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What if marriage and intimacy were never meant to feel fragile?

In this episode, Chelsey unpacks a powerful biblical distinction most Christian wives have never been taught: God did not originally tell man and woman to guard the garden—He told them to rule it.

You’ll learn why dominion came before defense, how guarding became necessary only after the fall, and why starting from fear instead of authority quietly suffocates intimacy.

This episode reframes marriage through Eden’s original design and shows how Christ restores us to rule under God’s order—without anxiety, control, or performance.

Inside this episode:

• Why dominion came before guarding in God’s design
• How fear-based vigilance damages intimacy
• The difference between authority and control in marriage
• Why guarding is necessary now—but not foundational
• How restored order brings peace, softness, and fruitfulness back to intimacy

If intimacy feels tense, fragile, or over-managed—this episode will shift your framework and restore peace.

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Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach
"I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God’s design in marriage, motherhood, and life."

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