Is your marriage relational… or transactional?

Do you give to your spouse freely — or only when you expect something back?

Many couples unintentionally keep score. "I did this, so you should do that." But healthy relationships aren't vending machines. They're built on connection, presence, vulnerability, and genuine care.

In this conversation, Nina and Kyle explore:

• The difference between relational and transactional love

• Why keeping score quietly damages intimacy

• How conditional thinking sneaks into marriage

• What emotional availability really looks like

• Practical ways to become more present, authentic, and connected

• How to grow if relationships don't come naturally to you

If you want a marriage marked by trust, grace, and real connection — not tit-for-tat exchanges — this episode is for you.

Distance in marriage doesn't usually happen all at once—it happens quietly, over time, and often without intention.

In this episode of What to Say and How to Say It, Nina Rosener is joined by licensed professional counselor Kyle Hargrove to tackle one of the most common (and misunderstood) challenges in marriage: emotional and physical distance.

How do you trust God's timing when you want your marriage restored now?

In this episode of What to Say and How to Say It, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner dive deep into the tension between waiting and moving forward in marital reconciliation. We talk about false starts, emotional capacity, boundaries, rest, and how God uses waiting seasons to heal what rushed reunions often break.

You'll learn:

• Why reconciliation fails when it's rushed
• How to recognize signs God is saying wait vs. proceed
• The role of capacity, boundaries, and emotional regulation
• Why rest is not optional in the healing process
• What healthy reunification should actually look like

If you or someone you know is navigating separation, reconciliation, or rebuilding trust, this conversation will help you move forward with wisdom, patience, and faith.

👉 Visit greaterimpactwives.org for a free marriage assessment and our free PDF: Five Tools to Stop Walking on Eggshells.

Are you really healing, or are you hurling your hurt at others?

In this episode of What to Say and How to Say It, Nina Roesner and counselor Kyle Harrove talk about what forgiveness truly is — and what it isn't. We discuss why "forgive and forget" doesn't work, how to set healthy boundaries, and how to move forward without returning hurt for hurt.

If you've been wounded and don't know how to forgive, this conversation will help.

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Reconciliation after separation can feel overwhelming, confusing, and even hopeless. If you are separated from your spouse or seriously considering it, this episode is for you.

In today's episode of What to Say and How to Say It, Shai Lewis and Nina Rosner walk through what biblical reconciliation after separation actually looks like. Not theory. Not clichés. But a real, faith centered roadmap for couples who want to do this God's way.

Welcome to another episode of What to Say and How to Say It. I'm Nina Rosner, joined by Kyle Hargrove, licensed professional counselor and one of our favorite Texans. Maybe it's the wide open spaces or the fact that both Montana and Texas have animals that can kill you—either way, we get along great!

Today, we're diving into something foundational to every marriage: identity.

At the core of most marriage struggles is an identity crisis—who you believe you are, where you get that belief, and how it shapes the way you interact with your spouse. If you're sourcing your identity from the wrong place, everything you do to "fix" your marriage will hit a wall. Identity is the platform that every change sits on.

Before we jump in, visit greaterimpactwives.org or greaterimpactcouples.org to take our free assessment. It's built on research-based indicators of marital health and can help you see where you're thriving—and where you might need support.