This week I'm bringing on the person I trust most for the deep science: my husband, Dr. Eric Udell, 25 years into practicing naturopathic medicine. We recorded this one from our jerry-rigged studio in Costa Rica, and it's a bit of a gear shift for the show — but it's some of the most important education I've ever put out.

We go all the way into Bliss & Tallow: why tallow works with your skin instead of just sitting on it, what beeswax and coconut oil actually do in the formula, and then the harder conversation — what's NOT in it. Seed oils, parabens, phthalates, propylene glycol, mineral oil — the ingredients hiding behind labels like "fragrance," and why your skin absorbs more than you think.

This isn't fear-based. It's root cause education, so you can make informed choices for your body without the overwhelm.

Watch/listen to the full episode of The Bliss Lab on YouTube and all major podcast platforms.

Learn more about Dr. Eric Udell's work at https://aznaturalhealth.com

Bliss & Tallow — use code BLISS10 for 10% off at https://blissandtallow.com

Timestamps

0:00 – Welcome back to The Bliss Lab (recording from Costa Rica)

0:19 – Today's topic: an inside look at Bliss & Tallow

2:40 – Introducing her guest: Dr. Eric Udell

3:57 – 25 years in naturopathic medicine: his core philosophy

5:10 – The body's innate ability to heal

8:08 – Why treatment has to be individualized, not diagnosis-based

9:17 – Witnessing "impossible" healing after 25 years in practice

12:09 – A day in the life of Dr. Udell's health discipline

15:04 – Healing his own asthma: the journey that shaped him

19:12 – Why feeling good changes everything

22:11 – Living in a "disease-producing" modern environment

26:37 – Why what's ON your skin matters as much as your diet

27:18 – Tallow 101: why it's Bliss & Tallow's hero ingredient

35:04 – The fat-soluble vitamins in tallow (A, D, E, K2)

45:59 – Rethinking sun exposure and skin health

55:21 – Coconut oil's role in the formula

57:59 – Beeswax: the unsung hero ingredient

1:08:14 – "Dr. Udell approved": how Bliss & Tallow got made

1:09:19 – What's NOT in Bliss & Tallow: seed oils explained

1:30:47 – How long seed oils stay in your body

1:42:56 – Why seed oils in skincare absorb into your bloodstream

1:48:10 – Red-flag ingredients: parabens, phthalates & propylene glycol

1:57:39 – The truth about "fragrance" on ingredient labels

2:02:11 – Mineral oil & petroleum: what to actually look for

2:04:46 – Root cause medicine and lowering your toxic load

2:07:30 – Closing advice: start with one product, not everything at once

2:09:12 – Where to find Bliss & Tallow (+ discount code)

Dr. Danite sits down with Caitlin Cherry — senior pharmaceutical sales executive, mother of two, and client-turned-soul-sister of six years — for an unfiltered look at what it costs to run your life on performance and praise. Caitlin opens up about building her identity on achievement from childhood, the numbness of "high-functioning" burnout, and the slow, sometimes uncomfortable work of coming back into her body through retreat, meditation, and marriage. Together they unpack bliss codes like less is more and acceptance as the doorway to change, the polarity dynamics playing out in her marriage, and how a mother's regulation ripples through her whole household. Dr. Danite closes solo with reflections on sisterhood, softness as strength, and an invitation to her upcoming retreat.

Guest: Caitlin Cherry — senior executive in medical/pharmaceutical sales, mother of two, longtime client and friend of Dr. Danite

Contact: cherry.caitlin@gmail.com


Dr. Danite's next retreat, The Receptive Woman Retreat, is October 22–25, 2026 in Patagonia, Arizona. If anything in this episode is stirring something in you, book a free connection call with Dr. Danite to see if it's the right fit:

👉 drdanite.com/arizona-receptive-woman-retreat


Bliss & Tallow — use code BLISS10 for 10% off. https://blissandtallow.com/




Timestamps

• 00:00 — The inner wisdom we override
• 00:44 — Welcome to The Bliss Lab
• 01:02 — Introducing today's episode: is bliss our birthright?
• 02:19 — Meet Caitlin Cherry
• 04:18 — Caitlin introduces herself: exec, mother, wife, breadwinner
• 06:48 — High-functioning identity and hustle culture
• 08:50 — Where the performance identity was rooted (childhood)
• 10:25 — The small voice we're never taught to trust
• 12:39 — Sponsor: Bliss & Tallow
• 13:53 — The attention economy and disconnection from self
• 32:13 — The positive feedback loop of self-care
• 33:01 — Sponsor: Bliss & Tallow
• 34:21 — The mother as the energetic center of the home
• 36:34 — How Caitlin's daughter changed as Caitlin regulated
• 37:39 — The greatest gift: showing your kids self-care
• 39:13 — Sitting in stillness — "the coin drop"
• 40:16 — The body as the doorway back to self
• 41:23 — Why loving yourself is the only real unlock
• 42:14 — Compassion over comparison
• 43:44 — Bliss code: acceptance as the door to change
• 45:23 — Polarity in marriage: Caitlin & her husband Frank
• 46:42 — Softness, breadwinning, and falling back in love
• 48:29 — Rewiring old patterns in real time
• 1:00:25 — Caitlin's first solo trip — the retreat
• 1:01:48 — The discomfort of stillness and unplugging
• 1:02:05 — Grieving the connection to yourself
• 1:03:10 — Barefoot, open, awake — embodiment on retreat
• 1:04:46 — Watching Caitlin's Shakti awaken
• 1:04:46 — Sponsor: Bliss & Tallow
• 1:06:04 — Dr. Danite's solo wrap-up: sisterhood & softness as power
• 1:11:52 — Fueled by desire vs. fueled by fear
• 1:12:02 — Announcing The Receptive Woman Retreat, October 2026
• 1:15:27 — Outro, subscribe & giveaway

The Bliss Lab with Dr. Danite | Episode Show Notes

Episode Description

What do men actually experience when polarity is working? And what kills attraction faster than anything else?

In this rich, eye-opening conversation, Dr. Danite sits down with old friend and naturopathic colleague Dr. Peter Swanz to explore polarity from the masculine perspective. Together they unpack the "nice guy" trap, why attachment to outcomes is so painful for men, and what it really means to hold space for a woman's emotions without trying to fix them.

From the bedroom to the boardroom, this episode reveals how understanding masculine and feminine energy dynamics can transform not just your relationship, but your entire life. If you've ever wondered what men are really looking for in intimacy or how to create the kind of safety that unlocks a woman's full surrender, this conversation will change everything.

In This Episode We Explore

✦ What polarity actually is and why it's not about gender

✦ The "nice guy" syndrome: covert contracts, people-pleasing, and the pain of unspoken expectations

✦ Why following a woman's emotional lead is the worst thing a man can do

✦ The breathwork practice that changed everything for Peter in heated moments

✦ How emotional fluidity unlocks erotic fluidity

✦ Why foreplay starts with building trust all day long

✦ The mother-son dynamic that kills attraction in relationships

✦ What men actually receive when a woman fully surrenders

✦ Sex and spirituality: why Tantra includes what other traditions sanitized

✦ The feminine awakening and the call for aligned masculine energy

✦ Book recommendations for men ready to do the work

About Dr. Peter Swanz

Dr. Peter Swanz is a naturopathic physician, men's health coach, writer, and stand-up comic. For more than two decades he has helped individuals and couples transform their health and relationships by weaving together holistic medicine, functional fitness, and lifestyle coaching.

As the creator of Training for the Bedroom, Dr. Swanz inspires men and women to cultivate strength, presence, and polarity... not just in the gym, but in every aspect of life and love. His teaching style blends medical wisdom, real-world humor, and grounded masculine leadership, making complex ideas simple, practical, and engaging.

Connect with Dr. Peter Swanz:

Instagram: @trainingforthebedroom

Facebook: TFTBedroom

YouTube: @TrainingForTheBedroom

Website: vitalforcenaturopathy.com

Books Mentioned

📖 No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover 📖 From the Core by John Wineland

Work with Dr. Danite

Ready to explore polarity, embodiment, and feminine power in your own life? Dr. Danite works with women and couples seeking deeper connection, aliveness, and intimacy.

Book a connection call: drdanite.com

Connect with Dr. Danite

🌸 Website: drdanite.com

🧴 Bliss & Tallow Skincare: blissandtallow.com Use code BLISS10 for 10% off your first order

This episode is sponsored by Bliss & Tallow, the luxury tallow-based skincare line created by Dr. Danite. More than moisturizer, it's an invitation to slow down, reconnect with your body, and make pleasure part of your daily ritual.