In this episode of Relatively Unqualified, the hosts welcome their first guest: Darra’s son and Nic’s nephew, comedian Wesley Funderburg. The conversation is equal parts funny, raw, and honest as Wesley breaks down what it really takes to do standup, especially in a smaller local scene where stage time is limited and the audience can be unpredictable.

Wesley talks openly about why creative pursuits trigger nervousness, how confidence can be partly performance, and why bombing is a necessary part of getting better. He shares an early worst case scenario from a show that went off the rails, including a joke that landed wrong, getting kicked out of the venue, and dealing with the aftermath outside the club.

The episode also goes deeper than comedy. Wesley discusses the pressure of pursuing a dream while being a working parent, the reality of leaving your partner solo with the kids on show nights, and what it feels like to have someone support you while still expecting you to go all in. The hosts explore what “making it” actually means, why comedy can be both art and therapy, and how laughter opens people up in a way few other forms of communication can.

If you have ever chased a creative goal while trying to hold down real life responsibilities, this episode is a blunt and relatable look at fear, growth, and why you keep showing up even when you do not feel ready.

Wesley Funderburg (comedian, Darra’s son and Nic’s nephew)

Why the hosts feel nervous recording, even in a low stakes setting

How fear and nervousness can be a sign you care about the work

The difference between “being a comedian” and “doing comedy”

Limited open mic opportunities and the challenge of staying sharp

The grind of standup: writing is not enough, stage time matters

Crowd work vs written jokes and why crowd work dominates clips now

The pressure to create social media clips as “currency”

A painful early bomb: offending an audience, getting kicked out, and the fallout afterward

How comedy can feel both empowering and humiliating

Balancing standup with family responsibilities and a demanding work schedule

Support as encouragement and pressure at the same time

Why Wesley prefers performing for strangers rather than “bring your friends” crowds

Fail safe jokes that reliably get laughs

Recording sets, watching them back, and the harsh self critique cycle

Why instant gratification can make creative growth harder

The “big dream” and what success looks like without needing a flashy lifestyle

Why laughter makes people receptive and how comedy can carry heavy truths

Fear, confidence, and “fake it till you make it”

Bombing as a required part of improvement

The tug of war between practical responsibility and creative drive

The idea that comedy is magic when it can make people laugh at uncomfortable truths

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Podcast Episode Description

Disrespect in marriage is not always loud or obvious. In this episode,e Nic & Darra explore how disrespect often shows up in subtle ways like dismissive behavior, invalidated feelings, crossed boundaries, and lack of emotional reciprocity. Through honest conversation and personal experiences, they unpack how these moments slowly erode trust and connection within a relationship.

The discussion dives into how personal backgrounds shape what feels disrespectful, why emotional validation matters, and how unintentional actions can still cause lasting harm. Nic & Darra also examine one of the most challenging areas couples face: navigating disrespect involving extended family and deciding where loyalty, protection, and boundaries should be drawn.

From choosing your spouse over outside relationships, to setting boundaries that protect mental and emotional health, this episode highlights the importance of mutual respect, accountability, and communication in long term partnerships. It also addresses difficult topics like going no contact with family, self protection, healing, and what it truly means to show up for your spouse.

This episode offers thoughtful reflection for anyone seeking to strengthen their marriage, understand emotional boundaries, or navigate complex family dynamics while maintaining a healthy relationship.

Show Notes

Episode Theme

Disrespect in marriage and how boundaries, validation, and accountability shape healthy relationships.

Key Topics Discussed

What disrespect looks like in marriage, both big and small

How dismissive behavior and invalidated feelings damage relationships

Why intent does not negate impact in emotional conflict

How personal history influences sensitivity to disrespect

Emotional shutdown, avoidance, and anger responses

The importance of reciprocity in relationships

Drawing boundaries with extended family

Protecting your spouse when family conflict arises

Choosing your spouse as your primary unit

The challenge of going no contact versus creating distance

Accountability, apologizing, and repairing after boundaries are crossed

Why respect is foundational to long term marriage success

Supporting your spouse even when you see faults on both sides

How couples navigate conflict, growth, and healing together

Why spouses must come first to maintain a healthy family unit

Core Takeaways

Disrespect often shows up subtly and accumulates over time

Emotional validation is essential, even when you disagree

Boundaries are acts of self respect, not punishment

Family dynamics require balance, protection, and honest communication

A strong marriage requires accountability, compromise, and mutual effort

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Welcome to the very first episode of Relatively Unqualified. In this introduction, Darra & Nic explain who they are, why they decided to start a podcast, and what listeners can expect moving forward.

Broadcasting from Bend, Oregon during a family staycation, the hosts dive into their dynamic as siblings by marriage, their blended families, and their shared belief that humor and honesty go a long way in navigating relationships, parenting, and life in general. From being a girl dad and a boy mom to reflecting on parenting stages, travel memories, and family quirks, this episode sets the tone for a podcast that does not pretend to have all the answers.

The conversation flows through memorable vacations, concert adventures, parenting reflections, and stories that highlight both growth and questionable decision making. Along the way, Darra & Nic share why they want this podcast to be relatable, healing, and entertaining without pretending to be experts.

This episode lays the groundwork for future conversations around family dynamics, forgiveness, hard truths, relationships, and the lessons learned along the way, all delivered with sarcasm, heart, and zero qualifications.

An introduction to Relatively Unqualified, the hosts, and the purpose behind the podcast.

Who Darra & Nic are and how the podcast came together

Broadcasting from Bend, Oregon on a family staycation

Why humor and honesty are central to the show

Being siblings by marriage and navigating blended families

Girl dad versus boy mom perspectives

Parenting stages from young kids to near empty nest

Why experiences matter more than things

Travel memories including Hawaii, Cabo, and family trips

Concert stories and vacation mishaps

Drinking stories, lessons learned, and personal growth

Why this podcast is about relatability, not advice

Using storytelling as healing and self reflection

The balance between humor and serious conversations

Setting the stage for future episodes on forgiveness and hard truths

Real conversations without pretending to be experts

Family dynamics and blended family realities

Relationships, parenting, and personal growth

Laughing at past mistakes while learning from them

Sharing stories others may relate to but hesitate to say out loud

This episode invites listeners into a podcast built on authenticity, laughter, and lived experience. It is about showing up as you are, telling the truth even when it is messy, and realizing you do not need to be qualified to start something meaningful.

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• What are your thoughts? Did anything in this episode happen to you? Please share your story, leave us a review and subscribe. Thank you!!!
• Production credits and music licensing are exclusively retained by Relatively Unqualified Podcast.
• Notice and copyright disclaimer: Nic and Darra are unqualified to give you any credible advice and thus, all information in this podcast and related materials is for entertainment purposes only.