We talk about prenups for money, but we don't talk about prenups for parenting. But separation with children is not rare. And very often, the hardest conversations are often the ones we need the most.

In this episode, I reflect on:

• Why hope collapses quickly under separation and divorce

• How childcare arrangements quietly shape power

• What maintenance is really about

• Mobility, location, and who gets to move

• Decision-making when you no longer trust each other

• Why clarity is not unromantic

• Why protecting children from the worst versions of their parents matters

This is not about predicting failure.
It is about recognising that love and structure are not the same thing.

If you are happily partnered, this episode still matters.
If you are separating, it may feel painfully familiar.

And if you are somewhere in between, I hope it gives you language.

If you want to go deeper into support structures around separation, download my free audio guide The 5 Villages Every Mum Needs. Because when relationships shift, support becomes everything.

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This week, I’m recording from my bed, feeling that familiar end-of-day heaviness where you’ve done a lot but couldn’t neatly list what it was.

Life doesn’t feel chaotic.
It just doesn’t feel spacious either.

In this episode, I talk about what a maintenance season actually looks like in motherhood, especially after separation, when logistics increase and capacity doesn’t.

Waking at 5am when it works, not forcing it when it doesn’t.
Batch cooking to reduce decisions.
Letting non-urgent emails sit.
Filling out government forms in fragments.
Choosing structure over spontaneity.

Not because ambition has disappeared.
But because time and energy are finite.

We talk about:

• The difference between growth seasons and maintenance seasons
• How separation quietly increases admin, responsibility and mental load
• Why structure can feel stabilising instead of restrictive
• The pressure to advance or reinvent
• Maintenance as consolidation rather than stagnation

This episode sits in time and energy debt, with a quiet thread of identity shift underneath.

If this episode resonates, start with my free audio guide: The 5 Villages Every Mum Needs — a free audio guide naming the kinds of support modern mothers are missing, and why love alone isn’t enough. 👉🏽 ⁠⁠The 5 Villages Every Mum Needs⁠⁠⁠

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We talk about this kind of stuff in It's A Lot. So, if you’re feeling shaky having brought your new baby home, in the trenches of toddlerhood or just need a place to share the joys of being a mama with people who get it, this is your new support network. The best part? It’s all via voice notes ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.nataliekmartin.com/mama-circle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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This week I’m responding to a Reddit thread titled:

“How the heck are we all okay with this scam?”

The post describes what so many families are living:

• Dual income just to stay afloat

• Hyper-scheduled days

• Childcare costs exploding

• Zero margin

• No real time with your own children

And the question underneath it all:

Is this just what family life is now?

In this episode, I’m not fixing it.

I’m naming it.

We explore:

• Why shrinking your life isn’t a universal solution

• Why “just spend less” misses the point

• The structural pressures shaping modern parenthood

• Why this feels personal, but isn’t

Because when you change the lens from “I’m failing” to “this system wasn’t built for families”, something shifts.

If this episode resonates, start with my free audio guide: The 5 Villages Every Mum Needs — a free audio guide naming the kinds of support modern mothers are missing, and why love alone isn’t enough. 👉🏽 ⁠The 5 Villages Every Mum Needs⁠⁠

🫂 Join a loving community of mums in IT'S A LOT – free for 30 days.

We talk about this kind of stuff in It's A Lot. So, if you’re feeling shaky having brought your new baby home, in the trenches of toddlerhood or just need a place to share the joys of being a mama with people who get it, this is your new support network. The best part? It’s all via voice notes ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.nataliekmartin.com/mama-circle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Want to share your thoughts on this episode? Comment on Spotify or:

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