Episode 11 — The Value of Your Spouse

Tommy & Kayla dive into the biblical and practical importance of recognizing the true worth of your spouse. From the meaning of “help meet” to the differences in how men and women connect, this episode will help you restore honor, empathy, and unity in your marriage.

Topics covered: • Understanding your spouse’s God-given design • The Stradivarius violin illustration — and why value changes behavior • Why frustration grows when value decreases • Generational blessings that begin with healthy marriages • The role of headship, nourishment, and unity (Col. 2:19) • How connection differs for men vs. women — and why it matters • Practical steps to reconnect and cherish one another

Includes this week’s Build the Momentum Challenge: Ask each other, “What originally drew you to me?” and discuss those strengths.

A must-listen for couples who want to grow closer, communicate better, and pursue God’s purpose together.

In this episode of the Marriage Momentum Podcast, Tommy and Kayla Berridge continue their conversation about building a strong foundation for both your marriage and your finances. They start with the essential tool of purpose—the driving force behind everything that helps you succeed in life. Purpose helps unlock your motivation, and when you align it with your marriage, it strengthens your financial decisions. The couple shares how discipline plays a key role in success, emphasizing that it’s not about the amount of money you make but how you steward what you have. They also discuss how setting goals together can bring clarity and direction, and why comparison can steal your joy and derail your purpose.

They also explore practical financial tools like budgeting and goal-setting that help set a solid foundation for your future. Tune in for inspiring stories, practical advice, and a heart to help you move forward in your marriage and finances.

Key Takeaways:

• • Find your purpose to unlock your motivation in marriage and finances.
  • Discipline is empowered by purpose and is crucial for long-term success.
  • Setting achievable goals together as a couple can create unity and direction.
  • Avoid comparison and stay focused on what matters for your life and marriage.
    

  Budgeting, saving, and managing money with discipline will lead to greater financial freedom.

In this episode, we dive deep into the intersection of money and marriage, unpacking the challenges and dynamics couples often face. From spender vs. saver mentalities to differing upbringings, financial harmony in marriage requires intentionality. We explore how building a biblical foundation on finances can help couples align their priorities, emphasizing that money is a tool, not the root of self-worth.

Key topics include:

• The biblical perspective on money and abundance, highlighting trust in God’s provision.
• Tithing as an act of faith and stewardship, recognizing all resources as God’s.
• Shifting from a poverty mindset to an abundance mindset to unlock blessings.
• The importance of transparency, shared bank accounts, and unity in financial decisions.
• How trust in God and your spouse fosters unity, enabling couples to achieve goals together.

With practical advice and spiritual insights, we aim to equip listeners to manage money effectively while strengthening their marriage. Join us for a transformative discussion that will inspire you to live abundantly, not just materially but in every aspect of life.

In this episode of the Marriage Momentum Podcast, Tommy and Kayla wrap up the three-part series on "Love and Respect," inspired by Emerson Eggerichs' book. They emphasizes the importance of truly seeing and valuing your partner in everyday life, not just during special occasions. Kayla discusses how men can show love by being present and attentive, especially during mundane moments, and how this can strengthen the emotional connection in a marriage ([02:58]).
The couple highlights the unique emotional needs of women, explaining that they often seek validation and appreciation for their daily efforts, rather than material gifts ([06:30]). Tommy and Kayla also address the common communication pitfalls in relationships, urging couples to engage in meaningful conversations rather than just talking at each other ([10:23]).
The episode touches on the significance of emotional safety and the power of vulnerability in building a strong bond ([12:59]). The team share personal anecdotes to illustrate how small, intentional acts of love can create lasting connections ([18:56]).
Listeners are encouraged to pursue their partner's dreams and to cherish them as priceless treasures, fostering a nurturing environment where both partners feel valued and understood ([27:33]). Tune in for practical tools to enhance your marriage and build momentum in your relationship!

In this episode, Tommy and Kayla dive back into the topic of Love and Respect and the "crazy cycle." Building on episode six's discussion, they continue talking about practical tools couples can use to address the challenge of the crazy cycle.

This episode focuses on the importance of respect and understanding within marriages and highlights how men often seek affirmation through accomplishments and leadership, while women crave emotional connection. Tommy and Kayla discuss the significance of recognizing and appreciating each other's efforts, using simple acts of gratitude and admiration to strengthen the relationship. They also caution against criticism, as it can be destructive to both husband and wife.

Listeners are encouraged to reflect on how they can better show respect and love in their own relationships.

In this episode, Tommy and Kayla explore the dynamics of marriage through the lens of Ephesians 5:33, which calls husbands to love their wives and wives to respect their husbands. We began with a vivid story of a husband who meticulously planned an anniversary dinner, only for the evening to spiral into chaos due to unmet expectations and miscommunication. This story illustrated the "crazy cycle" described by Emerson Eggerichs, where a man's feeling of disrespect leads him to withhold love, and a woman's feeling of being unloved leads her to withhold respect. This cycle perpetuates conflict and bitterness in many marriages.
We discussed how men and women perceive situations differently, often through "blue" and "pink" glasses, respectively. This difference in perspective can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts, as each partner feels their needs are not being met. The key to breaking this cycle lies in understanding and addressing these core needs: men need respect, and women need love.
We also delved into the Greek word "agapeo," which signifies unconditional love in action. This form of love, as commanded in Ephesians, does not depend on whether the other person deserves it. Similarly, respect should be given unconditionally. This principle challenges the societal norm of following one's feelings, emphasizing instead the importance of intentional, selfless actions in marriage.
Finally, we touched on the importance of breaking the crazy cycle by being the first to act with love or respect, even when it feels undeserved. This proactive approach can transform the atmosphere of a home, fostering a cycle of positive reinforcement and deeper connection.

In this episode of the Marriage Momentum Podcast, Kayla and Tommy dive deep into the topic of significance and how it shapes our relationships and self-worth. They share personal stories and insights on finding security in Christ and seeing ourselves through God's eyes. Kayla recounts a touching childhood memory that taught her to pray for God's perspective on her identity [02:14]. They also discuss the importance of overcoming negative self-perceptions and embracing the unique qualities God has given us [11:38]. The episode wraps up with practical advice on how to have meaningful conversations with your spouse about these topics and a fun game segment to lighten the mood [32:58]. Join us for an episode filled with wisdom, vulnerability, and encouragement to thrive in your God-given significance.

In this month's episode, Tommy and Kayla delve into the importance of communication in relationships, particularly in marriage. They explore four specific Bible verses that emphasize the power and importance of communication and the science behind healthy communication in relationships. Lastly, they tackle the three main needs people have when they communicate with their spouse and how different personalities can affect communication.