If you've ever opened a dating app and immediately wanted to throw your phone across the room — this one's for you.

In episode 263 of the Feminist Dating Show, I'm coaching Kayla live. This episode is for you if you relate to any of this:

• You open a dating app and immediately spiral into, "What if they make me uncomfortable?" or "what if I say something stupid?"
• You avoid swiping because judging people by their photos makes you feel like a bad person
• You watch your friends get matches and wonder what you're doing wrong
• You feel like a late bloomer, a re-entry dater, or just behind
• Deep down, you're afraid the real problem is that you're just not lovable...

In this episode, I help Kayla name what's underneath her dating avoidance. We name what makes dating apps so dang difficult on our brains/bodies/nervous systems (they are such a flawed tool!). AND we build a simple "if this, then that" plan for dating that soothes her anxiety. In this episode, you'll learn to swipe without abandoning yourself, without judging yourself for your attraction preferences, or without lowering your standards.

Work with Lily:

Read Lily's book: Thank You, More Please

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This one's for you if dating has started to feel like a hamster wheel of painful experiences… and you keep thinking: I've done so much work on myself—why is this still so hard?

In this live session, I coach Quinn through:

• the loop of type vs. essence-based preferences
• the fear of being "too much" in dating
• what to do when uncertainty triggers a full-body spiral
• how to tell if your "picker is broken"… or if you've been trained to assume you're the problem
• self-compassion as a real tool (not a pep talk) to re-regulate and come back home to yourself
• how to update your EBPs so you're not dating someone you have to parent or beg for affection
• community + dating after a big move

By the end, Quinn says it perfectly: this session felt like closing a bunch of tabs in her brain and finally having the system run again.

If you've ever been in the mindset of "it's fate or it's me," I want you to hear this.

Work with Lily:

Read Lily's book: Thank You, More Please

Watch on YouTube: youtube.com/@datebrazen

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Have you ever wondered if you're "too late" because dating has never worked the way it seems to work for everyone else?

My client Liz joined Main Character Dating at 38 having never been in a long-term relationship. She felt behind, alone, and unsure how to even do dating.

What shifted for Liz inside Main Character Dating was hope.

No more dating shame.

And an action plan that helped her move toward the right dates with self-trust and support.

In this episode of The Feminist Dating Show, Liz shares how dating went from something she avoided to something that finally felt possible.

In this conversation, Liz shares how:

• Dating went from something she avoided to something that felt possible
• Community helped her realize she wasn't the only one
• Structure and feedback helped her interrupt old patterns
• She started dating with clarity, courage, and direction

Her words say it best: dating feels possible now.

If you've ever thought "Is it always going to be like this?" — this one's for you.

And I also want you to know this:

Main Character Dating is open for enrollment right now.

This is my year-long group coaching program for anyone who hasn't found a romantic relationship (or the right one), and wants a joyful dating life that makes the right relationship inevitable.

🗓 Doors are open until Monday, Feb 16th.

💖 Learn more and join us here: datebrazen.com/dating

No matter what, I know Liz's story will help you feel less alone—and more hopeful about what's possible for you.

Work with Lily:

Read Lily's book: Thank You, More Please

Watch on YouTube: youtube.com/@datebrazen

Follow on TikTok: tiktok.com/@datebrazen

Follow on Instagram: instagram.com/datebrazen

Explore programs + resources: datebrazen.com