If it feels like every conversation with your teen turns into a debate… you’re not alone.

In this episode, Dr. Cam flips the script on what “talking back” really means. What if your teen’s arguing isn’t disrespect… but development? What if those debates are actually signs of growing critical thinking, identity formation, and moral reasoning?

You’ll learn why shutting down arguments with “because I said so” may create more power struggles, not fewer—and how to transform daily battles into opportunities to build confidence, connection, and real-life skills.

If you’re tired of feeling like the bad guy every time your teen pushes back, this episode will help you respond with clarity, authority, and calm—without losing your leadership.

• Why teen arguing is often a sign of healthy brain development—not defiance

• The hidden cost of “because I said so” parenting

• How to separate disagreement from disrespect

• The difference between debatable topics and non-negotiable boundaries

• Phrases that keep conversations open without giving up authority

• How healthy arguing prepares teens to resist peer pressure and advocate for themselves

This episode is part of the series:

“7 Teen Behaviors Parents Often Punish That Are Actually Signs of Healthy Development.”

Be sure to check out:

• Episode 269: Attitude, eye rolls, and tone as signs of developing nervous systems

• Episode 271: Why teens resist chores (missing skills vs. laziness)

• Upcoming: Acting selfish and entitled as healthy development

The COLLABORATE Method™ Parenting Program A step-by-step system for parents who are tired of constant power struggles and second-guessing themselves.

Inside, you’ll learn how to:

• Stay in charge without escalating

• Allow disagreements without losing authority

• Respond with clarity instead of reacting in frustration

Learn more at: https://www.askdrcam.com/collaboratemethod

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00:00 Introduction to Healthy Development Behaviors 01:18 Why Arguing Feels So Frustrating 03:56 Arguing as Executive Function Development 06:36 Teaching Respectful Disagreement 09:51 Debatable vs. Non-Negotiable Topics 12:09 The COLLABORATE Method™

The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth.

Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tools to make parenting teens easier—and more connected.

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Fighting with your teen about screens doesn’t mean you’re failing. It usually means you’re focusing on the wrong thing.

In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, I’m joined by Stephen Balkam, Founder and CEO of the Family Online Safety Institute, who brings 30 years of experience helping families navigate online safety without fear or power struggles.

We break down why traditional screen time rules backfire, why screen use matters more than minutes, and how parents can stay influential in a world where teens are using AI tools like ChatGPT and Claude for school, problem-solving, and decision-making.

If you want to protect your teen online without losing trust or connection, this episode will help you rethink your approach.

• The biggest screen time mistake parents make (and what works better)

• Why quality of screen use matters more than quantity

• How the “co-pilot” approach keeps you involved without controlling

• Why involving teens in rule-setting increases follow-through

• What parents need to know about AI and critical thinking

• Simple boundaries that protect both safety and connection

• Family Online Safety Institute: https://www.fosi.org

• Seven Steps to Good Digital Parenting

• Digital Parenting Contract Template

• FOSI YouTube Channel

AI tools discussed: ChatGPT, Claude Apps referenced: Pokémon Go, nature and star identification apps

Stephen Balkam is the Founder and CEO of the Family Online Safety Institute, a nonprofit working with major tech companies to make the online world safer for kids and families. He has been at the forefront of online safety for three decades and has witnessed the evolution from the early web to social media to today’s AI age.

Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam helps parents stay calm, connected, and confident while navigating the challenges of raising teens. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach.

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If you’ve asked your teen to do a chore and they responded like you just requested a kidney… welcome. 🫠

Because here’s the thing: the chore battle usually isn’t about the chore. It’s about what happens after you ask—the stalling, the eye rolls, the “in a minute,” the sudden deep commitment to scrolling, and you repeating yourself until your voice hits a pitch only dogs can hear.

In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, Dr. Cam breaks down the real reason chores blow up in so many homes—and why most of the common fixes (punishment, consequences, rewards, bribing, threatening, lecturing) often backfire long-term.

You’ll learn the simple shift that can turn chores from a power struggle into cooperation—without begging, nagging, or doing it all yourself—plus the one mistake that accidentally teaches teens to avoid chores (and you) even more.

If chores have become the hill your household dies on… this episode will change how you look at it—and what you do next.

This is Part 2 of the series: 7 Behaviors Parents Often Punish That Are Actually Signs of Healthy Development.

• Why “clean your room” can feel impossible to a teen brain (even when they want to do it)

• The hidden reason punishment makes chore resistance worse over time

• The mindset shift that gets teens to help without the constant reminders

• How to build responsibility in a way that doesn’t destroy your relationship

Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌

• Website: https://www.askdrcam.com

• The COLLABORATE Method™ Parenting Program – A step-by-step approach that helps you respond confidently to any teen struggle (chores, motivation, attitude, school stress, and more): https://www.askdrcam.com/collab

Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam

• Why chores trigger so many power struggles

• The surprising reason your teen avoids starting (even when it’s simple)

• The parenting response that quietly increases resistance

• The “nag-free” strategy that changes cooperation

• How to build responsibility without resentment

The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together.

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