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Shrink For The Shy Guy

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 Everyone has some level of fear in social situations. For you it might be meeting someone new, networking, dating, sales conversations, presenting, public speaking, or business meetings. In order to get to the next level in your life, create better relationships, find love, earn more money, or advance in your career, you must overcome fear, social anxiety, and self-doubt. In order to be outstanding, you must have confidence. That's where Dr. Aziz comes in. After struggling with shyness and social anxiety for 9 years, he decided to take life into his own hands and master confidence. A decade later, he is the world's leading expert on social anxiety and social confidence. He received a doctorate in clinical psychology from Stanford and Palo Alto Universities and now works as a confidence and success coach with people from all over the world. This show contains the profound and immediately life-changing information he teaches high-paying clients every day. Learn from the best about how to overcome social fear, gain confidence in dating, public speaking, sales presentations, business meetings, and all of life.© 2026 2014 Dr. Aziz Gazipura Développement personnel Economie Hygiène et vie saine Psychologie Psychologie et psychiatrie Réussite personnelle
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    • The High Cost of Deferring Decisions

      The High Cost of Deferring Decisions
      Jan 20 2026
      In this episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz dives deep into one of the sneakiest traps that keep us stuck: deferring decisions. Whether it’s fear of making the wrong choice, wanting more clarity, or simply waiting for the “perfect time,” delaying decisions comes at a steep cost—and it’s often invisible until it’s too late. Dr. Aziz unpacks how avoiding decisions drains your confidence, erodes momentum, and reinforces the illusion that you're not ready or capable. He shares a radically freeing mindset shift that allows you to make powerful choices now, even if you're scared, uncertain, or don’t feel 100% “ready.” 🎧 Tired of waiting for the stars to align before you move forward in your life, career, or relationships? Tune in now and discover how making the decision—any decision—is often the most powerful step you can take. --------------------------------------------------- Most people don’t ruin their lives with one dramatic mistake. They do it quietly—by waiting. By postponing conversations. By delaying decisions. By telling themselves, “I’ll figure it out later.” And later becomes years. Today, I want to talk about something uncomfortable—but liberating if you really let it land: the cost of deferring decisions. Not just at the end of life, but right now, this year, this week. Because the goal isn’t to someday look back and feel okay about your life. The goal is to feel fully alive now. The Regret That Wakes People Up Too Late There’s a well-known body of work from hospice nurse Bronnie Ware, who spent years listening to people reflect on their lives as they were dying. One regret stood above all others: “I wish I’d lived a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” Let that sink in. Not “I wish I worked harder.” Not “I wish I made more money.” But I wish I’d been myself. And if that’s what people realize at the end, the real question is: How many people are already living with that regret right now—just more quietly? Whose Life Are You Actually Living? Living “your life” sounds obvious… until you really examine it. Are you living the life your parents wanted? Your partner expects? Your industry rewards? Your internalized image of a “good” or “nice” person demands? Most people don’t consciously choose someone else’s life. They drift into it. Piece by piece. Decision by decision. Or more accurately—non-decision by non-decision. And over time, you end up steering nothing… while your life still moves forward. The Trap of Endless Information We live in an age that promises certainty through information. If I just read one more book… Watch one more video… Gather a little more data… Then I’ll know what to do. But here’s the truth most people don’t want to hear: Information does not create action. At best, it creates temporary motivation. At worst, it becomes a sophisticated way to avoid deciding. Many people become incredibly informed—and quietly stuck. Why Decisions Feel So Uncomfortable The word decision literally means “to cut off.” When you decide, you eliminate options. You create consequences. You step into uncertainty. And that’s terrifying for the part of you whose job is survival, not fulfillment. So instead, you hover in “I’m not sure yet.” But here’s the uncomfortable reality: Not deciding is still a decision. If you don’t decide to leave, you decide to stay. If you don’t decide to speak up, you decide to remain silent. If you don’t decide to act, you decide to keep living exactly as you are. Action Is the Antidote to Regret There is no path in life that avoids discomfort. The only real choice is which discomfort you choose: The sharp, temporary discomfort of actionOr the dull, chronic ache of regret and self-betrayal Living fully doesn’t require dramatic gestures or burning your life to the ground. It requires something much simpler—and much harder: Decide. Then act. Then do it again. Small decision. Real action. Big decision. Imperfect action. It’s not about getting it “right.” It’s about reclaiming the steering wheel. An Invitation—for Today If you’ve been waiting for certainty, confidence, or clarity before acting—this is your wake-up call. Clarity comes after movement. Confidence grows through action. So don’t overthink this. Pick one decision you’ve been deferring. Make it. Act on it—today, in some real, tangible way. That’s how aliveness returns. And that’s how regret never gets a chance to take root. Until we speak again— have the courage to be who you are, and know, on a deep level, that you’re already enough.
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      22 min
    • The Truth About Change In The New Year

      The Truth About Change In The New Year
      Jan 13 2026
      🌟 In this empowering kickoff to 2026, Dr. Aziz challenges a deeply held belief: that being nice means you care more. In fact, the opposite might be true. In this episode, you’ll discover how what looks like “caring” is often fear, over-responsibility, and codependence in disguise. If you’ve been stuck in people-pleasing, constantly saying yes when you want to say no, feeling guilt when others are upset, or believing your worth is tied to keeping everyone happy—this episode is your wake-up call. Dr. Aziz breaks down the emotional trap of chronic niceness and reveals how true caring comes not from fear, but from authenticity and healthy boundaries. 🎧 Ready to stop living for others’ approval and start living as you? Tune in now and learn how to liberate yourself from the Nice Cage—once and for all. ---------------------- A couple of weeks into a new year, a quiet question tends to surface—sometimes with excitement, sometimes with dread: Is this year actually going to be different? Not in the hype-driven, “crush your goals” sense. Not in the motivational-poster version of change. But in the places that matter most. In how you feel inside. In how free you feel socially. In whether you finally stop holding back, second-guessing yourself, or feeling like you’re never quite enough—no matter how much you achieve on the outside. That’s the territory we’re stepping into here. Not weight loss. Not business optimization. Not productivity hacks. Those matter, sure—but they’re not my wheelhouse. What I help people change is something deeper: social confidence, emotional freedom, the ability to be fully yourself without fear, apology, or chronic self-monitoring. And the truth is, most people don’t fail to change because they lack desire. They fail because they’re choosing comfort over truth. Why Comfort Is the Silent Enemy of Real Change When people say they want to change—be more confident, build deeper relationships, speak up, date, lead, or finally feel like they belong—the question isn’t what they want. The real question is: Are they actually going to do the things required to get it? Most people aren’t lying to others about their intentions. They’re lying to themselves. They say they’re “working on it.”They read books.They listen to podcasts.They talk things through with therapists, coaches, or even AI. And all of that can be valuable. But here’s the hard truth I’ve seen over and over again: You can work on something for years without ever transforming it. Because working on it can still be comfortable. Talking about change is comfortable.Understanding your patterns is comfortable.Analyzing your past is comfortable. Transformation is not. The Difference Between a Challenge and a Core Challenge Some difficulties in life are seasons. Others are core challenges. A core challenge isn’t something everyone goes through in the same way. It’s a recurring pattern that stays with you for years—sometimes decades—unless something fundamentally shifts. For some people, that’s addiction.For others, chronic pain.For many professionals I work with, it’s social confidence, belonging, and self-worth. If you’ve been trying to feel more confident or connected for years—and despite effort, insight, and intention, you still feel stuck—that’s a sign you’re dealing with something core. And core challenges don’t resolve through “tending.” They resolve through new experiences. Why Insight Alone Isn’t Enough Understanding why you’re anxious doesn’t cure anxiety. Knowing where people-pleasing came from doesn’t automatically free you from it. Because the real issue underneath social anxiety and excessive niceness isn’t tactics—it’s relationship. Your relationship with yourself.Your relationship with other people.Your belief about whether you’re lovable, acceptable, and safe to be seen. That belief doesn’t change through thinking. It changes through risk. You have to risk being more real.You have to risk saying no.You have to risk being visible, honest, imperfect, and human. And when you do—with the right structure and support—something extraordinary happens: You discover that you survive.You discover that people don’t leave.You discover that you can handle discomfort. And slowly, your nervous system learns a new truth. Looking at the map doesn’t get you across the bridge. You have to walk it. Why Most People Stay Stuck (Even When They’re Trying) What I see again and again is this pattern: People avoid discomfort.Then they decide to “work on themselves.”But they choose a comfortable way to do it. And when comfort is the priority, deep change never happens. So they try again next year.And the year after that.And five years later, they’re still saying, “I’m working on it.” Eventually doubt creeps in. Maybe this can’t change.Maybe this is just who I am.Maybe I waited too long. And that doubt becomes ...
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      27 min
    • Nice People Don't Care Too Much

      Nice People Don't Care Too Much
      Jan 6 2026
      Think you care too much about other people’s feelings? Think again. In this bold kickoff to 2026, Dr. Aziz pulls back the curtain on the real reason “nice people” overextend themselves, struggle to say no, and feel constantly responsible for everyone’s emotions. Spoiler alert: it’s not because they care too much—it’s because they’re trying to stay safe. Deep down, many people-pleasing behaviors are driven by fear, guilt, and the unconscious belief that your worth hinges on making others happy. In this eye-opening episode, you’ll learn: Why over-functioning and “caring” often mask codependencyThe hidden emotional cost of being overly responsibleHow niceness traps you in an outdated identity that’s not really youThe essential difference between real care and fear-based appeasementWhy it’s time to update your inner operating system—not just tweak your habits If you’ve ever said yes when you wanted to say no, answered texts out of anxiety, or felt guilty for simply protecting your time and energy, this episode will speak to your soul. And it will challenge you to finally liberate yourself from the nice person identity and step into the bold, authentic leader you were meant to be. Dr. Aziz also shares a powerful invitation to make 2026 the year you fully upgrade your life—starting with your confidence. Tune in, commit, and get ready to reclaim your freedom. -------------------------------------------- Why “caring” can be fear in disguise—and how to break free from the Nice Cage Most people start the new year thinking about goals: relationships, health, career, money, confidence. But underneath all of that, there’s a deeper goal. Liberation. Liberation from the old identity. Liberation from the old operating system. Liberation from social anxiety, people-pleasing, self-doubt… and the nice cage that keeps you small. And today I want to challenge one of the biggest beliefs that keeps “nice” people trapped: Nice people don’t actually care too much. That might sound surprising—because nice people often feel like they care more than everyone else. They feel guilty if someone’s upset. They say yes when they want to say no. They carry other people’s emotions like they’re responsible for them. And they tell themselves: “I care about them, so I can’t disappoint them.”“If I say no, it means I don’t care.”“If they’re struggling, who am I to refuse?”“A good person should help.” But here’s what I want you to see: When it feels like you care too much… it often isn’t caring at all. It’s something else masquerading as care. The Nice Cage: When “being good” becomes self-erasure Niceness can feel like virtue. It can feel like love. It can feel like generosity. It can feel like being a “good person.” But a lot of the time, niceness is actually a strategy—an unconscious survival strategy—to stay safe. Because underneath niceness is a fear that sounds like: “If I upset people, I’ll be rejected.”“If I disappoint them, I’ll be abandoned.”“If they’re angry with me, I’m not safe.”“If I don’t keep them happy… I’m bad.” So niceness becomes a cage: you keep trying to be acceptable, agreeable, harmless. And the cost? You don’t live your life. You live a managed version of yourself. The big misunderstanding: “Caring” vs. fear Nice people don’t actually care too much. They often have something else running the show: 1) Codependence Codependence is basically: “I’m okay if you’re okay. And if you’re not okay… I’m not okay.” So if someone is happy, you relax. If someone is disappointed, irritated, stressed, or hurt—you go into emergency mode. Your hair is on fire. “What do you need?” “How do I fix this?” “How do I make it right?” And it feels like caring. But really, it’s fear. 2) Over-responsibility This is the core belief behind niceness: “I am responsible for your emotional state.” Not that you’re responsible to feed someone like a baby— but you feel responsible for whether they’re upset. So you avoid saying no. You avoid being direct. You avoid expressing your truth. You override your own needs. Because if they’re upset… you feel like you’ve done something wrong. The “or else” feeling: the clearest sign it’s fear Here’s one of the easiest ways to tell whether something is care or fear: If it has an “or else” feeling—it’s fear. “I have to respond right now… or else.” “I have to say yes… or else.” “I have to make them happy… or else.” “I can’t disappoint them… or else.” That “or else” is not love. That “or else” is survival mode. And it’s usually not about the current situation—it’s an old pattern repeating itself. Why niceness drains your vitality Here’s the truth that many nice people don’t want to look at: You will not be fully alive in the nice operating system. At best, you can ...
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      22 min
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