In this episode, I’m on my own.

Solo episodes are different. Harder. There’s nowhere to hide when there’s no guest sitting across from you.

This one sits inside resentment, projection, and accountability — not as theory, but as lived history.

I speak about Pam, my former mother-in-law, and a period of my life where I was reactive, resentful, and convinced someone else was the problem. Messages were sent. Blame was projected. Stories were told — and believed.

And then came the moment that this podcast is named after:
Where I thought it was her.
Oh fuck — it’s me.

We sit inside what it costs to hold a story for decades.
The bar stool version of 1982 that never ends.
The righteousness of being wronged.
The protection of staying the victim.

Not to fix it.
Not to rewrite it.
But to notice how strong the pull is to look out instead of in.

Amy’s message from the previous episode was simple:
The next time you think about judging somebody, stop — and ask yourself why.

This episode sits inside that.

Where do I still judge?
Where do I still protect?
Where do I still tell stories that keep me safe but disconnected?

We move through social media envy.
Engagement frustration.
Expectation inside relationships.
Even a recent engagement and the quiet tension between authenticity and performance.

What does it cost to wear the mask?
What does it cost to remove it?

We don’t land it neatly.
We don’t resolve it.
We leave it where it actually lives — inside the tension between awareness and embodiment.

The message left for the next guest is this:

What is the cost of being fully accountable to yourself — and fully authentic?
And how does that cost you in your life?

It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME — In Session with a Psychotherapist
is a podcast about relationships, self-avoidance, and the shit we pretend isn’t us.

Hosted by Chad Taylor, psychotherapist and author of
It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME.

No tips.
No fixing.
Just honest conversations.

You can find my book here- https://chadtaylorpsychotherapy.com.au/book-sales

Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/chadtaylor.itsyou/?hl=en

Email- chadtaylorpsychotherapy@gmail.com

In this episode, I’m joined by Amy.

Amy had read It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME and reached out to sit in a conversation. It’s her first time on a podcast, and we don’t make a story out of that. We stay with what’s actually there.

We sit inside judgment — not as a concept, but as a lived pattern that shows up automatically, often before it’s noticed.

We talk about how judgment starts early.
Learned in families.
Normalised as personality.
Used as protection.

And how it quietly follows us into adult life — into relationships, work, parenting, and intimacy — especially with the people we feel safest with.

We stay with what it’s like to catch yourself after the judgment has already happened.
Mid-thought.
Mid-reaction.
And to feel the discomfort of seeing it without immediately defending it, justifying it, or turning it into someone else’s fault.

This isn’t a conversation about stopping judgment.
It’s about noticing the cost.

The cost of distance.
The cost of righteousness.
The cost of staying protected instead of present.

We don’t clean it up.
We don’t resolve it.
We leave it where it actually lives.

The episode ends with something left for the next guest to carry forward:
The next time you think about judging somebody, stop, turn it around and ask yourself that question. Why am I about to judge them? That's it.

It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME — In Session with a Psychotherapist
is a podcast about relationships, self-avoidance, and the shit we pretend isn’t us.

Hosted by Chad Taylor, psychotherapist and author of
It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME.

No tips.
No fixing.
Just honest conversations.

You can find my book here- https://chadtaylorpsychotherapy.com.au/book-sales

Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/chadtaylor.itsyou/?hl=en

Email- chadtaylorpsychotherapy@gmail.com

In this episode, I’m joined by my partner, Sophie.

We sit inside mirroring, masking, and perfectionism — not as ideas or frameworks, but as lived patterns playing out in real time.

We talk about how mirroring starts early: fitting in, staying safe, learning how to belong. And how those same strategies quietly follow us into adult relationships, work, intimacy, and even the way we “do the work.”

Not to fix it.
Not to resolve it.
But to notice the cost.

The cost of staying palatable.
The cost of hiding emotions.
The cost of rejecting parts of yourself before anyone else gets the chance.

We don’t land a takeaway.
We leave it where it actually lives — inside the tension of seeing a pattern and still feeling pulled to repeat it.

The episode ends without answers, but with a question worth sitting in.

It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME — In Session with a Psychotherapist
is a podcast about relationships, self-avoidance, and the shit we pretend isn’t us.

Hosted by Chad Taylor, psychotherapist and author of
It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME.

No tips.
No fixing.
Just honest conversations.

Sophie is a Therapist and can be found at www.thewolfyoufeed.com

You can find my book here- https://chadtaylorpsychotherapy.com.au/book-sales

Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/chadtaylor.itsyou/?hl=en

Email- chadtaylorpsychotherapy@gmail.com

This is the first episode, and I want to be clear from the start.

This isn’t self-help.
It’s not advice.
And it’s definitely not about fixing yourself so you can be more tolerable in relationships.

I’m introducing why this podcast exists, why I wrote It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME, and why I’m done with the performance of “doing the work” while nothing actually changes.

I explain the structure going forward:

• Solo episodes where I speak honestly about addiction, self-avoidance, unconsciousness and my own patterns of repeated behaviours
• Conversations with other therapists who aren’t interested in teaching, just in being vulnerable and honest
• Real sessions with readers and clients, sitting in the middle of what’s actually happening for them — not the polished version

This podcast is about the moments we usually rush past.
The discomfort we rename as growth.
And the ways we keep choosing the same outcomes while blaming different people.

No tips.
No transformation tricks.
No neat ending.

Just a place to stop lying to yourself.

You can find my book here- https://chadtaylorpsychotherapy.com.au/book-sales

Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/chadtaylor.itsyou/?hl=en

Email- chadtaylorpsychotherapy@gmail.com