Ever look at your life and think, “Everything is working… but I don’t feel good”?
That’s not failure — it’s misalignment. Let’s fix it fast.

In this episode of Just Human, Jay Boykin talks with Nell Derick Debevoise Dewey (Nell3D), author of Going First, about how high performers can feel empty even with the title, money, and momentum. Nell shares her powerful story (including a wake-up-call car crash) and introduces a simple framework to diagnose what’s off — without blowing up your whole life.

You’ll learn Nell’s Lead in 3D model (ME / WE / WORLD) and how it connects to purpose, wellbeing, relationships, and integrity. Then she breaks down her systematic subtraction approach: Stop, Drop, Roll — a practical way to create capacity, reclaim autonomy, and rebuild energy in a nonstop world.

If this helped you, like, subscribe, and comment: Which dimension is lowest for you — ME, WE, or WORLD?


CONNECT WITH NELL 3D
SUBSTACK: https://nell3d.substack.com/guestpass
LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nell3d/
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What do you do with an idea when you don’t feel ready?
What do you do when the only honest words are: “I’m trying”?

In this episode of Just Human, Jay Boykin sits down with #1 New York Times bestselling author Kobi Yamada (President & CEO of Compendium Inc.) to talk about why his books look like children’s books… but land in a much deeper place for adults. If you’re building a business, leading a team, or wrestling with self-doubt, this conversation will hit you right in the chest—in the best way.

Kobi shares how picture books can speak to both kids and adults, why our inner critic makes problems feel like identity threats, and how fear quietly blocks creativity, chances, and momentum. He also breaks down the role of mentorship, the power of leaving “space” for the reader, and why creativity is birthed in boredom—something modern scrolling is stealing from us.

👍 If this helped you, like, subscribe, and comment: Idea / Problem / Chance / Trying — which one are you living right now?

Connect with Kobi Yamada

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stories/livethegoodstuff/

Shop: https://live-inspired.com/

Kobi Yamada | Penguin Random House
https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/authors/2338428/kobi-yamada/


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Most leaders think leadership means being first: first to speak, first to decide, first to act.
But what if the move that changes your culture isn’t being louder… it’s being later?

In this episode of Just Human, Jay Boykin sits down with U.S. Marine Corps Major Olaolu Ogunyemi, author of Lead Last, to unpack a leadership philosophy that flips the script: “He who leads last leads best.”

You’ll hear how Olaolu learned leadership through real-world responsibility—walking into his first role in charge of 80 Marines—and why humility is often the missing ingredient in high-performing teams. We dive into why self-awareness for leaders is the starting point, how to build trust like an emotional bank account, and the most common “withdrawals” leaders make without realizing it—like not listening.

We also explore the difference between a well-intended open door policy and why it can fail in practice, plus what it really takes to mentor emerging leaders, prepare the next generation, and leave a legacy that’s bigger than a title.

If you lead people (or want to), this conversation will challenge you—in the best way.

Connect with Olaolu Ogunyemi
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/olaolu.ogunyemi/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/olaolu-ogunyemi-465ba453/
Website: https://parent-child-connect.com/

In this episode of Just Human, Jay Boykin sits down with Dr. Robin Buckley (author of Marriage, Inc.) to break down a powerful truth: planning doesn’t kill spontaneity — it protects it. When couples stop running on autopilot, they stop having the same fight every month and start building real connection again.

You’ll learn practical relationship tools busy couples can use immediately, including:

- The daily check-in that deepens connection in 5–10 minutes
- Why “they should just know” is a romantic myth that destroys communication
- How to use a safe word + a simple SOP to stop conflict spirals
- What amygdala hijack looks like—and how to get back to calm, logical thinking
- Why couples become “roommates” (and how to reverse it)
- The 5 types of intimacy and how to build a “menu” of connection
- How to use active listening so people feel heard (not argued with)

If you want your relationship to feel less reactive and more intentional, start with ONE thing: try the daily check-in this week and notice what shifts.

🔔 Subscribe for more conversations on leadership, personal growth, and the practical human stuff that makes life work.

CONNECT with Dr. Robin Buckley
INSTAGRAM @drrobinbuckley
LINKEDIN @dr-robin-buckley
YOUTUBE @DrRobinBuckley
TIKTOK @drrobinbuckley
WEBSITE https://drrobinbuckley.com/

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Have you ever worked for someone who knew your numbers… but didn’t know you?

They knew your deadlines, KPIs, and calendar — but not what it cost you to keep producing. And at some point, you stop feeling supported and start feeling watched.

In this episode of Just Human, Jay Boykin sits down with John R. Miles (author of Passion Struck) to unpack the difference between being managed and being seen accurately — and why “mattering” is the foundation of performance, loyalty, and psychological safety at work.

You’ll learn:

• Why micromanagement vs leadership feels so different in the body
• How performance culture quietly erodes self-worth and work performance
• What it means to build “self-mattering” before you can feel seen by others
• Why frontline managers are the hidden engine of engagement (or disengagement)
• A practical leadership shift: “eyes on, hands off” + commander’s intent
• How great workplaces connect roles to mission so people feel valued — not measured

If you’re a leader, founder, or manager who wants high performance without grinding people down — this conversation will change how you run 1:1s, how you give feedback, and how you build culture people don’t want to leave.

💡 One takeaway to try this week: start noticing the “yellow doors” — the small moments where a micro-choice can increase trust, connection, and energy on your team.

👉 Learn more about Jay’s work: www.jayboykin.com
📘 Learn more about John: John R. Miles | Official Website of the Award-Winning Author

#leadership #micromanagement #employeeengagement #workplaceculture #psychologicalsafety #leadershipdevelopment #highperformers #burnout #trust #purpose #management #communication #justhuman #passionstruck

Ever “listened” so well you deserved a trophy… and still got in trouble?
Let’s fix that with 6 simple listening practices that work at home and at work.

Most of us confuse hearing with listening. Hearing is audio. Listening is connection. And when listening breaks down, relationships get tense, distance grows, and at work you get the same messy conversations on repeat—plus rework, resentment, and escalation.

In this episode of Just Human, Jay Boykin shares practical, repeatable listening skills you can use immediately—no therapy speak, no fluff. You’ll learn how to make people feel accurately understood, reduce conflict, and create clarity that actually moves things forward.

Timestamps / Key Takeaways

• 0:01 Why “hearing” isn’t listening
• 7:20 The office bridge: how bad listening creates rework
• 9:05 #1 Comfort vs solutions (what do they need?)
• 12:12 #2 Mirror the last 3–5 words
• 15:50 #3 Name the emotion (validation ≠ agreement)
• 17:31 #4 “What did I miss?” summary
• 19:44 #5 Ask one deepening question
• 21:02 #6 Close the loop with action
• 26:09 Bonus: the phone-down pro tip

If this helped, subscribe, hit like, and comment: Which one practice are you running for 7 days?

#listening #activelistening #communicationskills #relationships #marriageadvice #conflictresolution #leadership #workplacecommunication #emotionalintelligence #personalgrowth #psychologicalsafety #productivity #betterrelationships #selfimprovement #justhuman

Pressure doesn’t build character — it reveals your patterns. And if you don’t know your patterns, you’ll repeat them… and call it a “leadership style.”

In this episode of Just Human, Jay Boykin breaks down self-awareness as a leadership advantage — not as a soft idea, but as a practical skill that protects your decision-making under stress, builds trust, reduces workplace drama, and improves psychological safety so your team performs faster and more confidently.

🔥 Key takeaway: Your team can handle high expectations. What they can’t handle is unpredictability.

Try this today:
Write one sentence: “When I feel ___, I will ___.”
That tiny adjustment can change how people experience your leadership.

Subscribe for more conversations on leadership, personal growth, and the practical + human stuff.

Leave a review — it helps more people find the show.

And share this episode with one leader who wants to get better, not just get results.

Sponsor / Programs mentioned:
Aligned Impact Financial Leadership Program — https://www.jayboykin.com/start

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Most New Year’s resolutions collapse by the end of January—and it’s not because you’re weak. It’s because resolutions have no structure. In this Just Human episode, Jay Boykin breaks down the difference between a resolution, a goal, and a system, and teaches a practical Goals → Systems framework that helps business owners and corporate professionals build habits that survive real life (even when your calendar gets full).

You’ll learn why “get healthier” and “be more productive” fail when they stay vague, why perfection is a terrible strategy for consistency, and how to build simple systems with a schedule, trigger, tracking, and accountability. Jay also shares the mindset shift that makes progress inevitable: Goals tell you where you’re going. Systems tell you what you do this week.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The 4 reasons New Year’s resolutions fail (vague, all-or-nothing, identity-free, system-less)
• The simple definitions of resolution vs goal vs system
• The 5-step Goals → Systems method:
  1. Pick one meaningful outcome
  2. Convert outcomes into process goals (inputs)
  3. Build the system (cadence + trigger + minimum standard)
  4. Track inputs with a simple scorecard
  5. Do a weekly review (the CEO move)
• How to handle common obstacles: “I don’t have time,” “I fell off,” “I need motivation”
• The rule that keeps you consistent all year: Never miss twice

Best quotes:

• “A resolution is an intention. A goal is a target. A system is the bridge.”
• “Your minimum standard keeps you in the game when life gets loud.”
• “Motivation comes and goes. Design stays.”

If you’re serious about better habits, better leadership, and better business results in 2026, don’t chase hype—build a rhythm.

✅ Action step: Write one goal and one system that makes it real. Pick your minimum standard, and schedule a 15-minute weekly review.

Subscribe for weekly episodes on business, leadership, and personal growth—and share this with someone who needs a reset that actually sticks.

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