What if your wedding ceremony was just... yours? No script, no stranger with a three-ring binder, no one telling you when to look up or how long to pause. In this episode, we're breaking down what a self-solemnizing ceremony actually looks like when it's truly just the two of you.

Self-solemnizing means you don't need an officiant. In Colorado, you can legally marry yourselves, sign your own license, and that's it. No witnesses required. Want the full breakdown of how it works? We've got you covered.

We walk through what we call the four bones of any ceremony. The introduction, where you set the scene and say "okay, we're doing this." The vows, which have no rules except that you mean them. (We have a downloadable vow workbook to help you write something that actually sounds like you, link below.) The ring exchange, which is worth slowing down for even if nobody's watching. And the pronouncement, which can be three words, a kiss, or a "hell yeah" and a high five.

We also talk about how to make it feel like a ceremony and not just a Tuesday. Short answer: presence. Know the structure so you can stop managing the logistics and actually feel what's happening.

If you're in early planning mode, our Elopement Planning Guide is a solid place to start. If you don't know where to start with writing your vows, here's our Crafting Your Elopement Vows Workbook to get you un-stuck. Ready to talk about your actual day? Check out our range of elopement package options.

Resources mentioned:

How to Self-Solemnize in Colorado

Crafting Your Elopement Vows Workbook

Elopement Planning Guide

Elopement Package