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If you've ever caught yourself fantasizing about retirement – the beach house, the Paris apartment, the day when you can finally exhale – this episode is for you.

So many women I know are living for "over there." Over there, when the money is handled. Over there, when the kids are grown. Over there, when we hit the number, lose the weight, build the business, or finally step away. Then, we'll enjoy our lives.

But what if you didn't have to wait to retire to start living beautifully? What if "retirement" isn't about escaping your life… but redesigning it?

In this episode, we're exploring:

• Why the retirement fantasy is really about a feeling – and how to access that feeling now

• What actually happens to people after they retire (it's not what you'd expect)

• The real reason you want to burn it all down (hint: it's probably not the work itself)

• Why changing your circumstances won't change your life if the same thinking comes with you

• A mindset shift that turns "I can't wait to retire" into "I'm living my life now"

• Two questions that will show you exactly what you've been putting off – and why you can stop waiting

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That email you've rewritten four times. The opportunity you've been "thinking about" for weeks. The decision that keeps you up at night – not because it's hard, but because you're terrified of getting it wrong.

Here's what I know: you're not indecisive. You're exhausted from running every choice through a thousand lenses – what will people think, what's the safe option, what if I'm wrong?

And while you're deliberating, time passes. Doors close. And you reinforce the one thing you don't want to believe: I can't trust myself.

In this episode, I'm sharing the five-question filter that lets me make any decision in under 60 seconds – and why learning to decide quickly and confidently might be the most valuable skill you ever develop.

Here's what we cover:

• Why indecision isn't a lack of intelligence but fear disguised as overthinking

• The hidden cost of not deciding: lost time, drained energy, missed opportunities, and weakened self-trust

• Why the most important decision isn't what you choose but how you choose to feel about it

• The power of a personal decision filter rooted in your values, vision, and standards

• How five simple questions can help you make a decision in under 60 seconds with clarity and alignment

• Why fast decisions don't require certainty but self-knowledge and trust

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If you're ready to live an undistracted life, join me in the School of Self-Image Membership. https://schoolofselfimage.com/join

Can I tell you about something that happened to me recently?

I developed a habit. It started innocently enough – just a little extra scrolling during a difficult time.

But soon, I was reaching for my phone instead of a book. Checking the news before I'd even made my morning coffee.

After a month of this, something felt off. I felt empty. Scattered. Not like my usual focused, happy, life-loving self.

Then I saw my screen time report: four hours a day. On average.

I thought about everything I could have done, read, created during that time – and it became clear. I needed to fix this. So I put myself through a Distraction Detox, and I did it in four steps.

Here's what we cover:

• Why distraction isn't a discipline problem, but your brain trying to avoid discomfort

• How the pain–pleasure principle quietly pulls you toward scrolling instead of creating

• The hidden cost of low-quality consumption on your self-image, focus, and confidence

• The emerging divide between the creator class and the consumer class and why it matters

• How distraction reinforces an identity of avoidance while focus builds power and momentum

• The four-part Distraction Detox that helps you reclaim your attention and your life

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