What happens when you’ve been gaslit in your relationship… and then gaslit again by the medical system?

In this episode of The Messy Middle, I respond to a listener question that so many women quietly carry:

What do you do when you’ve been dismissed, minimized, and made to doubt yourself - not just by a partner, but by doctors?

This isn’t about “bad bedside manner.” This is about institutional gaslighting. And for survivors of emotional abuse, it can feel like retraumatization all over again.

In this episode, we unpack:

• Why the modern medical system was never designed around women’s bodies
• How trauma shows up as chronic illness, autoimmune issues, hormonal chaos, and nervous system dysregulation
• Why “everything looks normal” can be a form of erasure
• How medical dismissal mirrors coercive control dynamics
• The link between long-term emotional abuse and physical symptoms
• Reclaiming yourself as your own authority

This episode is both validating and activating. It’s about understanding that your body is not betraying you - it’s communicating. And you are allowed to believe it.

You are allowed to:

• Fire doctors who dismiss you
• Walk out of unsafe appointments
• Stop over-explaining yourself
• Trust your lived experience over someone else’s credentials

Becoming unfuckwithable sometimes starts with one quiet, radical decision:

I believe myself. Even when the system doesn’t.

If you’ve ever left an appointment feeling small, foggy, shaky, or wondering if you imagined your own symptoms - this episode is for you.

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What happens when your body knows the truth before your mind is ready to admit it?

In this deeply personal episode of The Messy Middle, I reflect on a powerful message from a listener who paused the podcast to do inner child work in real time: hugging a childhood toy, asking what she needed to hear, and speaking words of truth her body had been waiting for.

That moment wasn’t random. It wasn’t “woo.” It was healing.

This episode is about learning to trust the moments your body speaks before your brain catches up - especially after narcissistic or emotional abuse, where self-trust has been systematically dismantled.

In this episode, we unpack:

• Why intuition gets overridden in abusive dynamics
• How gaslighting trains you to doubt your own knowing
• What somatic healing actually looks like in real life
• Why you don’t need full memories or flashbacks to heal
• How to gently rebuild trust with your intuition without forcing it

Through lived experience, client stories, and practical examples, this episode reminds you of something essential:

You are not broken. You are remembering.

If you’ve ever had a gut feeling you ignored, whispered truth to a younger version of yourself, or felt something shift in your body before you could explain it - this episode is for you.

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📢 Get a Laster Coaching call for only $150. A 45-minute session to get to know me, experience my approach, and receive a personalized plan to kickstart your healing journey. Perfect for testing the waters before diving deeper.

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📝 Get the Somatic Keys Course. Learn how to recognize your signals, regulate your responses, and reclaim your nervous system as a place of truth.

In this episode, I’m responding to listener messages that came in after the Inner Child ep, including one powerful moment that stopped me in my tracks.

A listener shared how she paused the podcast, climbed into bed with her childhood stuffed zebra, and spoke truth to the younger version of herself. What she described is exactly what real healing looks like - not performative, not perfect, but embodied, intuitive, and honest.

From there, we move into some big, thorny questions I get asked all the time:
Do we have to forgive our parents?
Do we have to forgive narcissistic abusers?
Is forgiveness actually necessary for healing, or has it been weaponized against us?

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why forgiveness is not a prerequisite for healing
• How women are conditioned to use forgiveness to stay small, quiet, and palatable
• The difference between forgiveness, freedom, integration, and indifference
• Why rage, grief, and truth-telling are often essential parts of recovery
• How to redefine forgiveness on your terms, or reject it altogether
• A body-based reflection to help you feel what forgiveness actually means to you

This is not a “just let it go” conversation. It’s a reclaim-your-power conversation.

If you’ve ever felt pressured to forgive before you were ready, or told that healing requires you to absolve the people who harmed you - this episode is for you.

📩 Send in YOUR questions and get them answered on the podcast!

📢 Get a Laster Coaching call for only $150. A 45-minute session to get to know me, experience my approach, and receive a personalized plan to kickstart your healing journey. Perfect for testing the waters before diving deeper.

🎬 Watch Unfu*kwithable Boundaries Masterclass for FREE. Learn how setting clear boundaries can change your life for good and where to start!

📝 Get the Somatic Keys Course. Learn how to recognize your signals, regulate your responses, and reclaim your nervous system as a place of truth.