What happens when the life you built no longer fits? In this deeply honest conversation, Dr. Danite sits down with her best friend of 25 years, naturopathic physician Dr. Tonya Fleck, to explore why so many women are hitting breaking points—and what's waiting on the other side.

Together they unpack the phenomenon of women burning out after decades of "doing it all," the hormonal shifts of perimenopause that change everything, and why the path forward isn't about pushing harder. From the wisdom hidden in our breakdowns to the power of finally listening to our bodies, this episode is a roadmap for women navigating life's biggest pivot points.

If you've ever felt lost between who you were and who you're becoming, this conversation will remind you that you're not alone—and that there's a more delicious way to live.

In This Episode We Explore

✦ Why women are experiencing collective burnout after years of "playing the man's game"

✦ The hormonal truth behind perimenopause—including how dropping oxytocin literally makes us "give less fucks"

✦ What it means to override our needs and desires, and the cost of ignoring our body's wisdom

✦ The difference between masculine doing and feminine receiving—and why less truly is more

✦ How to listen to intuition when your brain keeps saying "that's not logical"

✦ The sacred discomfort of sitting with ourselves when there's nothing left to distract us

✦ Why pleasure isn't a luxury—it's the gateway to everything we've been seeking

✦ Rebranding menopause as liberation, wisdom, and the beginning of the most beautiful chapter

About Dr. Tonya Fleck

Dr. Tonya Fleck is the Founder and Medical Director of Santa Cruz Naturopathic Medical Center, where she has been practicing since 2004. She holds a doctorate from the Southwest College of Naturopathic Medicine, a BS in Psychology from SUNY Buffalo, and completed graduate studies in Marriage and Family Therapy at the University of Maryland.

Dr. Fleck takes a holistic, mind–body approach to health, partnering with patients to uncover root causes of imbalance. Her practice blends bio-identical hormones, IV nutrient therapy, botanical medicine, detoxification, and lifestyle counseling. Voted "Best Naturopathic Doctor" in Santa Cruz since 2011, she is known for leaving patients inspired, empowered, and deeply seen.

Connect with Dr. Tonya: scnmc.com

The Receptive Woman Retreat

Guatemala | January 31st - February 6th

Ready to step off the ride and into spaciousness? Dr. Danite is hosting The Receptive Woman Retreat—an intimate gathering for women ready to soften, receive, and reconnect with their feminine power through sacred tantric practices, emotional release work, and sisterhood.

If anything in this episode stirred something in you, this retreat might be your next step.

Book a free connection call with Dr. Danite to explore if this experience is right for you: drdanite.com/the-receptive-woman-retreat

Connect with Dr. Danite

🌸 Website: drdanite.com

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This episode is sponsored by Bliss & Tallow, the luxury tallow-based skincare line created by Dr. Danite. More than moisturizer—it's an invitation to slow down, reconnect with your body, and make pleasur

Why does working like a man lead to burnout in women? Dr. Danite sits down with certified hypnotherapist and feminine embodiment guide Zoe Dane to explore what it truly means to work like a woman—honoring natural cycles, prioritizing pleasure as productivity fuel, and creating from spaciousness rather than grinding. Spoiler: Less is more.

Meet Zoe Dane
Certified hypnotherapist, tantra yoga teacher, and feminine embodiment guide specializing in sensuality and devotion. Host of The Better It Gets Podcast, co-host of Dripping In Divinity Podcast, and founder of The Vessel Membership for women devoted to love, legacy, and leadership.

Key Topics
- From feminist movement to feminine embodiment awakening
- Why emulating men leads to burnout and disease
- You can't play a violin like a drum—each instrument needs its own approach
- Honoring the four seasons of your menstrual cycle
- Nature connection, allowing over forcing, prioritizing relaxation
- Embodiment practices: dancing, yoga, breast massage, self-pleasure

Powerful Quotes
"You can't play a violin like a drum. They both make music, but you have to know how to work the beauty of each instrument." - Dr. Danite

"Prioritize your purr. Prioritize that which makes you purr." - Zoe Dane
"Feminine brilliance comes from spaciousness." - Zoe

"The more I soften, the more I move in my pleasure, the more I slow down, the more money I make." - Dr. Danite

Practical Practices
- Morning: 10 minutes of sensual yoga flow or dance—allow yourself to be danced
- Throughout Your Day: Butter your body slowly, breast massage with tallow butter, beautify your workspace with roses and candles, work in something sensual
- Self-Pleasure: Suspend goal of climax, work with colors of light (gold, pink, magenta), use breath as lifeline, use hands to "play your instrument"
- Nature: Plant feet on earth, get your yoni in the sun, suspend judgment

The 10 Codes Unlocked
1. Nature is Your Teacher
2. Allowing Over Forcing
3. Prioritize Relaxation
4. Spaciousness Creates Brilliance
5. Embodiment is Your Power
6. Pleasure is Activation
7. Tune Your Instrument
8. Beautify Everything
9. The Two is Everything
10. Devotion to Your Vessel

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Connect
Zoe Dane zoedanecoaching.com | IG: @zoedane | YT: @zoedanelove
Dr. Danite Haller drdanite.com | blissandtallow.com

Integration Practice
Choose ONE practice that makes you purr and commit daily: morning dance, butter your body with full presence, breast massage, self-pleasure without goal of climax, beautify your workspace.
Journal: What does my purr sound/feel like? Where am I forcing instead of allowing? How can I bring more spaciousness into my day?

"This conversation illuminated something so important: we've been taught to feel shame about the very things that make us feminine. But when we reclaim our pleasure, our cycles, our sensuality, our connection to nature—we unlock a power that doesn't require grinding. It requires softening. And that, my loves, is revolutionary." - Dr. Danite

The Bliss Lab with Dr. Danite - Where working like a woman means flowing with your natural rhythms, prioritizing your purr, and creating from divine spaciousness.

Episode 2: Dancing with the Dark - Navigating Life's Unravelings with Dina Tibbs

Dr. Danite and herbalist Dina Tibbs explore life's challenging transitions and why breakdowns are actually soul wake-up calls. Learn practical wisdom for navigating the dark with grace.

Extended Description

Dr. Danite sits down with herbalist Dina Tibbs to explore life's most challenging transitions—those moments when everything falls apart and we're caught between what was and what's becoming. They reveal why these seeming catastrophes are actually designed to grab our attention when we've been ignoring our soul's whispers, and share practical wisdom for navigating the dark with grace and curiosity.

Meet Dina Tibbs

Proprietress and Chief Experience Officer of Anna's Apothecary, focusing on herbal remedies and education. She combines corporate strategy with healing arts to create conscious businesses that serve wholeness, community, and reciprocity with nature. A cancer survivor with deep wisdom about navigating life's sacred transitions.

Key Topics

• Why breakdowns are proportional to denial
• Working with natural rhythms for healing
• Spiritual bypassing vs. sacred integration
• Death as teacher and life activator
• Creating support during transitions

Powerful Quotes

"The pain of a lie is just pain. The pain of the truth sets you free." - Dr. Danite

"Breakdowns usually come as a result of lying to yourself for long periods of time." - Dina Tibbs

"Suffering is resistance. Pain is inevitable, but suffering is a choice." - Dr. Danite

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Connect

Dina Tibbs - Anna's Apothecary

• annasapothecary.co
• Facebook
• Instagram
• mavens-nest.com

Dr. Danite Haller

• drdanite.com
• blissandtallow.com

Integration Practice

For those in breakdown: Create daily check-ins with your body and emotions. Ask: "What is the medicine in this situation—not just for me, but for the collective?"

For supporting others: Hold space without trying to rush someone out of their process. Sometimes the greatest gift is simply witnessing someone's truth.

The Bliss Lab with Dr. Danite - Where we turn life's most challenging moments into opportunities for profound transformation.

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