It’s hard to influence the conversation when you’re not in it.

In this week’s episode of Speaking with Confidence with Cat Matson I’m sharing my thoughts, from my own experience, of how to get a seat at ‘the table’, and, how to influence the conversation even if you’re not directly involved.

Listen in to hear;

• Why we often struggle to get included in the important conversations

• How our default reaction, moral outrage and righteous indignation won’t change a damn thing

• The value of building relationships with the people who ARE at the table

• Why being consistent in our messages is a key part of influencing decisions, and ultimately, getting a seat at the table

• How to create our own tables

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Other episodes mentioned

177 Sales Conversations That Feel Fabulous with Caitlin

https://spotifycreators-web.app.link/e/SURwp5uoMZb

You know your stuff. Everything makes sense when you’re thinking it through, or when you write it out.

But when it comes to saying it.

What (the hell) happens?

This is such a common issue experience, I’m revisiting it. Why, despite our intellect, our knowledge, our insights, do the words get stuck between mind and mouth.

Listen in to hear

• How it’s perfectly normal to struggle with expressing your thoughts clearly

• My quick and easy to use tactic to structure your thoughts, and your message

• How you can convey a stack of information without overwhelming your listener

• Why it’s not about the words you use (and what it is, instead)

• How you can establish authority even if you feel like you’re thinking aloud and collecting your thoughts as you go

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Other episodes mentioned

177 Sales conversations that feel fabulous with Caitlin (this is an example of a Confident Communication Coaching session)

https://open.spotify.com/episode/0zmVqExQE6rQfzOLkSJqk6?si=bD1Je6faRzi5rra_RrdWDw

162 - How To Prepare In Two Minutes

https://open.spotify.com/episode/0GFcvN3qqD4dhyWI47A5H0?si=cd5ea783054440e5

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Over-explaining and over-talking to establish credibility and authority is such a common challenge … it’s easily in the list of top 5 challenges I hear from my listeners and clients.

In this episode you’ll learn WHY you-over explain, how very normal it is AND how you can establish authority without using too much detail.

Listen in to hear how to:

• distill your knowledge into conclusions and insights, rather than giving all the background information

• use your own experiences to establish authority, so you’re not just giving a random, uninformed opinion

• infer detail and knowledge rather than speak all the detail (and risk overwhelming your listener)

• Inform and influence your listeners, rather than overwhelming them

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Other episodes mentioned:

151 - How To Talk About Yourself without Sounding Too Braggy

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4WjfOXcm90Ta0v3U6F9RLS?si=lwfJ9Ru7QK-FovkD_odIIA

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Why do you want to stop rambling, stop losing your words, be more concise or just more articulate?

Because, when you speak you want to make an impact. You want to be heard, you want to be seen, you want to contribute your ideas and your expertise.

It’s easy to think that in order to be heard we need to ‘speak up’, or ‘speak louder’; be more emphatic or be bolder.

But none of that feels comfortable, or authentic if you’re humble, quiet and a natural collaborator.

Listen to hear:

• Why being assertive is NOT the answer to being heard, and

• Why I think ‘assertiveness’ training is the WRONG thing for most of us

• How speaking with impact is more about understanding your audience than it is about speaking louder

• How you can influence decisions without dominating the conversation

• How you can learn how to speak with greater impact and confidence

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How to stop rambling is SUCH a common challenge, I wrote an ebook about it! When I ask the question, ‘what’s your biggest challenge, frustration or issue when it comes to speaking’, ‘rambling is up there in the top 5 responses.

So, in this episode, I’m sharing how to STOP RAMBLING and get to your point.

Listen in to hear:

• Why we ramble and how it’s actually a sign of intelligence, knowledge and expertise

• How thinking in pictures often leads to rambling, and how to translate those pictures into key messages

• My simple process for collecting your thoughts and identifying your messages BEFORE you open your mouth

• How to recover when you do start rambling

• Why it’s not the rambling that you really need to stop (after all, it’s how you process information), it’s how to manage it to be an effective communicator

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Other episodes mentioned

Episode 181 - Why Your Mind Goes Blank (it’s the episode immediately before this one)

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I’ve asked more than 2,000 people ‘what’s your biggest challenge, frustration or issue’ when it comes to speaking, and the answers are the same, over and over again.

‘My mind goes blank when all eyes are on me’ is one of the most common responses, so today I’m talking about WHY this happens, how it’s NOT a sign of incompetence or lack of smarts, and how to stop it happening to you.

Listen in to hear:

• Why having a mental blank is SO normal and is NOT a sign of not knowing your stuff

• How you can reframe, instantly, that sense of pressure, to alleviate the normal nervous system response

• How to stop the mental scramble or verbal diarrhoea that happens when we feel pressure to perform (or be right)

• Why ‘just backing yourself’ isn’t a strategy that will work

• A short practice to relieve the pressure you’re feeling in these situations

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Other episodes mentioned:

83 - How To Stop Imposter Syndrome in it’s tracks

https://open.spotify.com/episode/6lQtEPyaIMPf4GlA1nTOC4?si=prBSs_wIRyGH46jMhTD1Qw

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In this summer season episode I’m revisiting the most popular episode of the year - How to Get The Right Words to Come Out ….

Does it ever feel like your brain and mouth are out-of-sync? You know what you want to say but your mouth just doesn’t play along?

That’s exactly the experience that’s been described by a regular listener

This is SUCH a common challenge!

Listen in to hear:

• The biggest mistake we make when this happens, and what to do instead
• Why it’s actually not about the words
• How to shift your focus to what your audience needs and wants from you, rather than obsessing over the perfect words
• Why you don’t want to ‘correct’ yourself, instead, focus on connection (don’t correct, connect)
• Why you can trust that you know your stuff

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In the summer season of Speaking with Confidence I’m revisiting some of my, and your, favourite episodes.

And this one is one of my all time favourites.

In this conversation with Kate Toon, digital marketing expert extraordinaire, author and most recently, bookshop owner, we unpack how to build the confidence to be DISLIKED.

Yes … how to get comfortable with rejection so we can go and do our thing, anyway. Because really, when we say we’re ‘scared’ of public speaking … it’s not the fear of speaking, it’s the fear of judgement and rejection.

Kate Toon has over 15 years of business experience sitting snugly in her gym tights, once completed 40 speaking events in just one year, and has been a resident expert on Kochie’s Business Builders - she has confronted this fear over and over again. And, as she explains in our chat, while she’s not necessarily ‘confident’ in being disliked, she’s got some great strategies to get herself on stages, on TV and on billboards anyway.

Listen in to hear Kate’s thoughts on :

• Getting comfortable with being disliked
• Dealing with random, rude emails that are explicit in their dislike
• Being contrarian and authentic to stand out in the crowd
• The value of the mundane in building a business
• The role of hormones in fear, and how to manage them

If you want to know about my new program, Unshakeable: Overcoming Imposter Syndrome, message me here (I had to remove my email address because of the overwhelming spam emails!)

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To learn more about the fabulousness that is Kate Toon, visit her website - https://www.katetoon.com/