We're so inconsistent with the podcast and it would be super easy to just feel bad about it and beat ourselves up. But no - we will just keep swimming :). We tend to attach emotions to things and we end up stressed out because of it. It's not that we want to detach - that can be just as bad. Instead, let's work on the art of "non-attachment," including to our inconsistent podcast recording. 

For homework, try to notice the moments when you find yourself attaching to something you see, hear, read, etc.  Or perhaps avoidance/detachment is your thing? Either way, try and notice when it's happening and instead of reacting, take a deep breath. See what happens.

We're all creatures of comfort. But is that pursuit of things that make us comfortable actually hurting us and leading to more discomfort in the end? Magda and Tracy explore their relationship with their habits, such as drinking alcohol. At what point does it go from being delicious and satisfying to harmful and overindulgent? Why don't we stick to doing things that are in our best interest and instead treat ourselves - and our bodies - poorly in the name of "comfort?" 

Some food for thought for our listeners: 

When it comes to things that you do "to give you comfort," what are your intentions? What is the goal? What are the boundaries you're willing to put on those experiences? For example, if it's wine that gives you comfort, at what point is that achieved? How many glasses serves you well vs how many are to your detriment? 

Whatever is the thing you do / eat / drink, etc., would you do this to your best friend? If not, what is driving you to cross your own boundaries? 

What do you think? 

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Show Notes

Byron Katie's worksheet for self-coaching:  https://thework.com/instruction-the-work-byron-katie/

00:00 - Intro + What is invalidation?
05:45 - How did the topic of invalidation come up?
08:00 - The dark cloud of invalidation and what it feels like
09:30 - Thinking of the worst-case scenario - is it preparedness or is it a self-defeating
12:50 - Reframing dark thoughts into questions and try to answer them as objectively as possible.
15:55 - Invalidation of the feelings of invalidation, self-compassion, and invalidating others
18:13 - Magda shares a real-time example of a trigger during this conversation and examines it with Tracy as an opportunity to grow and feel good in her own skin.
21:51 - The opportunity presented by invalidation
23:00 - Invalidation doesn't serve us. What happens if we don't get over it?
26:10 - How to unstick yourself, and the first self-reflection question.
27:38 - Tracy and Magda's answers to the question
33:02 - Compliments
33:55 - Self-reflection questions

How you can validate us - please like, subscribe, leave a review for us on whichever platform you're listening to this podcast. It helps us feel validated by you and helps us be seen by more people.

Self-Reflections
1. When there's a sense of invalidation, what is it that I'm feeling invalidated about and where is this coming from?
2. What is it that I need to give myself right now?
3. No one can reject you unless you're rejecting yourself. Are you rejecting yourself?
4. Have a conversation with someone who is a good listener or self-journal about the issue to bring it out of your head so that you can look at it with objectivity.