If your marriage feels like it’s stuck in the same emotional loops—arguments that never fully resolve, closeness followed by distance, or a loneliness you can feel even when you’re together

—this episode is for you. In this conversation, we talk about what CPTSD can look like inside a marriage, especially when one or both partners grew up in environments that felt unsafe, unpredictable, or emotionally neglectful. Not in a clinical or diagnostic way—but through real-life patterns that quietly shape connection, conflict, and communication.

We explore why traditional relationship advice often falls short when nervous systems are dysregulated, and how repeated stress or trauma can make even loving relationships feel fragile and exhausting. Most importantly, this episode focuses on what actually helps.

You’ll learn why safety has to come before strategy, why regulation matters more than “saying it right,” and how to stop carrying all the emotional weight by yourself. This isn’t about blame or labels—it’s about understanding what’s really happening so you can respond with clarity, steadiness, and self-respect. If you’ve been thinking, “I see the patterns… now what?”—this conversation will help you take the next step.

Watch full episode: What CPTSD Looks Like in Marriage (and What to Do About It)

If you’ve ever thought, “I wasn’t attacking him… so why did he react like that?”—this episode is for you. For years, I missed the signs in my own marriage. And so did the women I now work with. We thought we were dealing with communication problems, personality differences, or stress. But underneath the defensiveness, the distance, and the constant feeling of walking on eggshells, something deeper was quietly shaping the relationship.

In this episode, I share 7 signs my clients and I missed that indicated trauma may have been behind the issues we were facing. Not the obvious signs—these are the subtle patterns that slowly wear you down and leave you questioning yourself. We’ll talk about why trauma doesn’t stay in the past, how it shows up in everyday interactions, and why trying harder often leads to more exhaustion instead of connection. This isn’t about blame or diagnosis. It’s about naming what’s really happening so you can stop carrying all the weight alone and begin moving forward with clarity, compassion, and hope.

Watch full clip: Why Does He Get So Defensive Over Small Things?

Miscommunication isn’t just about words—it’s about nervous systems. In this episode, Lisa explains the 7 Life Languages and how trauma can push us into shutdown, conflict, or emotional overload in our closest relationships.

Watch full episode: How Trauma Shapes Talks: Thinker, Feeler, Fixer?