embrace radical love and collective care as real tools for meaningful change. If you're ready to question the status quo, nourish your own well-being, and picture a better world, this conversation offers a blueprint for radical hope. Join Oneika and Pam as they move through fatigue and find, at the center of it all, a love that stretches beyond time, space, and systemic oppression. This is more than a podcast; it's a movement toward healing and liberation.

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What about your friends?

Join us as we dive into the complexities of friendship in our latest episode!

Discover how friendships evolve, the importance of communication, and the lessons learned from past experiences.

In this episode, we unpack what it means to be a good friend, how we maintain and nurture our friendships as we change and age, and how to face friendships when they experience challenges.

Key takeaways:

• The significance of valuing friendships and self-worth.
• Navigating changes in friendships over time.
• The role of vulnerability and honesty in deepening connections.
• How to handle conflicts and disagreements with friends.
• The impact of societal expectations on friendships.

We hope you consider how you show up in your friendships honestly and hope you feel inspired to check in on your friends - or to do some of the hard things.

Find Oneika's book at www.oneikamays.com

Find Pamela's book at www.yoga2sleep.com/you-are-the-pendulum/

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Your story is not just what happened to you. It’s the evidence that you made it through. When we survive our stories — when we name them, sit with them, and dare to share them — we become living proof for someone else that it’s possible. Survival isn’t just personal. It’s political. It’s communal. It’s how we pass the torch.

We are three Black women. Three different paths. One unwavering commitment — to the wellness and wholeness of our community. We have each walked through the doors of carceral settings, carrying healing into places the world too often forgets. We know what it means to show up for people society has written off. And we know what it costs.

Our guest Bre Scullark walked away from the spotlight of America’s Next Top Model and toward something she couldn’t ignore — the call to heal. As a trauma specialist, yoga instructor, and public health educator at Rikers Island, she has built sanctuaries inside some of the hardest walls in this city.

What we loved most was Bre’s unwavering dedication to showing up as herself. She is a light, a fire, and an ocean of truth.

We’re talking toxic environments — work, family, relationships, the voice inside your own head. Somatic wisdom, recognizing poison before it takes root, and finding the joy that actually sustains you. You won’t want to miss this one.

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Pamela and Oneika chat about religion, faith and spirituality - how they intersect, what they mean to them, and how they can be used in healing and wellness. ENJOY the episode!!

Check out Oneika’s book, Sit With Me.

Check out Pamela’s book, You Are the Pendulum.

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We need art! To get US through these hard times, to settle our nervous systems, to nourish our souls.

How does art support YOUR wellness? Let us know, and enjoy the episode!

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Reference: Sit With Me: A No-BS Journey to Mindfulness and Meditation, by Oneika Mays (https://www.oneikamays.com/)

Reference: You Are the Pendulum: Poems and Practices for an Unsettling World, by Pamela Stokes Eggleston (https://www.yoga2sleep.com/you-are-the-pendulum/)

Reference: My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies, by Resmaa Menakem (https://resmaa.com/)

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Welcome to the "You Good?" Podcast with Pamela and Oneika! This is our first episode, and we are so delighted to have you take this journey with US!

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