If you are feeling the density of the world right now—the politics, relationships, work, the stress, or your own health challenges—ask yourself: Am I trying to fight the noise, or am I ready to conduct the music?
Destiny is what happens when you stop resisting the density and start leading the collaboration. It’s about awakening the healthy parts of your life—your joy, your resilience, your inner peace from inner ease—and letting them play so loudly and so purely that the 'ashes' of the past simply fall away.

Like Nienke saw on her walk this week, a winter forest at dawn, thick with fog and frost. That is density in its purest form—heavy, cold, and obscuring the path. Ice on the ponds, but a ray of light does the mystery work. Alchemy of light, warmth and frost.

Does the sunlight 'attack' the fog? Does it 'command' the frost to leave? No. The sun simply rises. As its frequency increases, the density has no resistance. It doesn't fight; it simply resolves. It dissipates because it cannot exist in that higher state of light.

From what frequencies are you the conductor within yourself? Density or Destiny is just flipping the letters like a ray of light.

We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others. Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives.

Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future.

If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com

What is the secret of a good listener? They can hold space:
"In the process of rising from the ashes, holding space is the stillness between the fire and the flight. It is the quiet, steady frequency that allows the 'redesign' of a life to take place in a safe and honest environment."
Here is a checklist for you, "Holding Space to Rise".
It includes the 7 key steps for clearing your own mental noise, listening for the speaker's "spark," and using silence to help others find the frequency to rise from the ashes.
1. Empty the Vessel: Take a 'breath of transition' to clear your own mental noise and biases before the conversation begins.
2. Set the Frequency: Intentionally decide to provide a non-judgmental, safe container for the speaker's true self to emerge. Listen from neutrality.
3. Honour the Ashes: Practice radical honesty by validating the weight of their struggle without rushing into 'fake positivity' or advice.
4. Listen for the Spark: Ignore the 'static' of the story and focus on shifts in energy, tone, and check if it's safe for them to rise or not yet.
5. Utilise Sacred Silence: After the speaker finishes a thought, wait: allow seconds to be silent. Allow the insight to land in the space for both of you.
6. Reflect the True Self: Mirror back the strengths or realisations you hear emerging, rather than enforcing the problems being described: non-judgmental, without the focus on yourself.
7. Check the Heart-Brain Connection: Notice if the speaker (or you) is stuck in the head (logic) and gently ask questions, reflections to include the heart (feeling).

Are you listening?
Or as Manu Keirse describes it—if you think you’ve listened: listen again

We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others. Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives.

Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future.

If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com

As we look at the world today, we see a rapid shift in the global worldview regarding the pursuit of control. We are moving away from claiming power based on the past and toward an attempt to control a new paradigm—one that is often as substantial as the "emperor’s new clothes."

Think of the T. rex: an "eat or be eaten" mentality, focused on controlling everything you dislike. But dinosaurs are extinct. Why? Because they could not adapt to a changing environment.

Letting Go of the Illusion you can control all...

What happens when you stop focusing all your energy on controlling your life, the lives of others, and the world to fit your personal standards? We often cling to these standards because they make us feel safe, but they are an illusion.

While A.I. provides us with truths based on past data, we must remain "fit" to trust our inner knowing and intuition (H.I., or Human Intelligence). We must learn to collaborate rather than relying solely on intellectual understanding.

It is collaboration that makes the difference, not control. The goal is to become the conductor rather than the controller. Become a master, Maestro, of adapting to the unknown and the unpredictable mystery of life. Or, you can continue to enjoy your "dinosaur life" until the world shifts even further away.

We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others. Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives.

Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future.

If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com