Why do our teens keep messing up — and why do we sometimes lose our cool? 😫

In this episode, we dig into why mistakes are a normal part of adolescence — because teens are human just like us! We explore how their curiosity, need for independence, and brain development lead to errors, and why that’s actually healthy for their growth.

We also talk about how our reactions as parents can often be driven by stress and fear, and how taking a moment to pause and breathe can transform those moments into opportunities for connection and understanding.

Here are some highlights from the episode:
00:00 — A New Year Reframe: “Being” Something Instead of “Doing” Something

08:16 — “Why Does My Teen Keep Messing Up?”

09:09 — Why Parents Get So Worried When Kids Make Mistakes

10:16 — The Real Reason Parents Overreact

10:37 — Why Teens Mess Up More Often Than We Expect

10:40 — Reason 1: Kids Are Human Too

10:43 — Reason 2: Development Is Still in Progress

17:23 — Why Pushing Limits Is a Normal Part of Adolescence

17:35 — Why the Conclusions We Jump To Are Often Wrong

18:04 — Possibility A: Your Teen May Be Doing Something Developmentally Normal

18:12 — Possibility B: Putting the Behavior in Context

18:23 — Possibility C: The Behavior May Be a Reaction

18:56 — How Challenging Behaviors Can Reflect Positive Intentions

19:24 — Possibility D: When Behavior Signals a Skills’ Deficit

20:56 — Shifting the Lens: Choosing to Look for the Good

22:49 — Why Parents Are More Likely to Lose It

26:06 — How to Pause and Avoid Overreacting

27:33 — The Cost of Parenting From Anxiety

29:43 — “Staying Here”: A Powerful Parenting Mantra

31:18 — Book Recommendation: Eight Setbacks That Can Make a Child a Success

Join us as we share real stories, practical tips, and a fresh perspective on handling mistakes with curiosity rather than overreaction. Because when we see their missteps as part of normal development, we can stay calmer, more compassionate, and build stronger relationships.

🎧 Tune in now — because parenting teens doesn’t have to feel like a constant battle. Let’s navigate these tricky moments together, with patience and a little humor.

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