Have you ever found yourself saying “yes” when every fiber of your body is begging you to say “no”? In this episode, I sit down with Margarita Kogan, a licensed clinical social worker and founder of Honor and Heal, to unpack the true cost of self-abandonment and how midlife isn’t about “reinventing” yourself, but about rediscovering who you really are.

We dive deep into the ways we lose ourselves under the weight of expectations, people-pleasing, and burnout. Margarita shares how to listen to your body’s wisdom, regulate your nervous system, and find your most authentic self not with a drastic life change, but with gentle honesty and supportive community.

If you’ve been feeling emotionally exhausted, short-tempered, or just disconnected from your own life, this conversation will help you recognize the warning signs plus give you powerful, practical tools you can start today.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

• How to spot early warning signs of emotional exhaustion and self-abandonment
• Why your nervous system holds the key to healing, and how to start tuning in
• Three essential questions to reconnect with your authentic self
• The role of community and why sharing your truth with the right people accelerates true healing
• Why midlife is the perfect moment to stop abandoning yourself and start taking up space

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Call to Action:

Is there a place in your life where you are saying “Yes” but your body is saying “No”? Let me know in the comments whether you feel it in your shoulders, jaw, or stomach.

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