In this episode of TENm, I explore a recent realization I had about something I’m calling ‘The Unconscious Push.’ Have you ever found yourself striving to prove yourself—at work, in relationships, or in life—only to have things unexpectedly turn against you? I’ve been there, and it’s not only confusing, but it can also be painful.

Join me as I reflect on my own experiences, where trying to be the best I could be sometimes led to unintended consequences, hurting relationships and making me question my approach. We’ll dive into the idea that sometimes, it might not just be about what we’re doing, but about whether the situation or the people involved are the right fit for us.

This episode is a deep dive into personal growth, understanding how our actions impact others, and figuring out when it’s time to move on to a better environment. Whether you’re in the midst of a challenging situation or just looking to better understand your own drive, I hope this episode gives you something to think about.

If you’ve had similar experiences, I’d love to hear your thoughts—share your stories in the comments!

In this episode of TENm, we’re diving into a topic that many of us struggle with: family ties. Should you cut ties with a family member when the relationship becomes toxic, or is family something you should hold onto no matter what?

Inspired by a recent TV show discussion, RJ shares personal reflections on cutting ties with a family member, a decision made at 17 with no regrets. We explore the complexities of family relationships, the cultural and societal pressures to maintain family connections, and the tough question—when, if ever, is it okay to let go?

Whether you’ve faced this dilemma or are simply curious about the topic, this episode will give you plenty to think about. Tune in as we explore the challenges, the decisions, and the impact of family ties.

In this episode of TENm, I’m diving into generational trauma—how the experiences of our parents and grandparents shape who we are today. As a Filipino American, I reflect on the clash between strict cultural values and Western expectations, the pressure to succeed academically, struggles with weight, and being teased for questioning gender roles and sexuality.

I’ll share how these inherited traumas have affected my life and what I’m doing to break free and embrace my true self. Join me for a candid and personal discussion that’ll give you something new to think about in just 10 minutes.