Shadow work is supposed to help you. So why does it make it feel like your life is falling apart?

If you've started doing shadow work and everything feels worse, not better, you're not doing it wrong. That's actually a sign you're doing it right.

In this video, I'm walking through 5 uncomfortable signs that your shadow work is actually working, even when it feels like regression, confusion, or loss. Shadow work, a term originally coined by Carl Jung, isn't about feeling better immediately. It's about getting honest with yourself about the parts you've been running from. And that honesty shakes things up first before it works its healing magic.

In this video:

• ✦ Why people telling you "you've changed" is a sign your shadow work is working
• ✦ Why things that never bothered you suddenly do (and why that's growth)
• ✦ The painful truth about relationships shifting during shadow work
• ✦ Why you're grieving a past you don't even want to go back to
• ✦ The most disorienting sign of all: feeling like you don't know yourself anymoreIf you're in the thick of it and wondering if you should turn back.

This video is your permission to keep going.💜🔮 Astrology Beyond Prediction: Learn how to use your birth chart as a shadow work tool → https://danasolara.com/astrobeyond

⭐️ Book an astrology consult with me: https://danasolara.com/readings

Timestamps:0:00 — Why shadow work feels like falling apart01:04 Why Shadow Work Can Feel Like Sh*t04:52 — Sign 1: People telling you that you've changed09:12 — Sign 2: Things that didn't bother you do now (or vice versa)13:19 — Sign 3: Your relationships start to shift or fall away22:01 — Sign 4: Longing for a past you don't want to go back to29:29 — Sign 5: You feel like you don't know yourself36:34 — How to keep going when shadow work gets hard

People pleasing keeps coming back because it works—and that's exactly the problem. In this video, I'm breaking down why every fix you've tried hasn't stuck, what's actually driving the pattern underneath the behavior, and what healing people pleasing really requires (hint: it has nothing to do with setting better limits or saying no more often).

We're going deep on the addiction loop that keeps people pleasing alive, the self-abandonment wound underneath it, and the difference between self-knowledge and self-relationship — because you can know everything about yourself and still be running on empty internally.

I also share how your birth chart can act as a cosmic mirror for this work, helping you see yourself from the inside out instead of through other people's eyes.

If you've been "working on this" for years and can't figure out why it won't shift — this one is for you.

In this video:

• Why people pleasing keeps coming back (and it's not what you think)
• The addiction loop that makes it so hard to stop
• The self-abandonment wound that's really driving it
• Why self-knowledge and self-relationship are not the same thing
• What healing actually looks like in everyday life
• How your birth chart can help you reconnect with yourself

Resources mentioned:

• 🌙 Free Astrology Cheat Sheet — start unpacking your birth chart: https://danasolara.com/cheatsheet
• 📖 Book a reading with Dana: https://danasolara.com/readings

Connect with Dana on TikTok & Instagram: @dana.solara

The astrology of May 2026 brings some wild astrology that's set to change everything–seriously!

Today we're covering what's coming with May's astrology and what it means for your life: Mercury's emotional excavation, the Uranus in Gemini cazimi that changes everything, a healing crisis mid-month, and the fated challenge that lands around May 25th.

Three plotlines. One wild, transformative month. 💥

GET THE FREE MAY FORECAST CALENDAR HERE

In this video, I'm breaking down:

• ✨ The new moon setting the tone on May 1
• 🔮 Mercury's full journey through May, from rabbit hole to cazimi revelation
• 💫 The Uranus in Gemini activations happening May 17–22 and what they're cracking open
• 🌕 The full moon on May 16th and what it's asking you to release
• ⚡ Mars conjunct Chiron's healing potential
• 🚨 The fated challenge on May 25th

🌙This is astrology as a tool for real growth; not just "here's what might happen," but here's what it means and what you can do with it.

CHAPTERS

• 00:00 May 2026 Astrology Forecast: Healing Wounds, Wild Revelations & A Cosmic Rewire
• 02:05 The Three Major Plotlines in May
• 04:03 Free May Forecast Guide
• 04:24 Mercury conjunct Chiron on the Scorpio New Moon
• 07:02 Mercury enters Taurus: Mutual Reception with
• Venus
• 08:52 Mercury in Taurus square Pluto in Aquarius
• 12:26 Mercury sextile Jupiter: May 12
• 14:10 Mercury Cazimi in Taurus: May 14.
• 15:49 Mercury enters Gemini: May 17
• 16:56 Mercury sextile Chiron: May 31
• 18:10 New Moon in Taurus - Mercury conjunct Uranus: May
• 16-17
• 25:29 Uranus Cazimi in Gemini: May 22
• 29:40 The Fated Challenge
• 30:41 Mars Conjunct Chiron: May 16
• 33:43 Sun square Nodes + Mars square Pluto: May 25
• 38:44 Venus square Saturn: May 28

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