Making friends as an adult can feel weirdly vulnerable — like you’re back in high school, with better manners and less time.

In this episode, we talk about why friendship gets harder as life gets fuller… and why so many friendships don’t end from one big moment, but from a slow build-up of unspoken expectations, assumptions, and missed repairs.

If you’ve ever:

• felt that pit in your stomach trying to “put yourself out there”
• grieved a friendship breakup and didn’t know what to do with it
• wondered if you’re the only one who overthinks every interaction
• craved a real village but don’t know where to start…

…this conversation is for you.

We share what we’re learning about building deeper connection: showing up with curiosity, creating room for misunderstanding, asking for clarity, and learning how to repair when things get messy, because real community isn’t found fully formed. It’s built.

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00:00 Making Friends as an Adult 01:52 Why Adult Friendships Feel Hard 04:33 Loneliness & Why Community Matters 07:33 How Deep Friendship Is Built (Time + Presence) 10:23 Expectations That Sabotage Friendship 13:10 Normalising Awkwardness + “Getting It Wrong” 15:27 Friendship Breakups: The Pain + The Why 18:04 Rupture & Repair: Conflict Skills That Keep Friends 22:48 Assumptions, Misunderstandings & Clarity 26:46 Rebuilding Community After Isolation 30:33 Common Humanity: Connection Across Difference 35:39 Creating Room for Misunderstanding (Grace + Curiosity) 37:40 Outro