欢迎参加2026年的家庭系统排列工作坊：
📩 报名链接：https://hipsy.nl/meeei

过去几个星期，我的左手还在非常缓慢而艰难的康复中。每天真正能工作的时间只有三四个小时。但正是在这样的限制里，我认真地问了自己：
如果今年只能做好一件事，我会选择什么？

这一集，我想和你分享这个答案背后的思考：
🔸 在身体和时间受限时，我如何选择去做好一件事？
🔸 《The 12 Week Year》/《12周做完一年工作》这本书的时间管理方法，如何帮助我制定12周计划，并轻松规划我的时间？
🔸 得到创始人罗振宇老师给我的启发：关于长期主义和“做时间的朋友”
🔸 从女儿身上学到的微习惯，如何激励我每天坚持学五分钟法语

希望这集播客能邀请你：找到一小块土壤，种下一颗你真心想种的种子，然后温柔而坚定地，等它成长。

就像罗老师说的：做时间的朋友，不是要和时间赛跑，而是要理解时间的节奏，然后在它的节奏里，做自己能做的事。

愿你在未来的日子里，能把一点点时间投入到那件让你感到无比喜悦的小事中。🌿

🌱 带时间轴的章节：

01:23 身体的限制，给我的礼物
每天被迫停下来八次，与身体深度连接。当进度只能以毫米计算，我学会了另一种节奏。

04:47 做好自己，就是最好的土壤
播客对我而言，不是内容创作，而是一种陪伴。而陪伴的前提，是先把自己照顾好。

07:13 《12周做完一年工作》的核心哲学
为什么年度计划常常落空？把一年拆成几个12周，让未来变成现在可行动的单元。

09:39 罗振宇的长期主义启发
“不是坚持做一件大事，而是把一件小事放到时间的河流里，让它自然地成长。”

12:04 从女儿身上学到的微习惯
每天10分钟西班牙语，半年后她可以流利对话。我也加入了她们——现在每天睡前学5分钟法语。

14:24 每周反思：让计划真正落地
不是检讨自己哪里不够好，而是温柔地问：这一周我做对了什么？下周如何微调？

15:48 给你的三个邀请
三个问题，帮你找到属于你的那件小事。

📚 本期提到的书

• 《The 12 Week Year》｜Brian P. Moran

Over the past few weeks, my left hand has been recovering slowly and steadily. I can only truly work about three to four hours a day. Yet, it is within this limitation that I asked myself with full honesty:

If I could only do one thing well this year, what would I choose?

In this episode, I'd like to share with you the thoughts behind my answer:

🔸 How do I choose what to focus on when my body and time are both limited?
🔸 How did The 12 Week Year help me create a 12-week plan and organize my time with ease?
🔸 What I learned from Luo Zhenyu, founder of Dedao, about long-term thinking and becoming "a friend of time"
🔸 How the micro habit I observed in my daughter inspired me to practice French for five minutes every day

I hope this episode invites you to: find a small patch of soil, plant a seed you truly care about, and wait for it to grow — gently and steadily.

As Luo Zhenyu says: Being a friend of time does not mean racing against it. It means understanding its rhythm and doing what you can within it.

May you, in the days ahead, be able to give a little bit of time to that one small thing that brings you great joy. 🌿

欢迎参加2026年的家庭系统排列工作坊：
📩 报名链接：https://hipsy.nl/meeei

在这一集播客中，我想邀请你一起，走近一个很多父母都在经历、却很少被真正理解的主题：
当爱变成控制，为什么那么多妈妈会忍不住“微管理”孩子？

在多年陪伴家庭、尤其是青春期孩子家庭的过程中，我一次又一次地看到：
很多控制，并不是因为父母想要控制，而是因为内心深处的害怕与不安。

在这一集中，我将与你分享：

• 什么是父母“微管理”，以及它背后真正的心理动因
• 为什么指责父母，往往无法带来真正的改变
• 一个重要的转变视角：从评判父母，到理解他们的经历
• 我作为母亲的真实经历：当爱不自觉地变成控制
• 为什么真正的改变，始于父母对自己的接纳与慈悲
• 当母亲开始松开恐惧，孩子如何重新找到力量与方向

这一集，不是教你“怎么做更好的父母”，
而是邀请你，带着更多温柔，回到自己。

因为孩子真正需要的，从来不是完美的父母，
而是更松弛、更自由、更真实的爱。

Chapters

00:00 父母微管理的心理根源

05:06 控制与恐惧的关系

09:55 爱的力量与自我接纳

14:47 改变的开始与父母的责任

In this episode, I invite you to slow down and gently explore a question many parents live with, yet rarely feel truly understood in:
When love turns into control — why do so many mothers end up micromanaging their children?

Through years of working with families, especially those with teenagers, I’ve seen again and again that control is often not about power — but about fear.

In this episode, I share:

• What parental micromanagement really is and where it comes from
• Why blaming parents rarely leads to real change
• A shift in perspective: from judging parents to understanding their stories
• My own experience as a mother whose love once turned into control
• Why true change begins with self-acceptance and compassion
• How children regain strength when parents soften their grip

This episode is not about becoming a “better” parent.
It’s an invitation to return to yourself with more gentleness.

Because what children need most is not perfection,
but a freer, more relaxed, and more loving presence.

欢迎参加2026年的家庭系统排列工作坊：
📩 报名链接：https://hipsy.nl/meeei

在这一集播客中，我邀请你一起放慢脚步，回到一个许多父母都会反复思考、却很少真正停下来感受的问题：
作为父母，我们究竟能给孩子最珍贵的礼物是什么？

在多年陪伴家庭、尤其是青春期孩子家庭的过程中，我一次又一次地看到：
真正让关系发生改变的，往往并不是更多的方法、技巧或控制，而是父母是否愿意回到自己，回到内在，回到关系本身。

在这一集中，我将与你分享：

• 为什么很多家庭在青春期阶段，会陷入冲突、对抗与疏离
• 一个重要的视角转变：当父母停止“改变孩子”，真正的改变才开始发生
• “面纱”的隐喻：我们如何常常透过自己未被疗愈的经历在看孩子
• 父母自我疗愈，如何自然地改变看待孩子的方式
• 一个关于夫妻关系的核心发现：夫妻之间的连接，是孩子最重要的“隐形教材”
• 一个非常温和、却极具力量的练习：祝福
  • 祝福与期待的关键区别
  • 为什么真正的祝福是“给力的”，而期待往往是“施压的”
  • 如何从内在开始，祝福伴侣，而不要求对方改变

这一集不仅是关于亲子关系的播客，也是一集关于父母如何活出真实、完整人生的分享。

In this episode, I invite you to slow down and gently explore a question many parents carry in their hearts, yet rarely have the space to truly feel:
What is the most precious gift parents can give their children?

Through years of working with families, especially those navigating adolescence, I have seen again and again that lasting change rarely comes from more techniques, control, or “doing better.”
Instead, transformation begins when parents are willing to return to themselves and to the quality of their relationships.

In this episode, I share:

• Why so many families experience conflict, distance, and power struggles during adolescence
• A crucial shift in perspective: when parents stop trying to change their child, change often begins
• The metaphor of the “veil”: how our own unresolved experiences shape how we see our children
• How self-healing in parents naturally transforms the parent-child relationship
• A key insight about intimate relationships: the connection between parents is the most powerful, yet often invisible, lesson for children
• A gentle but deeply impactful practice: blessing
  • The difference between blessing and expectation
  • Why true blessings are empowering, while expectations often create pressure
  • How parents can bless their partner from within, without needing the other to change

This episode is not only about parenting, but about how parents live their own lives.