Divorce can feel like a battle over custody, finances, and who was “right.” But in this episode, I challenge the idea that winning in court means winning in life. I break down research on high-conflict divorce, co-parenting outcomes, children’s long-term wellbeing, mental health during divorce, and the financial mistakes many people make during litigation.

If you’re going through divorce or navigating separation, I share a strategic framework to help you think beyond short-term victories and focus on emotional stability, financial security, and rebuilding your identity. The goal isn’t to win the divorce. It’s to win your future.

• 01:50 The Illusion of Winning: What Does Victory Mean?
• 02:46 Act One: The Illusion of Winning
• 04:08 The Real Cost of High-Conflict Divorce
• 05:02 The Legal Process vs. The Life Process
• 06:18 Research Insights: Long-Term Effects of Conflict
• 08:04 The Five-Year Filter: A Tool for Decision Making
• 10:16 Act Two: The Architecture of Winning the Future
• 10:35 Pillar One: Emotional and Mental Health
• 11:59 Pillar Two: Co-Parenting and Children's Wellbeing
• 13:30 Pillar Three: Financial Stability
• 14:23 Pillar Four: Identity Reconstruction
• 15:57 Pillar Five: Long-Term Peace and Resilience
• 17:18 Act Three: Becoming You 2.0
• 18:46 Real Stories of Transformation
• 22:21 Conclusion: Winning Your Life, Not Just the Case

Most people don't realize Valentine’s Day is less a cause of relationship problems and more a mirror revealing what's already broken. If you’re navigating heartbreak, separation, or divorce this episode helps you decode what Valentine’s Day exposes about your relationship and your emotional state and how to turn it into an opportunity for growth.

00:00 Introduction: Valentine's Day and Relationship Breakdowns

• 01:14 Episode Overview: Roses, Reality, and Ruptures
• 02:03 Valentine's Day: The Super Bowl of Expectations
• 04:56 Emotional Accelerator: Valentine's Day Reveals, Not Causes
• 06:15 Emotional Audit: Questions to Ask Yourself
• 08:03 Divorce Season: Why Breakups Spike
• 08:59 Three Valentine's Day Experiences: Celebration, Disappointment, Aftermath
• 11:56 Cognitive Dissonance and Deadline Effects
• 15:02 Surviving Valentine's Day: Principles for Singles and Divorced
• 19:35 Valentine's Day and Co-Parenting
• 23:00 Reframe: Valentine's Day as a Mirror, Not a Measure
• 24:58 Valentine's Day as a Data Point in Personal Growth
• 27:55 Self-Leadership: How to Navigate Valentine's Day
• 28:52 Conclusion: Reclaim and Reboot Divorce Coaching

In this episode of the Conscious Divorce Podcast, I dive deep into the challenges and strategies of protecting kids through divorce. As a parent, navigating co-parenting with a narcissist co-parent can be daunting, but it's crucial to focus on what's best for the children. I share insights on how to manage parental alienation and ensure your kids thrive despite the circumstances. Join me as I explore evidence-based strategies to create a nurturing environment for your children, even in the face of adversity.

Chapters:

• 00:00 Introduction
• 03:15 Protecting Kids Through Divorce
• 06:45 Co-Parenting Strategies
• 10:30 Dealing with a Narcissist Co-Parent
• 14:00 Understanding Parental Alienation
• 18:00 Conclusion

In this episode of The Conscious Divorce Podcast, I sit down with Connie Howard, founder of What If Wealth, to talk about how real financial modeling helps people make confident decisions during divorce and major life transitions.

We explore why “even” settlements aren’t always equal, the true cost of keeping the family home, how inflation quietly erodes spousal support, and why cash flow matters just as much as net worth. Most importantly, we talk about how seeing your numbers clearly can replace fear with confidence before mediation or settlement.

If you’re navigating divorce and asking yourself, “Am I going to be okay?” this conversation brings clarity.

• 00:00 Introduction to Spousal Support and Inflation
• 18:53 Preparing for Mediation
• 01:17:59 The Human Side of Financial Decisions
• 09:08:02 What If Wealth's Approach
• 17:53:53 The Importance of Visualizing Financial Data
• 30:48:08 Final Advice and Giveaway

In this episode, I delve into the transformative journey of 'winning the future' beyond the confines of divorce battles. Through compelling stories and research, I emphasize the significance of focusing on long-term goals, emotional health, and effective co-parenting. I share strategies for rebuilding identity, achieving financial stability, and fostering peace post-divorce. This episode highlights the pivotal role of divorce coaching in making strategic decisions that align with one's future aspirations.

• 00:00 Introduction to Winning the Future
• 01:47 The Importance of Long-Term Goals
• 06:47 Emotional Health and Co-Parenting
• 13:04 Financial Stability and Identity Reconstruction
• 16:02 Peace, Resilience, and Daily Choices

In this episode of the Conscious Divorce Podcast, I delve into the transformative power of divorce mediation. If you're at a crossroads, contemplating divorce, or seeking a path that prioritizes your children's well-being and your financial future, this episode is for you. I share insights from my years in the mental health field, guiding you through the mediation process, its benefits over litigation, and how to prepare strategically. Discover how mediation can offer control, cost-effectiveness, and a cooperative approach to divorce. Join me as we explore how to navigate this challenging transition with clarity and confidence. Your future starts here. #DivorceMediation #ConsciousDivorce #FamilyWellbeing

• 00:00 Introduction to Divorce Mediation
• 01:49 The Benefits of Mediation Over Litigation
• 04:00 Preparing for Mediation: Key Steps
• 06:35 Understanding the Mediation Process
• 09:52 Short-term, Medium-term, and Long-term Planning
• 13:12 Financial Clarity and Legal Guidance
• 15:52 Emotional Regulation and Support
• 18:25 Crafting Creative Solutions in Mediation
• 24:08 Common Pitfalls and How to Avoid Them
• 26:18 When Mediation Isn't Appropriate
• 28:45 Implementing Agreements in Real Life
• 31:35 Conclusion and Next Steps

Takeaways

1. Divorce mediation empowers individuals to negotiate terms themselves, regain control, and craft creative solutions that serve their unique circumstances.
2. Strategic preparation, financial clarity, and a focus on long-term well-being are essential for successful divorce mediation.

In this episode of the Conscious Divorce Podcast, I dive into the transformative journey of navigating divorce with intention and awareness. We explore how to approach this life transition not as an ending, but as a launch pad for the life you're meant to live. Join me as I discuss the financial wake-up call that everyone considering divorce should hear before taking action.

• 01:53 The Importance of Financial Preparation
• 03:46 What Goes Wrong in Divorce Preparation
• 06:43 Practical Steps for Divorce Preparation
• 11:32 Understanding Marital vs. Separate Property
• 20:40 The Need for Two Budgets: During and After Divorce
• 25:22 Budgeting vs. Financial Planning
• 37:52 Updating Documents Post-Divorce
  

Throughout the episode, I am joined by Hirsh from Lifecycle Financial, who shares his expertise on the financial complexities of divorce. We cover everything from gathering essential documents to understanding the nuances of asset division. Whether you're considering divorce or already in the process, this episode is packed with insights to help you reclaim your financial power and clarity.

Most New Year’s resolutions fail, not because you lack discipline, but because the system is broken.

In this episode, let's explore why traditional goal setting doesn’t work and shares a proven, science-backed approach to building habits that actually stick. You’ll learn how identity-based habits, emotional regulation, and simple systems can help you create sustainable change in your health, career, relationships, and personal life.

Whether you’re rebuilding after divorce or simply ready for a life reset, this episode offers a practical roadmap for creating long-term growth without relying on motivation or willpower.