On this episode of The Three Mantras Podcast, I’m joined by Ritchie Blair, Founder and CEO of ALYST Health, for a funny and insightful conversation about perception, calm reactions, and what really matters in life. Drawing from over 20 years in the recovery field, we explore how staying calm can de-escalate chaos, help others in crisis, and turn stressful moments into clarity—and sometimes even laughter.

Because we both work in the business of helping others, we share how calm reactions have allowed us to de-escalate intense situations, soothe people in crisis, and turn moments of chaos into moments of clarity and success. The lesson is simple but profound: when you stay calm, you stay in control.

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I Lost Control Once—and It Put Me in the Hospital | A Lesson in Staying Calm ...

In a world that feels louder, angrier, and more reactive by the day, this week’s episode of The Three Mantras is about something radical: staying calm.

We’re living in a time where people are over-excited, anxious, protesting, reacting—and often escalating situations that never needed to happen in the first place. In this episode, I talk honestly about why calm, neutral energy isn’t weakness… it’s power.

I read from The Three Mantras and A Course in Miracles, both of which point to the same truth: when we stay level-headed and grounded, problems lose their fuel.

I also share a personal story from my earlier days—getting into a bar fight on Sunset Boulevard that landed me in the hospital. Nothing about that night needed to happen. It all came from being emotionally over-charged instead of calm in the moment.

Had I stayed centered, things would have worked out better than I could’ve imagined.

This episode isn’t about judging the chaos—it’s about choosing peace in the middle of it.

If you’ve been feeling anxious, reactive, or overwhelmed by what’s happening around you, this conversation is for you.

#InnerPeace

#Mindfulness

#Overreaction

#MentalHealthAwareness

#AcourseInMiracles

* This episode's sound was not the best, my apologies! I have fixed the issue for next week.

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What No One Tells You About Love, Aging & Fulfillment .

The Truth About What Actually Makes You Happy,

When Ambition Loses Its Grip — And Love Takes Over ...

The Shift Every Woman Feels (And Men Eventually Catch Up To)

This week on The Three Mantras Podcast, I sit down with Andrew Strassner, Marriage & Family Therapist (MA, LMFT) — and someone I’ve known for over 15 years.

We talk about what actually matters as you get older.

When you’re younger, it’s about achievement.

After 40, it becomes about connection.

We unpack the quiet shift that happens with age — success, relationships, identity, and the lessons life only teaches you after you’ve lived a little.

Honest. Grounded. Real.

If you’re rethinking what you’re chasing, this episode will hit.

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🎙️ This Week’s Guest: Andrew Strassner, MA, LMFT

Andrew is a Marriage & Family Therapist

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Website: https://andrewstrassner.com/

Andrew’s Therapy Practice: Andrew Morris Strassner, Marriage & Family Therapist, Los Angeles, CA, 90027 | Psychology Today

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I chased girls, money, and status. After 40, I realized fulfillment comes from connection — not success.

Girls, gold, status.

That was the scoreboard for most of my life.

The chase. The validation. The lifestyle.

On paper, it looked like success.

Then I turned 40 — and everything changed. In this episode of The Three Mantras, I talk honestly about the moment I realized that the things I spent years chasing weren’t the things that actually fulfilled me. I’m not here to shame ambition or desire — I lived that life fully.

But somewhere along the way, I discovered something deeper: connection. Presence. Meaning. Peace.

I never thought I’d be the guy talking about real life being more than status, money, or who you’re seen with… but growth has a way of humbling you.

This conversation is about evolution — especially for men who’ve “made it” and still feel like something’s missing.If you’ve ever hit your goals and wondered why it didn’t feel the way you expected…

If you’ve lived fast and now feel called to live real…

This episode is for you.

🎙 Raw conversation

🔥 Masculinity without the mask

🧠 Success, spirituality, and what actually matters

Watch all the way through — this one goes deeper than expected.

#After 40…”

#The Truth About Success

#LifeAfter40

#MensGrowth

#ModernMasculinity

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In Part Two of our deep-dive on Dating, we go beyond the symptoms and into the system that’s quietly shaping how people experience love today. From social media illusions and curated “perfect relationships” to the emotional patterns that drive romantic obsession, approval-seeking, and attachment wounds, this episode breaks down what real, healthy connection actually looks like. We explore the difference between love, need, fantasy, and addiction—and how young people in particular are being conditioned to confuse attention for intimacy. If you’ve ever wondered why modern relationships feel harder, faster, and more fragile, this conversation may change the way you see love forever.

#DatingInTheDigitalAge

#Badbunny

#LoveAddiction #HealthyRelationships

#manifesting

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This episode is about why the hottest connections are usually the most broken ones.

In LA, attraction is everywhere—perfect bodies, curated lifestyles, endless options. But underneath the yoga pants, cold plunges, and rooftop cocktails is something way less glamorous: love addiction and unhealed childhood trauma.

In this episode of The Three Mantras Podcast, I break down:
• Why sexual chemistry is often trauma responding to trauma
• How emotionally unavailable people find each other effortlessly
• Why intensity feels like intimacy—but never lasts
• The cycle of attraction, sex, distance, and collapse
• Why LA dating rewards desire, not depth

These relationships look incredible on Instagram.
They feel electric in bed.
And they implode the moment real emotional safety is required.

If you keep attracting unavailable partners…
If passion keeps replacing peace…
If the connection is hot but unstable…

This episode explains why—and how to stop mistaking chaos for love.

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In this episode of The Three Mantras Podcast, we dive into an honest conversation about the overlap between mental health and addiction, and how easily one can be mistaken for the other. So many of us have used “mental health” as a shield because it feels more acceptable, more sympathetic, and less confronting than acknowledging patterns of addiction. But when we blur the lines, we delay the real help and healing we need.

This discussion explores self-awareness, accountability, and the courage it takes to stop hiding behind a label that protects us from the truth. It’s about understanding our own motivations, recognizing when we are avoiding something deeper, and learning to face what we fear with integrity and compassion. If you’ve ever struggled to tell the difference between when you’re taking care of yourself and when you’re avoiding yourself, this episode is for you.

#MentalHealthRealTalk #AddictionRecovery #SobrietyLife #InnerChildHealing #MentalHealthAwareness #SpiritualGrowth #SelfHelpPodcast #TraumaHealing

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This week on The Three Mantras Podcast, I talk about something we’ve almost forgotten how to do in today’s world: loving confrontation.

Not shaming.

Not canceling.

Not silence.

But the kind of honest, compassionate truth-telling that actually helps people get better.

In an age where addiction, overdose, and quiet suffering are everywhere, avoiding hard conversations doesn’t protect anyone — it isolates them. Growth doesn’t happen without reflection, and reflection often requires someone who cares enough to speak up.

As I head to Boston during Christmas week, this episode feels especially timely. The holidays bring love, memory, grief, and truth to the surface. This is a reminder that accountability and compassion can — and must — coexist.

If we really love people, we don’t abandon them to comfort.

We stay present.

We tell the truth.

And we do it with love.

#RecoveryTalk

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#HealingJourney

#PersonalGrowth

#EmotionalSobriety

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