Between the two of them, transformative coaches Angus and Rohini Ross have worked with hundreds of couples. They created the Rewilding Love podcast because they believe there is too much suffering in relationships. Too many good relationships fall apart because couples give up thinking their relationship problems can’t be solved. Many couples don’t know how to navigate low moods, conflict, and emotional reactivity.

In each season of the Rewilding Love Podcast, Rohini and Angus will help a couple face different kinds of relationship issues: from divorce papers on the table to rediscovering trust and intimacy to reigniting the spark.

Angus and Rohini guide couples to find their own well-being so they can rediscover the natural state of love in their relationships. Listening to the podcast allows you to reflect and see a different way of being in relationship with others and with yourself. Their relationship work is inspired by rewilding, an approach to nature conservation grounded in allowing natural processes to restore balance and harmony. They invite you to join in the rewilding back to your natural state.

Season 1 is a raw, intimate exploration with a real couple whose marriage is on the brink of divorce. Sit back, relax, and listen in, as Rohini and Angus share their fresh perspective and guide Alicia and Mateo away from the hurtful behaviors of reactivity, blame, and righteousness back to their own peace of mind so they have the opportunity to rewild the love in their relationship independent of whether or not they stay together.

Angus & Rohini Ross are “The Rewilders.” They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships. They co-facilitate individualized couples' intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state of love. Rohini is the author of the ebook Marriage, and they are co-founders of The 29-Day Rewilding Experience and The Rewilding Community. You can also follow Angus and Rohini Ross on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. To learn more about their work visit: TheRewilders.org.

Meet Alicia and Mateo, the couple in crisis who we’ll be following for the first season. Alicia was devastated when Mateo presented her with divorce papers. She wondered how they got to this point. Seven years ago, they were saying “I love you” on their first date. Mateo thought marriage would fix all of their problems, but now he feels like he’s made the biggest mistake of his life. Can Rohini and Angus help them rewild the love that is underneath the hurt and anger? And even if they do, will they stay together?

A lesson emerges that all couples can benefit from, we are not responsible for our partner’s experience. Embodying levity and depth, Angus and Rohini begin the journey of pointing to the innate love, harmony, and well-being that is already present in all people and all relationships.

This episode explores:

• How Alicia and Mateo met.
• The impact of mood on state of mind and how what we see through the lens of a low mood can’t be trusted.
• Flipping the paradigm: we are not responsible for our partner’s experience, and there’s immense freedom in seeing that.
• Angus and Rohini’s inspiration for the podcast.
• What it means to “rewild relationships.”
• How Mateo uses the threat of divorce to try and effect change, but he feels ambivalent about going through with it, leaving room for hope and possibility.
• The perils of falling into a victim mindset in relationships.
• Feeling unappreciated is a common theme couples experience.

Podcast music: Rewilding Love features the music of RhythmPharm with Los Angeles based Master drummer, multi-instrumentalist, and composer Greg Ellis, born and raised in the Bay Area.

These 100% organic soundscapes are designed to tune, invigorate, calm, balance, nourish, activate, and clarify one’s mind, body, and soul. RhythmPharm helps one to Listen Differently.

Ep. 1 includes selections from: Violet/Balance; Yellow/Clarity; Green/Growth

Show Notes:
Last chance saloon: Phrase comes from a saloon in Caldwell City, Kansas built-in 1869. It was called that because it was the last place to buy a legal alcoholic drink before passing into "Indian country" where the possession and sale of alcohol were forbidden.

Hunky Dory: The least exotic theory of all, but almost certainly the true clue, traces hunky-dory" to the archaic American slang word "hunk," meaning "safe," from the Dutch word "honk," meaning "goal," or "home" in a game. To achieve "hunk" or "hunky" in a child's game was to make it "home" and win the game. Hunky Dory is also the fourth studio album by English singer-songwriter David Bowie, released December 17, 1971, by RCA Records.

Rewilding Video: How Wolves Change Rivers

Feedback: info@therewilders.org

Angus & Rohini Ross are “The Rewilders.” They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships. They co-facilitate individualized couples' intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state of love. Rohini is the author of the ebook Marriage, and they are co-founders of The 29-Day Rewilding Experience and The Rewilding Community. You can also follow Angus and Rohini Ross on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. To learn more about their work visit: TheRewilders.org.

The blame game is in full effect as Alicia and Mateo each have their very separate realities and see the other party as wrong. Mateo blames Alicia’s temper for his habit of shutting down, and Alicia blows up when she feels like she’s the only responsible one in the relationship or the only one who cares. Their lack of empathy and understanding about the other person's point of view results in their polarization. This wedge between them helps them stay convinced that the other’s behavior is the cause of their suffering -- can Rohini and Angus help them find understanding?

From narrow and self-focused perspectives, Alicia and Mateo justify their actions. From this state of mind, their thinking is distorted and they can’t see the whole picture. As they move toward more open-minded and open-hearted feelings, they gain the opportunity to see each other differently. Once they arrive in this space of greater trust, they access a more well-rounded perspective. The quality of their relationship actually reflects the quality of their individual states of mind.

This episode explores:

• The current status of Alicia and Mateo’s relationship.
• How Alicia and Mateo tell the tale of two different relationships.
• How a desire to protect optics in the face of friends and family can get in the way of being honest about what they are going through.
• How challenging it is for the relationship when both people feel discouraged.
• The importance of each person in the relationship having their own insight and transformation.
• The important role that the individual state of mind plays in order to open up to new possibilities.
• Initial sessions with Alicia and Mateo to begin hearing both sides.
• How common it is, and how detrimental it is, to keep a laundry list of woes.
• How many couples play the blame game.
• The challenges associated with volatility in relationships.
• How painful a lack of understanding can be.
• The negative impact of judgment in relationships.

Podcast music: Rewilding Love features the music of RhythmPharm with Los Angeles based Master drummer, multi-instrumentalist, and composer Greg Ellis, born and raised in the Bay Area.

Ep. 2 includes selections from Violet/Balance and Blue/Calm

Show Notes:
Agent provocateur: one employed to associate with suspected persons and by pretending sympathy with their aims to incite them to some incriminating action. Also a British lingerie retailer.

Wood for the trees: If someone can't see the wood for the trees in British English, or can't see the forest for the trees in American English, they are very involved in the details of something and so they do not notice what is important about the thing as a whole.

Feedback: info@therewilders.org

Angus & Rohini Ross are “The Rewilders.” They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships. They work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. They co-facilitate individualized couples' intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state of love. Rohini is the author of the ebook Marriage, and they are co-founders of The 29-Day Rewilding Experience and The Rewilding Community. You can also follow Angus and Rohini Ross on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. To learn more about their work visit: TheRewilders.org