Being twins is often romanticized. This episode is not that. In The Trauma of Being Twins, we talk about how growing up as twins impacted our family roles and emotional survival. We break down how scapegoat and lost child dynamics formed, how they followed us into adulthood, and why untangling them has been necessary for healing.

Dark humor included.Matching trauma not required.

Want a chance to have your story shared on the pod? Email us: traumaticallyspeaking@gmail.com

Remember: Write it in a story format, bullet points don't flow, and send it in a .pdf if ya nasty.

ok love you bye,

Sloan & Lex

** We support and encourage therapy. If you are looking for a licensed therapist visit: ⁠https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists⁠

We are not here to heal you, just to keep you company between sessions.

Trigger warning: This episode includes discussions of child abuse, domestic violence, and divorce.

In this episode of Traumatically Speaking, Sloan shares her experience growing up as a Parentified Child and how being forced into emotional adulthood too early shaped the way she connected with people later in life.

She talks about feeling disconnected from her peers while carrying adult worries at a young age, and how that disconnect followed her into relationships, including a pattern of dating people significantly older than her.

Through stories of marriage, divorce, and the long process of unlearning survival roles, Sloan reflects on what it has taken to heal from a dynamic that taught her maturity was the same thing as safety.

This episode is for anyone who was praised for being “so mature” when what they really needed was to be a kid.

Want a chance to share your story on the pod? Email us: traumaticallyspeaking@gmail.com

Remember: Write it in a story format, bullet points don't flow, and put it in a .pdf if ya nasty. 16 point, double spaced, .pdf's will receive accolades and consensual mouth kisses from Sloan.

ok love you bye,

Sloan & Lex

** We support and encourage therapy. If you are looking for a licensed therapist visit: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

We are not here to heal you, just to keep you company between sessions.

In this episode of Traumatically Speaking, we talk about one of the most invalidating responses you can hear after sharing that you are no contact with your parents. “But they did their best.”

We unpack why that phrase minimizes real harm, shuts down honest conversation, and places the responsibility for healing back onto the child instead of where it belongs.

Through our own stories, we validate listeners who are tired of being told to forgive, understand, or minimize their experiences for the comfort of others.

We also offer very non professional advice from two traumatized twin sisters with microphones on how to remind yourself that someone’s “best” can still be harmful, and that it is okay to be angry about it.

This episode is for anyone learning that acknowledging what happened is not cruelty. It is clarity.

Want a chance to have your story shared on the pod? Email us: traumaticallyspeaking@gmail.com

Remember: Write it in a story format, bullet points don't flow, and send it in a .pdf if ya nasty.

ok love you bye,

Lex & Sloan

** We support and encourage therapy. If you are looking for a licensed therapist visit: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

We are not here to heal you, just to keep you company between sessions.