Loneliness is one of the biggest challenges men face today. When men try to do life alone, grinding, pushing, carrying the pressure in silence... it often leads to stress, mental health struggles, and relationships that suffer.

But what if the very thing you’ve been avoiding: connection and brotherhood... Is the key to your growth? To your success? To improving your mental health?

In this episode of The Heart-Led Man, I’m joined by my regular guest Matt, a high school teacher, sports coach, founder of The Brave Movement, and a member of The Ascension Men’s Community.

Together we dive into the lone-wolf mentality, why isolation kills growth, and how men thrive when they step into a space of accountability, support, and brotherhood.

You’ll discover:

• Why so many men isolate themselves (and the cost of carrying everything alone).
• How loneliness impacts mental health, relationships, and leadership.
• The power of a brotherhood: belonging, challenge, healing, and accountability.
• Matt’s personal story: what his life was like before The Ascension, and how his confidence, relationships, and leadership transformed since joining.
• Practical ways you can start building more connection and brotherhood in your life, even if you’re not part of a men’s group yet.

Men thrive in brotherhood, not isolation.

Disclaimer: This episode briefly mentions suicidal thoughts. If you are struggling or having thoughts of suicide, please know you are not alone. In Australia, you can call Lifeline at 13 11 14. If you’re elsewhere, please seek support through your local crisis line or emergency services right away.

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Ready to Go Deeper?

If you’re at a stage in life where you’re no longer willing to settle for mediocrity, hiding from your potential, or repeating the same routines hoping for new results, it’s time to step up...

Inside The Ascension Men’s Community, you’ll be challenged, supported, and activated by other high-performing men who refuse to settle. This is where deeper relationships, unshakable confidence, and true leadership are forged. Not every man is ready for this, but if you are, join us now and step into the brotherhood.

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🎧 The Heart-Led Man Podcast is hosted by Evan Spargo, MCC Coach & Founder of The Ascension Men's Community. Helping men lead with purpose, presence, and peace, without losing themselves or the people they love.

Website: www.evanspargo.co

Instagram: @evanspargo

You’ve built success in business, sport, or your career, but maybe you’ve hit a plateau. At work, in your leadership, or in your relationship, it feels like something’s missing.

I get it. I’ve been there. I know what it takes to push through plateaus and reach the next level.

Before I became a Master Certified Coach, I played AFL my whole life before switching to rugby in 2015, eventually competing internationally.

And it was through sport that I discovered the mindset, habits, and environments that create true mastery, lessons I now bring into my coaching and leadership work with men.

In this episode of The Heart-Led Man, I share six lessons international sport taught me about mastery, and how you can apply them to your own career, business, relationships, and leadership.

You’ll discover:

• Why a clear, compelling vision is the fuel that pulls you forward.
• How stepping into a new identity accelerates results.
• Why trusting the process and improving just 1% daily creates exponential growth.
• How setbacks expose weaknesses and give you the chance to build what’s missing.
• The power of an elite environment to raise your standards fast.
• Why you must be obsessed with your vision and the process if you want true mastery.

These lessons shaped me as both an international athlete and one of the small percentage in the world to achieve the MCC coaching credential. More importantly, they’re the blueprint for high-performing men who want to find their edge, lead powerfully and achieve their biggest goals.

(0:00:00) - Welcome back + my journey from AFL to international rugby

(0:03:24) - Lesson 1: Vision

(0:14:13) - Lesson 2: Identity

(0:20:00) - Lesson 3: Trust the process

(0:24:56) - Lesson 4: Setbacks

(0:34:45) - Lesson 5: Elite environment

(0:41:28) - Lesson 6: Obsession

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Ready to Go Deeper?

Take the free quiz: What’s the Hidden Pattern Keeping You Stuck?
In just 2 minutes you’ll uncover the hidden pattern sabotaging your relationships, performance, and leadership, and how to break free.
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If this resonates and you’re a high-performing man who’s hit a plateau, in performance, leadership, your relationship, or life itself, and you know you’re capable of more…

My private 1:1 coaching is where we unleash your fire, sharpen your edge, and strip away what’s been holding you back, so you can perform, love, and lead at your true peak under pressure.

I only work with a select few men at a time, and spaces are limited.

👉 Apply now

🎧 The Heart-Led Man Podcast is hosted by Evan Spargo, MCC Coach & Founder of The Ascension Men's Community. Helping men lead with purpose, presence, and peace, without losing themselves or the people they love.

Website: www.evanspargo.co

Instagram: @evanspargo

You’ve built success in your career or business… but at home your relationship feels different, your partner doesn’t fully relax with you.

Maybe she’s guarded, always questioning, pulling away, or doesn’t trust your leadership. Deep down, you feel it... you’re not showing up in the way you know you could.

In this episode of The Heart-Led Man, I reveal the #1 reason I reveal the #1 reason women don’t feel safe to relax in relationships with high-performing men, and more importantly, how to shift it so you can create a relationship full of safety, trust, and intimacy.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why high-performing men often collapse at home even if they lead powerfully at work.
• The hidden cost of being stuck in “performance mode”, and why it leaves her feeling unsafe.
• My personal story of how performance pressure sabotaged my past relationships.
• The shift from performance → presence that transforms how she feels with you.
• Practical tips on how to ground your nervous system, own your triggers, and lead with calm strength. To step into being the present and masculine leader in your relationship.

If you’ve ever asked yourself “Why doesn’t she soften or trust me?”, this episode will show you where to start.

(0:02:00) - The struggle

(0:05:07) - The #1 reason she can't relax with you

(0:11:30) - My stories

(0:18:55) - The shift and how to change it

(0:23:57) - Practical tips to help her relax

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Ready to Go Deeper?

If this hits home, I’ve put together a step-by-step guide called - How to Be the Man She Can Finally Relax With.

Inside, I walk you through my 5-Trait Framework that shifts her nervous system from guarded → open.

You’ll also get:
✅ A Weekly Relationship Check-In Kit to bring connection back fast
✅ Bonus tools my private clients use to turn arguments into intimacy
✅ A simple checklist you can follow to make immediate changes with her

This isn’t theory, these are proven tools I use with high-performing men who were stuck in cycles of distance, pressure, and disconnection, and who now enjoy relationships full of respect, attraction, and ease.

👉 Grab the guide now → Access Here

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🎧 The Heart-Led Man Podcast is hosted by Evan Spargo, MCC Coach & Founder of The Ascension Men's Community. Helping men lead with purpose, presence, and peace, without losing themselves or the people they love.

Website: www.evanspargo.co

Instagram: @evanspargo