In this episode, Renee interviewed a dear coaching client, Lisa Brown, who has done the “work” for 10 years.

When we started working together, she had it “all” on theoutside – the personal & professional achievements she dreamed of.

Like a lot of Enneagram 1 types, she was adept at juggling roles & responsibilities. She pushed through, aimed to please, kept the peace, performed & perfected.

She juggled well but she wasn’t experiencing peace, contentment, & confidence. Anxiety was increasing. What used to work, no longer worked well.

Her journey unfolded:· She got quiet, went inward, listened to her truth, gained clarity, & moved through fear & frustration.

· She stopped the “Ps” to reclaim her personal power.

· Her sense of worth or safety stopped being dependent upon external validation.

· She faced pushback & held steady, again & again.

· She earned her own secure attachment.

· From a reclamation of Self, new outcomes & possibilities unfolded that she could not have predicted.

Today her inner experience matches her external reality:

· She moves with grounded confidence.

· Her discernment is fueled by her values, integrity, & purpose.

· She leans into her feminine essence to lead & mentor her team.

· Her trust in her intuition informs her strategy in operations & guides her relationships at every level.

· She has learned to honor her unique essence & granted herself permission to lead with authenticity & that honorsher unique design.

Real transformation ignites outcomes beyond what you once thought was possible.

CALM EXCELLENCE

• Listen to Lisa describe how she originated the idea of CALM EXCELLENCE as an antidote to pressure & perfectionism.
• Discover the difference & nuance of a standard versus perfection.
• Get clear on how generating safety, inside & out, is essential for relationship health & growth.
• Learn how a change process is a journey - inside yourself, interpersonally, or in organizations, systems, or communities where you are the one to steward people & outcomes.
• Know that no matter who you are or where you are, you are not alone - community matters.
• Witness the benefits of having a shared language & principle or anchor to RESET to, again & again.

We can't wait to see what unfolds next for Lisa, but we know her visionary leadership, integrity, intelligence, & beautiful heart & soul will continue to touch & impact all who enter her orbit.

About our guest:

Lisa Brown is a devoted wife, mom, daughter, sister, friend, leader, and lifelong learner. She loves traveling with her husband, Blake, and cherishing the life they’ve built together. Her three beautiful boys keep her busy and remain her greatest and most meaningful work.

For the past 24 years, Lisa has built a successful career in the financial services industry, where she’s passionate about helping both clients and her team achieve their goals. A true Enneagram 1, she is fiercely committed to continuous personal growth. Lisa strives to approach every aspect of life with authenticity, humility, curiosity, and generosity.

About our host:

A therapist for 25+ years & coach, Renee has guided hundreds of clients through a reclamation process.

The work has been condensed into a SIGNATURE PROGRAM: the 90 Day Relationship Reset.

Shorten your learning curve & learn more about the program (& Renee) here:

https://resetwithrenee.com/relationship-reset

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Renee is literally & metaphorically ON THE MOVE & in her own rebirth & reset cycle.

Listen to this episode for a more personal share about:

1. The context that led up to moving from Arkansas to St. Louis - it has been unfolding for many months!

2. How a late diagnosis of AUDHD means disruptions in environment & routine are more challenging & stressful. If this is you, you are not alone & there is a reason your brain is on the blink: it's about CAPACITY!

3. The real & regular challenge of obtaining adhd meds - which demands more executive functioning & adds to frustration.

4. Feeling DEEPLY means saying goodbye is hard. Extended good byes or abrupt are even more challenging.

5. GenX Cycle Breakers, like Renee, rarely get a chance to "come up for air" before a new or another life challenge arises.

Renee will be back "in the saddle" seeing clients soon & can't wait to connect!

Listener Question:

It's hard to decide what to do with my relationship & the advice I see seems contradictory or confuses me. I don't know what to think...

In this Episode:

• Renee discusses the challenges trauma survivors face in making major life decisions, particularly in relationships, due to unresolved attachment wounds and a lack of "codes" for healthy relationships.
• She emphasizes the importance of trusting one's intuition and consuming information selectively, taking what resonates and leaving the rest.
• Renee advises trauma survivors to seek guidance from trusted mentors and to focus on healing and addressing their own trauma FIRST before making significant relationship decisions.
• She also highlights the need for survivors to honor themselves while maintaining healthy relationships, without sacrificing their well-being.

Concepts:

1. Health of individuals & relationships is on a continuum. Mainstream advice may not be nuanced enough for trauma survivors or abuse victims.
2. Look for a mentor who has awareness of the "universal patterns" of your particular challenge and can appreciate the nuances of your specific context.
3. Renegotiating relationships or changing/ending relationship contracts ignites primal fear for folks with insecure attachment. Decisions are best made not from fear based trauma energy but from a place of inner authority, clarity, & discernment.
4. Every human is seeking to meet their biological imperative or essential human needs of: SECURITY/SAFETY & BELONGING/CONNECTION/ATTACHMENT. Healthy relationships meet both needs.
5. It is important to CALL IN what you desire & need versus CALL OUT if you want to exit a negative relationship cycle.
6. Do your part. Engage your healing. Keep your side of the street clean & move with your values & integrity intact to minimize harm & minimize regret.
7. Allow an unfolding. There is a divine plan & divine timing. Your job is to be ready to be have the courage to pivot when needed for your growth & evolution.

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https://resetwithrenee.com/

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