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It's National Recovery Month, and Hilary sits down with her longtime friend and colleague Stephanie Hazard, a certified recovery coach with 26 years of long-term sobriety, for a conversation about what happens after the drinking or the eating disorder behaviors stop.

Stephanie opens up about growing up in a family where alcoholism ran on both sides, navigating co-occurring substance use and an eating disorder, and the moment her "aperture of life"—once as small as the bottom of a wine glass—began to open. She and Hilary dig into emotional sobriety, nervous system regulation, and what it actually means to be trauma-informed.

They also unpack the heart of Stephanie's new book, Making Sobriety Stick: the concept of recovery capital (internal and external resources that keep someone stable), and Dr. Peggy Swarbrick's eight dimensions of wellness, starting with the one Stephanie always begins with: connection. Because, as Johann Hari says, the opposite of addiction isn't sobriety. It's connection.

You'll also hear the story behind why Stephanie wrote the book, including an unforgettable moment on a beach with a stranger that changed everything.

In this episode:

• What a recovery coach actually does (and doesn't do)
• The gap between leaving treatment and long-term recovery
• Recovery capital: internal vs. external resources
• The eight dimensions of wellness, explained simply
• Why "the opposite of addiction is connection"
• The true story behind why Stephanie wrote Making Sobriety Stick

Making Sobriety Stick: A Recovery Coach's Guide to Sustainable Change releases September 22nd and is available for pre-order now at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Target, Walmart, and the Strand.

Connect with Stephanie: pathtowardrecovery.com

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In this episode of The Right Room, Hilary sits down with actor and writer Jaimie Alexander for the kind of conversation that usually never leaves the living room.

What begins as a story about Jaimie learning to swim in her 40s quickly opens into something much deeper: identity, recovery, grief, and what it means to build a life when the old markers of “success” start to fall away. Jaimie shares candidly about growing up in chaos, becoming a wrestler in high school, being cast again and again as the “tough girl,” and how those roles both protected her and kept her from her own softness.

Together, Hilary and Jaimie explore how addiction, sobriety, and stoicism reshaped Jaimie’s life; how she moved from hypervigilance to a sense of inner safety; and why she now prays not for specific outcomes, but simply for the strength to endure what comes. They talk about service over shame, collective responsibility instead of collective guilt, and Jaimie’s work with women who are incarcerated — listening to stories most people turn away from.

You’ll hear Jaimie’s powerful reframes on failure, control, and comparison, her belief that “if life were fair, there would be no miracles,” and the reminder that if you’re still here, you’ve survived 100% of your worst days so far.

If you’re in a hallway season — between identities, navigating divorce, early recovery, or some unnamed transition — this conversation will feel like a hand on your back, walking with you toward what’s next.

We explore:

• Learning to swim later in life as a metaphor for trying scary new things
• Addiction, sobriety, and why “what happened” isn’t the whole story of who we are
• Stoicism, acceptance, and praying for strength instead of specific outcomes
• Moving from hypervigilance and control into inner safety and feminine softness
• Service without saviorism: collective responsibility vs. collective guilt
• How to stop using our past as an excuse and start using it in service to others
• The truth that you’ve survived 100% of your hardest days — and what that means for your next chapter

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What if the shift you’ve been longing for isn’t somewhere out there, but already stirring inside you?

For the woman in an in-between season—my 1:1 mentorship creates the space to hear your own voice again, reconnect with what matters, and move forward with clarity and grounded confidence. When life calls you toward a deeper truth, you don’t have to navigate it alone. If it resonates, you can begin at HilaryPhelps.com.

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Grandparenthood sounds like it should be pure joy, but for many families, it’s far more complex.

Becoming a grandparent isn’t just a repeat of parenting—it’s a whole new role, one that can bring unexpected tension, unspoken expectations, and a steep learning curve.

In this episode of The Right Room, Hilary Phelps sits down with DeeDee Moore, founder of More Than Grand, a platform helping grandparents step into this life chapter with intention, connection, and a little less conflict. A military wife, mother of four, and now grandmother, DeeDee knows firsthand how family roles shift—and how to make those transitions smoother for everyone.

We explore:

• Why grandparenting isn’t just parenting 2.0 (and why assuming it is creates tension).
• The #1 relationship to focus on first (hint: it’s not the grandkids).
• How to navigate generational clashes on everything from sugar and sleep to discipline and parenting philosophies.
• Why “spoil them and send them home” is harmful (and what actually builds deeper bonds).
• The conversations every parent and grandparent should have early to avoid resentment and confusion later.
• How DeeDee’s New Grandparent Essentials guide is helping families prevent conflicts and foster closer, more connected relationships.

This conversation isn’t just for new grandparents—it’s for anyone navigating a major role shift, whether it’s motherhood, a career pivot, or any chapter where your identity changes.

Key Takeaways

1. Being a grandparent is a new role, not a rerun of parenting. It requires learning, communication, and a willingness to adapt.
2. Your relationship with your adult children is the foundation—you can’t build a bond with your grandkids without a healthy, respectful dynamic with their parents.
3. Boundaries aren’t barriers; they’re bridges. Establishing expectations early prevents conflicts and strengthens relationships.
4. Generational clashes (food, discipline, parenting styles) are inevitable, but open conversations and curiosity can turn tension into connection.
5. Preparation makes the transition smoother. Just as we’d prepare for a job or marriage, preparing for grandparenthood sets everyone up for success.

Explore DeeDee’s New Grandparent Essentials guide and more resources at morethangrand.com, and follow her @morethangrand for ongoing tips on building stronger family relationships.

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What if the shift you’ve been longing for isn’t somewhere out there, but already stirring inside you?

For the woman in an in-between season—my 1:1 mentorship creates the space to hear your own voice again, reconnect with what matters, and move forward with clarity and grounded confidence. When life calls you toward a deeper truth, you don’t have to navigate it alone. If it resonates, you can begin at HilaryPhelps.com.