In this episode of Unapologetic Edge, Philippa explores resentment, not the loud, obvious kind, but the quiet, simmering resentment that shows up in capable, high-functioning women who don’t recognise themselves anymore.

This conversation reframes resentment as unexpressed boundary information, not bitterness, ingratitude, or emotional immaturity.

You’ll learn:

• Why resentment isn’t anger gone wrong
• How it builds when effort exceeds emotional and relational return
• Why resentment often increases in perimenopause and midlife
• How motherhood intensifies resentment through invisible labour
• Why gratitude and suppression don’t resolve resentment when you’re depleted
• What resentment is actually asking for — and what it’s not

Resentment isn’t the enemy. It’s information.

And learning to listen to it may be the beginning of a more sustainable way of living.

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In this episode of Unapologetic Edge, Philippa speaks to a quiet but pervasive experience many women are having in midlife:

The sense that you just can’t hold as much as you used to.

Nothing dramatic has changed. The job is the same. The family is the same. Life, on paper, looks familiar.

Yet everything feels heavier. Your mind feels full before the day has begun. Your tolerance is thinner. You’re closer to overwhelm — and often carrying shame for struggling when you “should” be able to cope.

This episode unpacks why that experience is not a personal failing, a lack of resilience, or a discipline problem — but a predictable nervous-system shift that happens during perimenopause.

In this episode, we explore:

• What women are really describing when they talk about the mental load
• Why the mental load isn’t about tasks, but about constant anticipation, monitoring, and emotional holding
• How invisible and unacknowledged labour drains nervous system capacity
• Why strategies that worked for years suddenly stop working in perimenopause
• How hormonal changes affect stress tolerance, emotional regulation, sleep, cognition, and recovery
• Why burnout emerges when demand stays the same but capacity quietly changes
• How irritability, brain fog, emotional flooding, and resentment are early signs of overload
• Why “just doing less,” resting more, or becoming more organised often doesn’t resolve the issue
• The additional layer of complexity when mothering older children or neurodivergent children in midlife
• How self-blame compounds exhaustion — and what shifts when you move from judgment to curiosity

Rather than asking “What’s wrong with me?”, this episode invites a different question:

What is my system responding to right now?

This conversation reframes overwhelm as information, not failure — and opens the door to working with your nervous system rather than pushing against it.

Reflection to sit with after listening:

What feels like too much right now?

Instead of fixing it, what might change if you listened to what that feeling is telling you?

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In this episode of Unapologetic Edge, Philippa breaks down one of the most misunderstood distinctions women face in perimenopause: the difference between an activated emotion and a nervous system trigger.

When everything gets labelled a “trigger,” women start policing their feelings, mistrusting their instincts, and trying to manage the wrong thing. This confusion becomes even more costly during perimenopause, when the nervous system is already more reactive, capacity is reduced, and the margin for error is thinner.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What emotions actually are when you’re inside your window of tolerance
• What triggers really are from a nervous system and survival perspective
• Why insight, therapy, and self-awareness don’t resolve triggers
• How confusing activation with trauma keeps you stuck and exhausted
• What true nervous system resolution looks like — and why completion matters more than control

This conversation is especially for women who have “done the work,” understand themselves deeply, and still find the same patterns repeating. Nothing is wrong with you. Your nervous system is asking for something different.

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