Episode 008 – Kindness (and the Ripple Effect)

In this episode of Reticence and Reverie, hosts Joel and Carrie explore the influence of kindness — why it matters more than ever in a divided world, and how to actively cultivate it in daily life. Drawing from personal experiences, scientific research, and wisdom from figures like Mr. Rogers and Rumi, they examine how kindness ripples outward to strengthen communities and inward to improve our own well-being. The conversation also tackles harder questions around self-kindness, maintaining kindness when it isn't returned, and whether it's ever better to be right than to be kind.

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Episode 7 – Vulnerability (and The Buddy Bench)

In Episode 7 of Reticence and Reverie, Joel and Carrie tackle vulnerability — defining it as the conscious choice to be open and honest despite uncertain risks, and making the case that it's one of the most courageous things a person can do. Drawing on personal stories of childhood bullying, difficult relationships, and moments of misplaced trust, they explore why so many people shut down after being hurt and why practicing vulnerability is still worth it. The conversation covers how to find the right people and settings for vulnerability, what a genuine apology looks like, and the important distinction between being hurt and being harmed. The episode closes with a recommended reading list including Brené Brown's The Power of Vulnerability and Don Miguel Ruiz's The Mastery of Love, and an invitation for listeners to try one small act of vulnerability in the week ahead.

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity." -Brené Brown

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Links:

Mastery of Love & Four Agreements ►► https://www.miguelruiz.com/books/

Power of Vulnerability ►► https://brenebrown.com/books-audio/

ToastMasters ►► https://www.toastmasters.org/

Episode 6 – Hustle Culture (and sleeping under desks)

In this episode of Reticence and Reverie, hosts Carrie and Joel take a deep dive into hustle culture — the "rise and grind" mindset that glorifies long hours, packed schedules, and the relentless pursuit of success at the expense of everything else. They explore where the appeal comes from, why society rewards it, and the very real psychological traps it sets, including seeking external validation, fear-based decision making, social comparison, and the dangerous belief that productivity equals personal worth. Drawing on their own professional experiences and Carrie's work as a coach, they unpack how hustle culture can quietly erode the parts of life that matter most.

The conversation gets personal as Carrie and Joel share candid stories from their own careers — from sleeping under office desks to navigating workplaces that treated burnout as a badge of honor. They examine the hidden costs of over-hustling: chronic stress, identity loss outside of work, relationship strain, and a cycle of achievement that never quite feels like enough. They're careful to note that ambition itself isn't the enemy — goal-setting, resilience, and creativity are genuine strengths — but unchecked, ambition can become an addiction that leaves people depleted, disconnected, and running on cortisol instead of purpose.

The episode closes with a practical look at what balanced ambition can actually look like. Joel shares a personal framework for meaningful rest — including freedom from demands, time in nature, solitude, purposeful physical movement, and community connection without the pressure to "fix" anyone. Carrie encourages listeners to honestly assess which areas of their lives are being neglected and where their time and energy are truly feeding them — spiritually, mentally, physically, and emotionally. The closing quote from sci-fi author John Christopher captures the episode's heart perfectly: no matter what we achieve, there always seems to be something more — which is exactly why knowing when to rest is just as important as knowing how to hustle.

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Links

List of Values to help find your purpose - https://reticenceandreverie.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Values.pdf