In this episode, we explore the definition of self-compassion through Kristin Neff's research, who describes it as treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer a close friend. We highlight Neff's 3 key components of self-compassion: self-kindness vs. self-judgment, common humanity vs. isolation and mindfulness vs. over-identification. We also address common myths, such as the idea that self-compassion leads to laziness or self-pity. Josh and Crystal end the episode sharing their own self-compassion assessment scores and invite the audience to discover where they are on the 1 to 5 scale. Ultimately, this episode reframes self-compassion not as indulgence, but as a powerful internal resource that supports growth, healing, and emotional strength.

Depression isn't a personal failure or a lack of willpower. It's a complex experience shaped by biology, life stressors, trauma, relationships, and how the nervous system responds to the world. While it's often described as a "chemical imbalance", therapists know the reality is far more layered.

Crystal and Josh discuss the idea that therapy for depression focuses on understanding patterns, building emotional regulation skills, addressing underlying pain, and reconnecting you with meaning and values. Medication can be helpful for some, but it's not the only--or always the first--path to healing.

Most importantly, depression lies to you. You are not alone and things can change. Join us as we unpack this and provide some immediate takeaways!

This episode of What Your Therapist Wants You To Know explores New Year's Resolutions through a therapy lens, shifting the focus from willpower to better preparing your various environments. Rather than chasing drastic change overnight, the conversation emphasizes grounding resolutions in identity--who you want to become and why--so goals more align with your values. This episode also walks through how to implement SMART goals that are specific, realistic, and flexible rather than rigid or punishing. The core message is that meaningful change comes from consistency, self-trust, and becoming--not just achieving.