If our kids are *constantly* forgetting things when they walk out the door - like their instrument for music practice - it's tempting to think they're being lazy or absentminded.

But when we look below the surface, we often find it's just a lagging skill. Their brain is still developing and they need our support (not shame) to help them grow.

It's not an 'age thing' - they could be 6 or 16 and still find the same activities challenging. As parents, we need to recognise the skill deficit and lower our expectations around how they 'should' be acting.

Join Heidi Rogers in this episode to learn:

- Why forgetting the same thing every week comes down to capacity
- Why shame and punishment work against skill development in kids
- How a simple trick at the front door can support them while their brain catches up

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When a Spicy teen blows past curfew and sneaks friends in until 5AM, punishment feels like the answer, whether that's taking their phone or piling on more rules.

None of it works the way we hope.

A missed curfew is just a brain that hasn't learned to plan yet. So punishment isn't the answer.

Because in the teen years, we need to be as connected to them as possible.

Why? We get fired from the 'manager' role we're used to having as parents.

Staying connected is how we get rehired as a 'consultant' our teen will actually listen to when they need help.

Join Heidi to learn why punishment drives teens away, and how to become the adviser they trust enough to listen to.

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When we ask our child to carry a plate to the sink, why do they freeze, drift off, or melt down?

Because the ADHD brain hates doing things with multiple steps... and one small chore is usually more complex than it looks.

It's tempting to call that laziness. But most of the time our child isn't choosing, they simply can't yet.

The kindest shift we can make is the story we tell ourselves: they can't, not won't.

Tune in to learn:

- Why calling chores family contributions changes how it feels to help
- How to understand what our child's capacity really is
- How to get their buy-in when it comes to chores

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