Dinner can be a battlefield when disorganized attachment takes the lead. In this episode, the hosts explore The Bear, Season 2, Episode 6, "Fishes," breaking down the intense family dynamics and survival strategies at play. From Donna’s erratic cycles of connection and withdrawal to Carmi’s dismissive calm and Sugar’s anxious attempts to help, this episode is a masterclass in attachment theory. They also reflect on how the dinner table becomes a crucible for unresolved trauma and explore the broader implications of disorganized attachment for relationships and healing.

Whether you’re drawn to the chaos or find it overwhelming, this conversation offers profound insights into the ways attachment affects us all.

• 00:00 - Introduction
  Setting the stage for a deep dive into The Bear’s most intense episode.
• 02:15 - What’s “Fishes” About?
  Recap of Episode 6 and why it stands out in the series.
• 05:30 - Dinner Table Chaos and Binds
  The dynamics of disorganized attachment: Donna’s erratic behavior and its impact.
• 12:48 - Sugar’s Anxious Coping
  Sugar’s attempts to control the situation and seek safety through connection.
• 17:22 - Carmi’s Dismissive Strategies
  Carmi’s flat calm and avoidance as his way of managing family chaos.
• 22:10 - Donna’s Cycles of Connection and Withdrawal
  Examining Donna’s unpredictable behavior and the fear it evokes.
• 27:40 - Trauma Passed Down: Generational Attachment
  How attachment classifications are inherited and how families stay trapped in patterns.
• 32:05 - The Dinner Table as a Symbol of Survival
  The painful interplay of fear, love, and unresolved trauma at the family gathering.
• 38:18 - Healing is Possible
  Reflections on the hard but hopeful work of breaking generational cycles.
• 42:00 - Wrapping Up and Looking Ahead
  Closing thoughts and a preview of the next episode.