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The Married Entrepreneurs Podcast

The Married Entrepreneurs Podcast

De : Lexie Lee Ron Lee
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So you’ve been told that you shouldn’t mix business with leisure - and pleasure - right? Or is the accepted ‘norm’ that if you work together you’ll inevitably get divorced, because hey you’re with each other 24/7? Well, look at Ron and Lexie Lee. If they listened to what society told them, they wouldn’t have ever left their 9 to 5s, and they’d be unfulfilled and miserable now. Join Ron and Lexie Lee as they host The Married Entrepreneurs Podcast - the place for couples who are either thinking of working together or who are currently navigating their way through it and needing some guidance. With backgrounds in business management and counseling, the Lee’s are here to help you become a power couple in your community, in your business, and in your family home. Together, they share their personal and professional journeys, as well as give practical advice on dealing with things that society says ‘will’ happen if you work together as a couple. They talk through how to keep the romance alive, how to talk about and deal with finances, how to get curious instead of furious, and how to manage a business without it controlling you and your dynamic as a couple. Are you ready to grow together, improve your marriage, become better lovers and partners, and scale a successful business? Click ‘play’ and start planning for tomorrow today, and leave behind everything that held you back yesterday.The Married Entrepreneurs Podcast 2022 © Direction Economie Management Management et direction
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    • Episode 50: Stop the Critical and Defensive Behavior
      Nov 1 2023
      “I feel overwhelmed when I’m putting the kids to bed because they’re trying to go in more directions than I have hands. And what I need is for you to help tag team and keep them on track at night.” - Lexie Lee   In any marriage, criticism and defensiveness can be like poison, slowly eroding the foundation of love and connection. Renowned relationship expert John Gottman refers to them as part of the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" - destructive behaviors that can lead to the downfall of a relationship. Criticism often arises when we fail to express our needs assertively. Instead of calmly communicating what we desire or how we feel, we resort to pointing out flaws and attacking our partner's character. This not only damages their self-esteem but also creates a hostile environment where open communication becomes nearly impossible. Defensiveness, on the other hand, is a habit that many people fall into when faced with criticism. Instead of listening and trying to understand their partner's perspective, they immediately put up walls and counterattack. This defensive stance prevents any meaningful resolution or growth within the relationship. But there is hope! It is essential for couples to find a better way to ask for what they need without resorting to criticism or defensiveness. By practicing active listening, empathy, and using "I" statements instead of "you" statements, couples can foster an atmosphere of understanding and compassion. Remember, marriage is a partnership built on love and respect. By replacing criticism with assertive communication and defensiveness with openness, couples can overcome challenges together and create a stronger bond that withstands the test of time.   In this Podcast:   Which four behaviors can predict divorce or breakup in a relationship? Which behavior usually happens first, defensiveness or criticism? How can one effectively ask for what they need without being critical? How can one respond to criticism without becoming defensive? What can be done if a defensive response is given but a do-over is desired? Which four behaviors can predict divorce or breakup in a relationship? The four behaviors that can predict divorce or breakup in a relationship, according to John Gottman’s research are criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling.   Which behavior usually happens first, defensiveness or criticism? Criticism happens first. You have one partner who is critical or even just says something, they may even say it right, but usually not. Usually it comes out as a criticism and then the partner feels like they have to defend themselves.   How can one effectively ask for what they need without being critical? It is suggested to use a script that includes the following elements: Start with “I feel” followed by an emotion (e.g. overwhelmed, frustrated). State the specific situation or behavior that triggers the emotion (e.g. when I’m putting the kids to bed). Explain the reason behind the emotion (e.g. because they’re trying to go in more directions than I have hands). Clearly state what is needed (e.g. what I need is for you to help tag team and keep them on track at night). By using this script, individuals can express their needs without resorting to criticism, which can lead to more productive conversations and better understanding between partners.   How can one respond to criticism without becoming defensive? The following strategies are offered as ways to address criticism without becoming defensive: Take a breath and pause before responding to criticism. Practice giving the benefit of the doubt to your partner and assume their intentions are good. Make requests instead of complaints, using a script such as “I feel [emotion] when [situation] because [reason], and what I need is [specific request].” If you still find yourself responding defensively, it’s okay to ask for a do-over. Own your mistake, raise your hand, and say something like, “My bad, scratch that. What I want to say is I understand what you’re saying and I’ll work on it.” By implementing these strategies, one can respond to criticism in a more productive and non-defensive manner.   What can be done if a defensive response is given but a do-over is desired? If a defensive response is given but a do-over is desired, it is okay to ask for a do-over. The suggestion is to raise your hand, admit your mistake, and say something like, “My bad, scratch that. What I want to say is I get what you’re saying and I’ll work on it.” Resources Mentioned and Useful Links Rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, and Spotify. Practice of the Practice Network   Connect with the Married Entrepreneurs Visit the Married Entrepreneurs Website Facebook Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com About the Married Entrepreneurs Podcast   We have such a passion for meeting new people and helping...
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      13 min
    • Episode 49: Are You Enjoying the Holiday Season?
      Oct 25 2023
      "Focus on the positive as much as you can, even on the things that you do like about those troublesome family members, because usually they're not all bad." - Lexie Lee   The holiday season is meant to be a time of joy and celebration, but for many, it can also bring along its fair share of family drama. Managing these tensions and ensuring a harmonious gathering requires careful planning and a proactive mindset. To successfully navigate family dynamics during the holidays, it is essential to manage expectations. Communicate openly with your family members about what you hope to achieve during this time together. Setting realistic expectations can help avoid disappointment and unnecessary conflicts. Another useful strategy is to make a plan ahead of time. Determine the schedule for activities, meals, and any potential discussions that may arise. Having a structured itinerary can provide structure and minimize opportunities for tension or disagreements. Preparing topics and activities in advance can also be helpful in diverting attention away from potential triggers. Engaging in fun and light-hearted conversations or participating in enjoyable activities can create positive memories while preventing heated discussions. Perhaps one of the most crucial aspects of managing family drama during the holidays is adjusting your mindset. Instead of becoming furious or defensive when faced with difficult situations or confrontations, approach them with curiosity. Seek to understand different perspectives without judgment or anger, fostering empathy and open communication. Setting boundaries is another essential aspect of maintaining peace during family gatherings. Clearly communicate your limits when it comes to certain topics or behaviors that may lead to conflicts. Avoiding excessive indulgence in alcohol can also contribute to maintaining clear-headedness and preventing unnecessary arguments. By employing these strategies – managing expectations, making a plan, preparing topics/activities, adjusting your mindset from fury to curiosity, and setting boundaries – you can effectively navigate family drama during the holidays while fostering an atmosphere of understanding, respect, and harmony. In this podcast: Why is it important to be curious rather than furious during family interactions? How do simple and easy games and activities prevent chaos in family events? Why do you need to plan out discussion topics and activities before a family gathering?   Why is it important to be curious rather than furious during family interactions? It is important to adopt a curious rather than furious mindset during family interactions. This involves assuming an observer role. By observing the interactions and behaviors of family members, individuals can gain insights into their actions and words, without becoming emotionally invested in conflicts or negative interactions. This approach allows individuals to maintain a positive mindset and focus on the positive aspects of their family members, even if they possess some troublesome qualities. Ultimately, this approach fosters a more harmonious and enjoyable family gathering.   How do simple and easy games and activities prevent chaos in family events? It is a good practice to incorporate easy topical games into family events to facilitate discussions and prevent chaos. There should be availability of several games that are simple to play, requiring only the pulling of a card and asking a question. These games serve as a common ground, engaging everyone in conversation. These discourage wasting time searching for the right game and ensure there is no downtime or awkwardness, allowing everyone to participate in the planned activities.   Why do you need to plan out discussion topics and activities before a family gathering? It is important to plan out discussion topics to avoid sensitive issues that may lead to hurt feelings or arguments. Having safe topics ready for discussion and avoiding subjects known to cause chaos. By having predetermined topics, it becomes easier to steer the conversation away from potentially divisive subjects. Resources Mentioned and Useful Link Rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, and Spotify. Practice of the Practice Network   Connect with the Married Entrepreneurs Visit the Married Entrepreneurs Website Facebook Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com About the Married Entrepreneurs Podcast We have such a passion for meeting new people and helping those peeps who are crazy like us and have decided that two entrepreneurs who don’t follow the traditional path should be in business together while married to each other.   We met each other over 25 years ago and although it was not love at first sight, it is a love story for the history books.  We have navigated how to be married, which can be a feat in itself, and survived the early years of keeping the children alive; also...
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      19 min
    • Episode 48: Are You Holding A Grudge?
      Oct 18 2023
      “And part of how we know that you're not letting it go is because you're continuing to think about it. And the more you think about it, the more you are feeding it.” - Lexie Lee Are you holding a grudge? It's important to recognize the impact that holding onto resentment and anger can have on our physical and emotional well-being. Whether it's a perceived threat or an actual event, such as the ongoing political divide between government parties, harboring grudges can lead to negative patterns of behavior. Research has shown that holding grudges can contribute to various health issues, including heart problems, stomach disorders, and chronic pain. The stress and negativity associated with holding onto resentment can take a toll on our bodies over time. Fortunately, there are effective strategies for letting go of grudges and finding inner peace. One approach is meditation, which helps cultivate mindfulness and allows us to observe our thoughts and emotions without judgment. By practicing meditation regularly, we can develop greater awareness of our grudges and work towards releasing them. Another helpful technique is journaling. Writing down our feelings about the situation that caused the grudge can provide clarity and insight into why we're holding onto it. Additionally, writing a letter to the person involved (even if you don't intend to send it) or engaging in a curious conversation with them can help foster understanding and potentially resolve any lingering issues. Remember, holding onto grudges only weighs us down emotionally and physically. By actively seeking ways to let go of resentment through practices like meditation, journaling, or open dialogue with those involved, we pave the way for healing ourselves from within.   In this Podcast: What are some negative effects of holding a grudge or resentment?How can journaling help in letting go of resentment?What is the importance of changing one's perspective when holding a grudge?How can noticing one's thoughts throughout the day help in letting go of resentment?What is the recommended approach for having a conversation about resentment?   What are some negative effects of holding a grudge or resentment?  Holding a grudge can lead to physical health issues such as increased blood pressure, stomach problems, and disrupted sleep. It can also have negative impacts on mental health, including depression, anxiety, and a sense of hopelessness. How can journaling help in letting go of resentment? Journaling allows individuals to express their feelings and emotions, providing a space to process and release negative thoughts. By writing out their resentment and then shifting to gratitude, individuals can gain a more balanced perspective and let go of the grudge. What is the importance of changing one's perspective when holding a grudge?  Changing perspective helps individuals understand the intentions of the other person involved. Often, people assume that the other person's actions were meant to cause harm, but by considering alternative perspectives, individuals can realize that the intention may not have been malicious, leading to a shift in their own feelings. How can noticing one's thoughts throughout the day help in letting go of resentment? Noticing negative thoughts and tallying them can create awareness of how often these thoughts occur. By recognizing these patterns, individuals can actively work on redirecting their thoughts and replacing them with more positive or neutral ones, ultimately reducing the hold of resentment. What is the recommended approach for having a conversation about resentment?  The recommended approach is to have a curious, not furious conversation. This involves taking turns speaking and listening, with the listener paraphrasing what they hear to ensure understanding. It is important to avoid defensiveness and focus on understanding the other person's perspective rather than trying to solve the problem.   Resources Mentioned and Useful Links Rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, and Spotify. Practice of the Practice Network Connect with the Married Entrepreneurs Visit the Married Entrepreneurs Website Facebook Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com   About the Married Entrepreneurs Podcast We have such a passion for meeting new people and helping those peeps who are crazy like us and have decided that two entrepreneurs who don’t follow the traditional path should be in business together while married to each other. We met each other over 25 years ago and although it was not love at first sight, it is a love story for the history books.  We have navigated how to be married, which can be a feat in itself, and survived the early years of keeping the children alive; also not easy.  And we did all this while being in multiple businesses together.  When we say we have been there, we mean it. We have made poor choices in the past, struggled to ...
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      24 min
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