Are you tired of running on autopilot with old survival patterns holding you back? In this episode of the Spiritual Programmer podcast, I break down how to recode those deep-rooted habits and finally create real change. Instead of forcing yourself to think positive or push through, I share practical steps to gently pause, honor what you’re feeling, and choose a new, aligned action. It’s all about small, consistent upgrades—not overnight transformation. If you’re ready to step into your full potential and become the conscious programmer of your reality, this one’s for you.

00:00 "Let Patterns Settle First"

05:21 Breaking the Cycle of Overthinking

08:10 "Identify Patterns for Self-Awareness"

11:34 "Identify and Acknowledge Programming"

15:48 "Testing Small Strategy Shifts"

20:26 "Incremental Honesty and Authenticity"

23:03 "Trusting Change Through Awareness"

26:47 "Consciously Reprogram Your Reality"

Welcome to episode four of the Spiritual Programmer Podcast, hosted by Eamon Ray. In this transformative episode, Eamon Ray shares his personal journey from working as a computer programmer for some of the world’s biggest companies to becoming a spiritual teacher and healer. He introduces the concept of the “Impact Trigger formula”—a powerful way to identify and reprogram the subconscious patterns shaping our lives.

This episode dives deep into the three most common protective programs people run in response to life’s triggers: the Perfectionist, the Self-Sufficient Caretaker, and the People Pleaser. Eamon Ray unpacks how these patterns develop, the hidden advantages they offer, and—most importantly—the real costs they bring to our lives and relationships. Listeners are invited to reflect on which of these programs might be influencing their own behavior, and to consider what might be possible if they chose to “recode” those outdated beliefs.

Tune in for relatable stories, practical self-inquiry, and an empowering invitation to become the conscious programmer of your own reality. If you’re ready to release the old code and unlock a new level of personal freedom, this episode is for you.

In today’s episode (s01-Ep003), we take a deep dive into the hidden survival strategies and background programs that shape how we react to life’s challenges. Drawing from personal stories and real-life examples, Eamon Ray guides listeners through the process of uncovering those subconscious decisions—like perfectionism, caretaking, and people pleasing—that helped us in the past, but may now be holding us back.

This episode is all about recognizing the outdated “code” running in your mind, understanding the advantages and costs of those patterns, and taking your first steps toward rewriting your inner operating system. If you’re ready to move beyond surface-level mind hacks and consciously transform your reality, grab a notebook—Eamon Ray invites you to reflect, journal, and prepare for the next stage of your self-programming journey.

1. Overview of the Impact Formula

• Recap of previous episodes: Impact formula as a tool for inner transformation.
  
  
• Components of the I.M.P.A.C.T. trigger formula:
  
  
  • Incident/Event identification (I)
    
    
  • Meaning attached to the event (M)
    
    
  • Program/strategy that arose (P)
    
    
  • Advantage and associated cost (A)
    
    
  • Re-coding and testing new patterns
    
    

2. Deep Dive Into Programs and Survival Strategies

• Definition of “program” as a self-protection strategy or background process ("If X, then Y").
  
  
• Programs as roles/strategies developed in response to specific events or traumas.
  
  
• Examples of Common Programs:
  
  
  • The Perfectionist Program
    
    
    • Triggered by public criticism; meaning created: “I’m not good enough.”
      
      
    • Results in over-preparation, procrastination, avoidance of mistakes.
      
      
  • The Self-Sufficient Caretaker
    
    
    • Triggered by absent caregivers; meaning: “My needs don’t matter.”
      
      
    • Shows up as minimizing own needs, giving to others, difficulty asking for help.
      
      
  • The People Pleaser
    
    
    • Triggered by social rejection or exclusion; meaning: “I don’t belong.”
      
      
    • Behaviors include scanning for approval, conflict avoidance, diminished self-expression.
      
      
• Encouragement for listeners to identify their own program in relation to recurring life events.
  
  

3. Unpacking Meanings and Decisions

• Self-inquiry prompts:
  
  
  • What meaning did you assign to yourself, others, and life (e.g., “I am not good enough,” “People don’t want me”)?
    
    
  • What did you decide you must do (or not do) to survive or avoid pain?
    
    
  • How does that show up in your current behavior?
    
    
  • Writing exercises offered to explore:
    Core beliefs & decisions (“I decided that I am...”)
    Core strategies/programs adopted
    Current behavioral patterns
    
    

4. The Advantage and Cost of Running Old Programs

• Recognition that outdated programs still bring a perceived advantage
  
  
  • Examples: Safety, control, avoidance of responsibility
    
    
• Identification of corresponding costs of these programs
  
  
  • Examples: Lack of respect, inability to be authentic, missed opportunities
    
    
• Importance of understanding both sides ("advantage" and "cost") to create motivation for change