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How many times has your body known — long before your mind was willing to admit it — that this wasn't the love that was meant for you?

Sara-Ann Rosen is a dating coach for audacious women who refuse to settle. With a background in law and counselling, she approached dating like a research scientist — gathering data not just on others but on her own patterns. That journey became the foundation for Decoding Dating Dilemmas, through which she has supported over 500 women in releasing self-abandoning patterns and learning to choose relationships rooted in comfort, care, and consistency.

In this conversation, Sara-Ann and I explore what it truly means to stop choosing the right now person — and start choosing the right person.

What we cover:

• Why dating feels like one of the few things that gets harder with practice
• What need-meeting patterns are and how they quietly run our relationships
• The difference between the right now person and the right person
• Why a spark is one-sided — and what to look for instead
• How to assess goal alignment from the very first conversation
• What attunement really means and why it matters more than chemistry
• Why almost 40% of couples felt no attraction when they first met
• The research on desirability and aging — and why it will surprise you
• Why we question ourselves instead of the relationship — and how to stop

Find Sara-Ann Rosen: 🌐 Decoding Dating Dilemmas 📲 Connect with Sara-Ann through her coaching and speaking work

Connect with Denise | Thrive After 45™: 🌐 denisedrinkwalter. 📲 @thethriveafter45podcast 💫 IGNITE: The Inner Uprising™ — Canada's inaugural midlife women's gathering, November 2026 👉 Join the waitlist: ignite2026.lovable.app

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IGNITE is an extension of these conversations.

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