True resilience isn't about being strong — it's about being real.
In this eye-opening conversation, Janet & Doug Rose from HeartRoots Resilience expose the hidden cost of "I'm fine" culture and church pressure to stay positive.
They share raw personal stories of grief and healing to reveal what authentic resilience really looks like.

🌿 Highlights & Takeaways

• Suppressing emotions only delays healing. Doug's five-year avoidance of grief after his father's death led to an emotional breakdown — a vivid reminder that unprocessed feelings don't disappear; they surface louder later.
• Church culture can unintentionally reward emotional inauthenticity. The "good Christian facade" often blocks genuine connection and resilience.
• Vulnerability = Strength. Real resilience begins when we allow ourselves to not be okay and reach for support.
• The body keeps the score. Ignoring emotions often shows up physically; processing them frees both heart and body.
• Authentic presence heals. True friends don't fix — they listen and make space for real emotion.

🛠️ Practical Tools

• Daily journaling or "morning pages" for emotional processing
• Intentional rest days without guilt
• Building a small safety net of trusted, judgment-free people
• Learning emotional awareness through Connection Codes training
• Reflecting on Jesus' example — He wept with Lazarus's family even knowing healing was coming

✨ Scripture Reflections

"Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ." — Galatians 6:2
"Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins." — 1 Peter 4:8

💛 Connect & Share

We'd love to hear how real resilience shows up in your life.
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