This episode dives deep into the concept of the "Beginner's Mind," a beautiful idea rooted in Zen Buddhism that encourages us to approach life with the curiosity and openness of a toddler. We explore how this mindset can liberate us from the burdens of certainty and the pressures of adulthood, allowing us to embrace learning and creativity at every stage of life. I share my own journey of carving out space for myself, both physically and emotionally, while recognizing the ways our conditioned narratives can hold us back. Through journaling and self-reflection, I’ve discovered the importance of giving myself grace and permission to explore my identity beyond the roles I've been assigned. Join me as we uncover the messy, transformative journey of reclaiming our stories and learning to take up space unapologetically.

Takeaways:

• This episode emphasizes the importance of adopting a beginner's mind, or shoshin, to cultivate curiosity and openness in our lives.
• Alex shares her journey of learning to carve out personal space for herself amid the chaos of motherhood and life responsibilities.
• The discussion highlights the significance of journaling as a tool for processing emotions and gaining perspective on personal narratives.
• The conversation encourages embracing discomfort and vulnerability, acknowledging that it's okay to feel lost during periods of change.
• A key takeaway is that making time for self-care and exploration is vital, especially when it feels selfish or indulgent.
• Lastly, the episode reminds us to challenge societal narratives about worth and productivity, embracing our right to simply exist and take up space.

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In this reflective episode, I explore the intricate interplay between personal challenges and the creative process, emphasizing the transformative potential of journaling as a means of self-discovery and emotional healing. Drawing upon the research of Dr. James Pennebaker, I elucidate the therapeutic benefits of expressive writing, particularly in relation to processing difficult experiences. The discussion is enriched by my own narrative of grappling with physical pain and emotional distress, which serves as a backdrop for examining the pursuit of joy and authenticity in our lives. I reference Pema Chödrön's teachings as a source of inspiration, highlighting the importance of leaning into discomfort and vulnerability as pathways to growth. As I navigate the complexities of self-acceptance and the temptation to seek validation, I invite listeners to engage in their own journaling journeys, encouraging them to embrace the messiness of their stories and recognize the profound value that lies in self-reflection and emotional expression. The episode concludes with a commitment to authenticity and a reminder that our collective journeys matter, urging listeners to shine their unique light in the world.

Takeaways:

• Engaging in a structured journaling practice can significantly enhance one's mental and physical well-being, as supported by scientific research.
• The methodology proposed by Dr. Pennebaker emphasizes the importance of expressive writing in processing traumatic experiences effectively.
• I have learned that embracing vulnerability can be a form of strength training, allowing us to navigate our emotions more freely.
• The concept of the 'liminal space' highlights the tension and discomfort that accompany significant personal transformations and change.
• Journaling serves as a powerful tool for self-reflection, fostering deeper self-awareness and emotional processing.
• To cultivate a sustainable journaling practice, it is essential to protect one's writing time and approach it without the pressure of external validation.

Links referenced in this episode:

• hubermanlab

Companies mentioned in this episode:

• 5Rhythms
• Pema Chödrön
• Dr. James W. Pennebaker
• Huberman Lab

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I am calling today’s episode The Strategic Pause.

Or Start Where You Are: Part 2

Or The End of Season One.

Stay with me, Excellent One. ;)

"Vulva Shots with Alix" is a personal development podcast that focuses on challenging conditioning, examining personal narratives, and developing self-trust.

The podcast is a platform for me to share my personal journey of doing THE WORK in real time and to TEST my idea, this concept, of leaning into vulnerability as strength training.

How was this a test?

Well, I knew I wasn’t alone doing the hard work. There are a whack of wickedly wonderful humans that I had the privilege of connecting with over the last few years through our coffee roasting business who were also daring into megawatt change.

What I wondered was could we connect and continue doing THE WORK separate but together through this format?

Yes. Yes we can. We are!

The most recent feedback I received from a stellar human not only made me burst into tears of joy (because this is one way I hope this podcast serves you), it signalled to me that it is time to shift.

“Last week found me in a bit of a spiral and in some of the more challenging moments, I turned to your podcast for reminders on the small acts we can take to shift the energy and ground ourselves. Having those cues in my ears helped profoundly. Where I would typically crawl into bed and shut away, becoming consumed by thoughts of shame and guilt, I focused on your words: journey, move, nourish, find your people who dig your stink.

Thank you 🙏 ✨✨✨

So grateful to be able to press play on your podcast and instantly feeling less alone and emboldened to stay on the hook. 💕”

HOW BADASS IS THIS HUMAN?!

Not only did they lean into their hard and dare to try something new, against their grain, they generously shared this incredible, thoughtful feedback with me as I also dare forward from my hard and into my potential.

I AM BLOODY GRATEFUL.

I believe this is how we are better together.

At some point healing/learning/growth demands we dare forward. For me, beyond the support of professional therapists and coaches, daring to be the awkward, vulnerable beginner “in front” of others who dare with care too, has been the most inspiring, energizing and effective tactic along this journey.

And to create the space, the content, the high-vibes to better connect with you and to serve all of us through this podcast demands more of me - clarity, focus, skills development, time and follow-through. A plan. A map.

Last week I hit the wall. Starting where I am each week to create episodes takes a tremendous amount of energy. To create episodes from scratch, record and publish them and then attempt to switch into a productive planning mode is not effective nor is it sustainable for me.

To serve you well and my purpose for this podcast, wildly running full-tilt boogie without a map, well, I’ve already run that pattern. It’s time to refine.

Hence, THE STRATEGIC PAUSE

I'll be developing more structured episodes with consistent segments you can reach for when you are going against your grain. One segment I'm excited to develop is “The Pattern Interrupt” which will give you a specific practice each week to experiment with as we challenge our conditioning and patterns.

I'll be creating more opportunities for us to connect and to lean into vulnerability as strength training together.

The catch is WE will create these opportunities together. ;)

And I'll be ensuring that the content serves you even more powerfully by building on what we've established so far and by consistently checking in with you along the way.

I'll be back on MAY 8TH with our...