Filipino-Australian singer-songwriter daine joins Dylan Alcott and Angus O'Loughlin for a conversation that is equal parts funny, raw, and genuinely important. daine lives with Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS), POTS, and autism and did not know she was disabled until she was 18. By that point she had already been dismissed by multiple neurologists and cardiologists who told her the chronic pain stopping her from climbing the stairs at school was "just anxiety."

She is now preparing to drop her debut album and performing at Ability Fest for the second time. This episode covers late diagnosis, medical gaslighting, spoon theory, invisible illness, the suicide statistics for autistic women that daine thinks about every day, and why she believes being deeply, intensely autistic makes her a better songwriter.

If you or someone you know is struggling with mental health, please reach out to Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636.

Ability Fest and what it actually means to be inclusivedaine has attended and performed at Ability Fest before and is back on the lineup for 2026. Dylan explains what the festival really is: not a festival for disabled people, but a fully accessible event where everyone can party together. Platforms, pathways, Auslan interpreters, sensory rooms, live captioning, and 100% of proceeds going to the Dylan Alcott Foundation. As Angus puts it, the real point is giving six able-bodied friends the chance to finally share a night out with the one person who could never get through the door before.

Get your tickets here: https://megatix.com.au/events/ability-fest-2026

daine is a Filipino-Australian singer, songwriter, and producer living with Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, POTS, and autism. She is currently finishing her debut album and performing at Ability Fest 2026.

Follow daine: https://www.instagram.com/d4ine/

• 00:00 Cold open: doctors, stairs, and the diagnosis nobody saw coming
• 02:39 Ability Fest: what it is, why it matters, and daine returning to the lineup
• 04:24 A month in LA and the debut album
• 07:09 Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome: what it is and why it takes ten years to diagnose
• 09:25 The hosepipe analogy: EDS, POTS, and circulation explained
• 10:38 Growing up without a diagnosis and medical gaslighting
• 12:31 Dynamic disability and passing as non-disabled
• 14:27 Good days vs survival days: spoon theory explained
• 16:52 How disability affects the creative process and studio sessions
• 18:13 Why autism is daine's creative superpower
• 19:54 Getting the autism diagnosis at 18 and what it meant
• 21:08 Social battery, sensory overload, and the right kind of socialising
• 23:12 Navigating the music industry with an invisible disability
• 24:34 What a sustainable career looks like
• 25:04 Autistic suicide risk and why visibility matters
• 27:16 Making shows more accessible as an independent artist
• 29:07 Best gig stories: first LA headline and Laneway 2019 in the rain with Charli XCX
• 31:25 Spicy listener questions

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In this episode of ListenABLE, Angus sits down with Spencer Connelly for a conversation that is confronting, inspiring and incredibly human.

Spencer shares his lived experience after surviving a traumatic fire as a child, spending months in hospital, and learning to navigate the world with visible scars and amputations. He reflects on memory, trauma, recovery, self-image, the complexity of forgiveness, and why he now sees his scars as signs of strength rather than weakness.

The conversation also explores disability identity, facial difference, confidence in public, representation in film, and Spencer’s growing dream of building a career in acting. That dream has already taken shape, with Spencer landing a speaking role in Furiosa: A Mad Max Saga, and he has publicly credited the KIDS Foundation with helping build his confidence after his injuries.

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Key Topics:

• surviving severe childhood burns

• trauma and memory

• hospital recovery and rehabilitation

• living with facial difference

• disability identity

• scars and self-acceptance

• therapy and healing

• public perception and staring

• confidence and resilience

• acting, representation and Furiosa

  
  

The Story:

00:00 Childhood trauma and the memory that stayed
01:00 Spencer’s story and entering the disability community
05:45 Living with disability and visible difference
07:20 Recovery, surgeries and life after hospital
11:10 Returning to school after trauma
14:50 The truth about what happened
17:40 Differently abled, disability and identity
19:00 Staring, confidence and moving through the world
20:40 Looking in the mirror after trauma
23:15 Forgiveness, healing and moving forward
27:20 Acting dreams and losing one career path
28:20 Meeting Sean Millis and working on Furiosa
35:30 Facial difference and representation in film
37:50 Halloween, scars and public perception
40:10 The bowl of uncomfortable
44:25 Life from here and what’s next

When Joshua Ruff’s heart stopped for three minutes, everything changed.

Living with Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy (DMD) since childhood, Joshua had already navigated a lifetime of disability, adaptation, and resilience. But in 2020, a sudden cardiac arrest during the early days of COVID forced him into a profound reckoning with mortality, fear, and what actually matters.

Unable to speak and communicating only through his eyes, Joshua was told he might never return home. Instead, that moment became the catalyst for a new way of living. One centred on human connection, creative purpose, and letting go of fear.

In this powerful conversation, Joshua shares how surviving cardiac arrest reshaped his outlook on life, relationships, and ambition. He opens up about growing up with DMD, the emotional toll of teenage years, and the quiet pressure to always appear positive as a wheelchair user. We explore how gardening became both therapy and vocation, leading to the creation of Henle Gardens, a lavender farm producing oil, products, and community experiences.

This episode is about disability, yes. But more than that, it is about meaning, independence, love, and choosing to live fully without apology.

Key Topics Covered

• Surviving a cardiac arrest and communicating only through eye movement

• Living with Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy and challenging early life expectancy narratives

• Letting go of fear after facing death

• Gardening as purpose, therapy, and business

• Building an accessible lavender farm and producing lavender oil

• Independence, support systems, and redefining success

• Why people with disability are elite problem solvers

• Relationships, self-worth, and rejecting the idea of being a burden

• Positivity, grief, and the danger of masking emotions

  
  

  Notable Moments

• “The most important thing is human connection. Everything else doesn’t matter.”

• “My heart stopped for three minutes, and somehow that freed me.”

• “I didn’t believe I deserved a relationship. That belief almost cost me one.”

• “People with disability are the best problem solvers because life never gives us the easy path.”

• “Independence for me is choice, not doing everything alone.”

About Joshua Ruff

Joshua Ruff is a gardener, lavender producer, and founder of Henle Gardens in regional Victoria. Living with Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy, Joshua has transformed personal adversity into creative expression, community connection, and entrepreneurship.

After surviving cardiac arrest in 2020, he committed to building a life driven by purpose rather than fear. Today, his lavender farm produces oil, dried lavender products, and hosts garden visits, festivals, and community groups, proving that accessibility and beauty are not mutually exclusive.