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Why do small things trigger big fights in relationships?
Have you ever wondered why you keep reacting to your partner even when you don't want to?
And why does it feel like the argument is never really about the thing you're arguing about?

In this episode of Real Influence, Joey breaks down why small things trigger you in relationships and how those moments are often tied to old emotional patterns, inherited beliefs, and nervous system reactions you didn't consciously choose 🤓.

If you've ever asked yourself "why do tiny annoyances turn into big arguments?" or "why do I overreact to my partner?", this conversation will hit home.

We explore why small things cause big fights, how reacting versus responding in relationships shapes connection, and what's actually happening in your body when you feel triggered 😄. Joey explains relationship triggers, defensiveness, and emotional reactions in relationships, helping you see conflict not as a failure but as information.

This episode is especially for anyone stuck in repeating relationship patterns, struggling with communication in long-term relationships, or feeling frustrated that awareness alone hasn't stopped the same arguments from happening again. You'll learn how to stop fighting over small things, how to respond instead of react, and how to interrupt the automatic reactions that damage connection.

We also dive into how childhood conditioning shows up in adult relationships, why resentment builds quietly, and how emotional regulation in relationships starts with self-awareness, not control 🤍. If you're searching for how to heal relationship triggers, how to stop being defensive with your partner, or why your partner triggers you so easily, this episode gives you language and clarity.

This isn't relationship advice about fixing your partner. It's about breaking emotional loops, choosing conscious response, and learning how to create healthier, calmer, more connected relationships from the inside out.

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In this, we'll talk about:

00:00 Why Small Triggers Create Big Emotional Reactions

06:10 Why Conflict Is Rarely About What You're Fighting Over

12:05 How Past Conditioning Shows Up in Present Relationships

18:40 Reaction vs Response and Why Awareness Isn't Enough

25:30 The Nervous System, Safety, and Emotional Regulation

32:10 Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns

39:15 How to Interrupt Emotional Loops in Real Time

46:20 Choosing Connection, Responsibility, and Growth

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Have you done therapy, gained awareness, and still feel stuck in the same patterns?
What if the issue isn't therapy but the level of support you're using?

In this episode of Real Influence, it breaks down therapy vs coaching and explains why therapy often stops working for high achievers who already understand their patterns but can't create lasting change.

This is not an anti-therapy conversation. It's an evolution conversation.

Joey shares his personal post-divorce therapy experience, the ceiling of talk therapy, and the exact moment he realized awareness without action was keeping him trapped. You'll learn the different levels of personal growth, when processing is helpful, when it becomes a loop, and why coaching pairs mindset with execution to create real momentum.

If you're successful on paper but feel unfulfilled, burned out, or quietly stuck, this episode will help you identify whether your current support is empowering you or enabling you.

You'll also learn:

👉 Why venting without action creates dependency

👉 The difference between insight and embodiment

👉 How the state of the teacher affects results

👉 Why tools matter more than talk

👉 How to know when it's time to upgrade your growth

🎯 Ready to redesign your life from the inside out?

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In this, we'll talk about:

00:00 When Therapy Stops Working

02:15 Awareness Without Change

05:00 Therapy vs Coaching Explained

07:40 Why Action Creates Results

10:30 Tools That Build Self-Trust

14:00 Knowing When to Upgrade

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Are you crushing business goals but quietly feeling like life is passing you by? What if the reason success feels heavy isn't lack of discipline but lack of intentional life planning? And what if planning your life the same way you plan your business could actually give you more peace, clarity, and joy?

Every year, high achievers sit down to plan revenue targets, growth goals, OKRs, and business strategy but almost never stop to intentionally plan their life. 🤯 In this episode, Joey shares the 7-step annual life planning framework he personally uses to make sure success doesn't cost his health, relationships, or inner peace.

This is not another hustle mindset or productivity hack.

It's a practical, reflective, and deeply intentional process that blends life planning, mindset work, spirituality, and structure so your life doesn't get left behind while you build impact 🤓✨.

You'll learn how to plan your life like a business without burning out, why reflection must come before goal setting, and how to align your daily actions with the person you actually want to become. Joey breaks down why most high performers are great at planning outcomes but terrible at planning experiences and how that disconnect leads to regret, exhaustion, and autopilot living.

Inside this episode, you'll discover:

00:00 Why many high achievers plan their business but forget to plan their life

01:30 How to begin life planning with reflection instead of pressure

03:39 Why having a clear life vision matters more than setting goals

05:53 The mindset shift that helps release resistance and limiting beliefs

07:30 A powerful handwriting exercise that reveals what truly matters

12:20 How to use OKRs and quarterly planning for your personal life

15:14 Daily questions that help you stay focused, present, and aligned

18:22 Why putting your life on the calendar changes everything

This episode is especially for high achievers, entrepreneurs, leaders, and growth-minded individuals who want success and presence. If you've ever thought, "I'll enjoy life later, once I hit the goal," this conversation is your wake-up call 😄.

Planning your life doesn't limit you, it frees you.

You're not behind. You're being invited to live with intention.

🎯 If this resonates, subscribe, share it with someone who looks successful on paper but feels disconnected inside, and check out The Great Life Experiment, a free 30-day journey designed to bring clarity, peace, and purpose into your everyday life.

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