Time for a fun episode! For the first time on So I Was Told, we step into the internet’s courtroom and start reading Reddit’s Am I The Asshole?

We get into a birthday party blowup over a nut allergy cake (boundaries vs entitlement), a bride who tries to bench a 98 year old grandma from the reception (ageism), a sister who sells concert tickets for coke money (addiction, resentment), and a gym situation where a woman keeps filming and then flips the script with weaponized therapy language when she’s called out.

We also talk consent, accountability, group chat literacy, and why some people will do anything except simply adjust the tripod.

When people who have lived with relative safety (usually white Americans) feel instability for the first time, something strange happens. Fear gets loud, processing becomes public, and conversations that were meant to challenge systems start orbiting around personal discomfort.

In this episode, we talk about what happens when fear gets misnamed as danger, how privilege shows up in moments of crisis, and why neutrality isn’t as neutral as it feels. Living in Minneapolis has made these conversations impossible to ignore. But this isn’t just about one city. It’s about who gets to panic, who gets to process out loud, and who has been living with instability all along.

We also dig into protest art, collective action, and the difference between feeling something and doing something. Discomfort can be a signal. It can open doors. But only if we’re willing to listen instead of recentering ourselves.

Recommended pages on IG to educate yourself:

riseabovejusticemovement

mnicewatch

thegeneralstrikeus

ocjusticeinitiative

peopleoverpapers

populistsriseup

dear_white_staffers

50501movement

With a new album on the way, we take the long route through his career, his timing, and why his trajectory matters in hip-hop and pop culture. This isn’t a review or a reaction, but history.

We talk about where J. Cole came from, how he navigated the industry without abandoning craft, and why The Fall Off isn't a comeback.

Whether you’ve followed his career closely or only know the headlines, this episode is meant to set the stage before the album drops and explain why people are paying attention.