Becoming the head of a household is not a choice, but a consequence of war…
In this Refugee Archive Roundtable webinar, host David Oletu speaks with Dr. Delu, researcher and humanitarian practitioner based in Goma, Democratic Republic of Congo, about his research on the realities of female-headed households and accountability in humanitarian governance. Drawing on field experience and oral histories with displaced women in Goma, Dr. Delu explores what happens when displacement abruptly transforms women into the primary providers, caregivers, and decision-makers for their families.
Unlike static categories of vulnerability, the women in this study entered these roles suddenly—through widowed status, desertion, family breakdown, separation, or caring for orphaned relatives amid conflict. At the same time they were coping with loss and trauma, they were also expected to navigate informal labor markets, secure food, protect their children from recruitment or abuse, and survive in spontaneous IDP camps without basic necessities.
The conversation examines how displacement reshapes family structures, gender dynamics, employment opportunities, and aid systems. It also highlights the less visible burdens of exile: social stigma, gender-based violence, sexual exploitation by aid officials, and systemic exclusion from leadership positions within the very humanitarian organizations sent to assist them.
Throughout the discussion, Dr. Delu reflects on power imbalances, downward accountability, and why aid organizations must treat displaced women not as passive beneficiaries, but as vital local partners capable of leading their own communities.
What You'll Hear in This Webinar
00:00 Introduction — Displaced women becoming heads of households in Goma
02:30 Dr. Delu’s background & research on power dynamics in humanitarian governance
07:00 What is happening in Goma: Displacement context and IDP camp realities
10:15 The 6 categories of female heads of households in eastern DRC
13:00 Survival, discrimination, gender-based violence, and sexual exploitation
14:50 Resilience, informal economic strategies, and barriers to leadership in aid
21:20 Downward accountability: Why aid must move from beneficiaries to local partners
30:50 The intergenerational impact on children in prolonged displacement
36:18 Security, government responsibility, and the path forward for sustainable peace
Why This Research Matters
Discussions about refugees and displaced persons often focus on numbers: how many people fled, how many camps were created, how many tons of food aid were delivered.
But statistics rarely capture what happens inside a household when conflict removes a spouse, a father, or a primary provider.
This research shows that female-headed households are not simply economic units. They are families navigating grief, structural violence, institutional failure, and survival all at once. The women highlighted in this discussion reveal how displacement reshapes identity, authority, labor, and caregiving.
Their experiences remind us that humanitarian work is not only about emergency relief—it is about restoring agency, listening to local voices, and holding international systems accountable to the people they serve.
About The Series
The Refugee Archive Roundtable is a webinar series bringing together scholars, university teams, and researchers whose work examines female-headed households and displaced single mothers worldwide to connect academic insights with real-world global impact.
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